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opposingtwilight -> I'm a whistle blower. (7/28/2008 6:17:26 AM)

Currently I am self-employed so this isn't hugely pressing but I am wondering about something.

Is the fact that I quit a job and reported my supervisor for sexual harrasment going to negatively affect my ability to find another job in the future?

Nothing was done to the supervisor in question. I reported him to HR and they basically said they couldn't do anything about it because the other girl refused to speak up. She was afraid of losing her job or losing hours and refused to believe that they could not legally do this to her. So in the end, there was no justice and I let it go.

But now I'm wondering ... That was the last position I held before simply employing myself. Is this gonna haunt me?




housesub4you -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/28/2008 6:25:16 AM)

I use to work in social work field, I reported the placement center I worked at to the State for covering up sexual abuse issues within the center, Well, I was transferred and 2 months later fired.  That was 7 years ago, the placement center finally lost state funding when others came forward, but it was to late to help me.

I have never been able to get a job in social work again.  I stopped trying years ago. I am now self-employed and in the long run it was the best thing that happened to me.  Though at the time it did not feel like it.





RedMagic1 -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/28/2008 6:58:40 AM)

http://employment-law.freeadvice.com/sexual_harassment/




Moloch -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/28/2008 2:06:02 PM)

Whistle says hi....




celticlord2112 -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/28/2008 2:25:35 PM)

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Is the fact that I quit a job and reported my supervisor for sexual harrasment going to negatively affect my ability to find another job in the future?

More than likely.  Being right can be an expensive proposition.




Termyn8or -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/29/2008 8:07:21 AM)

I was going to make this a flippant response, but I decided not to. Too many people do not know how to protect themselves. They don't understand the dynamics of the situation and also in today's job market getting fired could be a death sentence.

To the OP, if you have gotten to the point where you are self employed, stay there if at all possible. If nothing else learn business. I have had employers say to me "You act like you are doing us a favor coming in here", and I replied "Ain't I ?". People are real motherfuckers out there and that doesn't look like it is about to change anytime soon.

I know this is harder than it sounds, and I know it takes guts, I guess I would make a hell of a Woman. I would handle the problem directly. Fuckhead touches you the wrong way, smack him upside the head. Gets more frisky kick him in the balls. If you can't win that way give him a blow job, but bite down hard and MAKE FUCKING SURE you leave marks and hopefully put the asshole in the hospital.

Here's a fact of life, fuck going over his head, over his head are the people who put him there. When you blow a whistle, don't blow it in the company, blow it to the government and media. As much as I hate to say it, that is the way to do it.

Sexual harrassers or predators of any kind are not Men. They might be strong physically but they are easily defeated if you know what you're doing. All they think about is sex, they have little time for strategy except for getting sex. They have not thought out what to do when the shit hits the fan, so you bring the fan and the shit upon them.

But don't try to do it within the company. The buddy system will kill you. They will most likely stick together and your credibility and marketability will most likely be ruined. You need to go outside. You got cellphones that take fucking movies for Pete's sake, can't you think of anything ?

And you nip it in the bud if you are smart. The first touch is met with a very unfriendly response. Punch the asshole in the stomach. He has as much proof of that as you have of him touching you innappropriately. You also have equal evidence of it being intentional.

Women, good Women out there, sexual predators are your enemy. You have to think like them. Who has proof of what ? You can give one warning, say he rubs your ass, tell him "You do that again and you will be the sorriest motherfucker in the world". If he does it again, he won't be ready for a gut shot. Houdini died because of a gut shot. Do it as hard as you can, and hopefully he will be on the floor in pain.

If someone walks in the door just say "I don't know he just collapsed and started writhing like that". That is the thing. There is no evidence. If they have you on video punching him in the stomach, they have video of him putting his hands where they don't belong.

That's how the motherfuckers in this world think, and unless you want to get fucked (both literally and figuratively) you think the same way. You can also kick him in the balls. Who's to say he didn't walk into his desk ?

I would love to live in a world where everyone is decent and moral, but that just ain't how it is. To play the game and win you have to know the rules, and the rules are that there are no rules unless you get caught. I hate to advise people to be so ruthless, but that is the world in which we live.

