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Hello - philosophical concerns. - 7/27/2008 9:22:19 AM

concavia

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Hello.

I am an owned slave who has a lot of philosophical questions about what "this is."

In short: the role seems too hard, but the alternatives (NOT being a slave, being vanilla or even "just" a bottom) seem worse. I thrive on the control.

Just wanting to share some thoughts with other thoughtful people.

Thanks,

c.j.

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RE: Hello - philosophical concerns. - 7/27/2008 9:27:31 AM

mylittlesub

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Welcome to the site, concavia... you'll find there are a lot of friendly people from all walks of life here, and hopefully you'll receive lots of support and friendly hello's. Don't be afraid to post questions or comments, or even send messages directly to others who pique your interest. Most are more than willing to share their experiences or simply offer a friendly ear.

I'm curious - what 'philosophical questions' do you have about the lifestyle you've chosen? Do you feel you didn't consider everything before making your choice?

Best wishes in all that you do!

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RE: Hello - philosophical concerns. - 7/27/2008 9:36:11 AM

concavia

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I will start with a concrete example, to give grounding to one range of my questions. One of my big concerns is that my Master strongly feels that it is my place to make life easier for him, especially in regards to my giving him free reign to be with women other than myself. In turn, I feel like I get very little time with him. Part of it has to do with schedules (I am very busy) but part of it... I don't know. I sometimes feel like the smart, plain girl helping handome, popular guy with his homework in hopes that he will ask me out, and I wonder, should I expect love/sex/fun TOO, or should I accept this role in all its humbleness. I should add: to make things complicated, it turns me on excessively to play this role, but then I simultaneously feel excedingly dejected.

Is it neccesary to give to the point of obliteration? What is giving too much? Is this giving too much? Is it the ultimate in selfishness to focus on my own "nothingness" rather than my "somethingness"? What is selfish? What is selfless? At what point does the Dominant need to take responsibility for his sub and at what point should he really just do what he needs to do irregardless of what she wants or needs? What of the issue that most subs would not even be attracted to a Dom if he wasn't selfish like this? (I am certainly not.) etc.

None of these questions are meant to be specifically addressed in this posting - but are rhetorical and meant to give an overview of the types of questions I have been asking.

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