If he wants a blowjob, by all means, but clamp down and hopefully draw blood. You might have a bruise or two on the side of your face, but let this motherfucker explain to his Wife why his dick is bleeding. And they always have Wives of course. Sexual predators almost always have Wives because they can't live without it. What you are doing at that point is applying aversion therapy.

Expect to lose the job, the old boy network might not fail, but if you think about it, you really didn't want to be there anyway.

But realize this, in this world there are many more ways to fight than there are to love. You just need to learn a few more. With subversion and deceit you can win almost anything, and yes it is immoral, I would never do it, well almost. But in certain circumstances, when you are in the inferior position, anything goes and I mean anything.

I mean you got a kid young enough, born while you worked there, run the guy through a paternity test. If he refuses you get a check for the next eighteen years. So he ain't the Father, who cares, once you brought up the question, you fucked him right up the ass in most cases. There are hundreds of things you can do. Do not put up with it. I don't wan't these sexual predators on my planet, it gives real Men a bad name.

Because of these assholes alot of Women think there is only one thing on our mind, and that is wrong. It is getting to the point where when you find one of us who can say "No", or "Not right now" you take it personally, as if you are not attractive enough. That is wrong.

I am different than others, I know that, but let me put it this way. If I was Monica Lewinsky I would have bit Clinton's penis clean off, let him explain that to Hillary. Get the point ?

But let's get one thing straight, neither I, nor anyone else can empower you, only you can do that. It's the same old story, they want something you don't want to give. Well you lock the doors to your house when you leave don't you ?

Don't submit to abuse, ever no matter what form it takes. This is different than giving your submission, like if you get into a relationship. That is taking. I don't know about you, but I don't allow it.

T




pahunkboy -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/29/2008 10:08:39 AM)

Gosh Term, I thought I was bad. lol.

On the OP- it isnt relevent to any employment.  Unless you were in court- it did not happen.

Term is right- being fired can be death.

So if it were me- I would omit that. It makes you look like a trouble maker. 

An employer wants to have a low maintennece non-complainer- efficent slave.  He/she is god.

Bussiness can be cruel.

If an interviewer brings up the topic, "I am not aware of it".... 




pahunkboy -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/29/2008 10:17:54 AM)

A close friend of mine- was trying for a better position at a hospital.  She got repremanded for emailing a job opeing with in the same hospital.  She of course did not like the repremand.  I told her- internet usage is a huge issue these days- and even tho you thought it was business related- they did not. I said- complain to me - or people who are not connected to work- but at work -do not complain. be the good natured complient person who gets along with eveyrone and who does not complain.

It worked.  A week later, she got the priized job slot that she had gone after.  Being that she went along with the rules-[no matter how silly they were] she was viewed as the best candidate for the job.    [leaving the other that whined not in the promotion]






Lockit -> RE: I'm a whistle blower. (7/29/2008 11:48:02 AM)

LOL Termyn8or, that was great!

Breaking into the good ol boy's club in my day was a huge undertaking and sexual harrassment was the norm.  It was hard to prove and even if you could prove it, what good was it to report to the good ol boy's club?  They laughed it off as a snipity bitch with no sense of humor.  Seeing as though I didn't find bruises on tender spots humorous, I guess they were correct.  Back then they had a better chance of reporting to future employers, your many faults.  Now days it is a bit harder for them as they can be sued if you can prove it.  Still it is hard to do.

In area's where you could be black listed, you could have a very difficult time of getting back in.  Where everyone knows everyone and goes out for drinks, they can say whatever they want and you can't prove anything unless you have a friend serving the drinks.  I tend to get as much information as I can and if there is a way to prove what has happened, I let the proof hang them.  But most the time, you end up walking away with little you can do.

The thing is to figure out how you can prove it before you get ticked off and walk away.  In a day and age of cell phones, recording devices and the like, I would be setting that bastard up.  Come here baby... this is the good ol girl way.  Biting his cock off might be a problem because you know he is going to say you asked to see it... even if showing it in the work place should be frowned upon... it's always a he said, she said thing.

Good luck with your self employment... it seems the only way to be assured it doesn't happen at least from superiors.




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