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openmindedslave -> Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/26/2008 6:45:00 PM)

Recently I was speaking with a Mistress that asked me if any of the men out here are straight anymore? Too big a question for me to answer, but I did want to throw it out  here.Not just guys being  straight, but what about woman being straight? Does it really matter or limit your interest if your partner is  straight?  And if your straight and your partner is bi, do you worry about not being able to satisfy  their needs if they seek the same sex in the past??



aidan -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/26/2008 7:08:04 PM)

Mistress is bisexual and I'm "straight" insofar as I'm heterosexual, but I don't feel worried about being able to satisfy her. Everything from the way we interact in bed to her blatant vocalizations of the fact tell me she's perfectly happy with a male partner, specifically me.

Remember folks: bisexuality does not inherently mean polyamory. It's just equal preference for male or female partners.



boyforyouruse -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/26/2008 7:40:37 PM)

Just be yourself.

If you are straight, be straight.

If you're not, then be what you are.

Don't worry about what others think or say.



bipolarber -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/26/2008 7:57:30 PM)

I'm a bisexual male. My wife is straight. We've been married 23 years, and I've never found straight sex boring. That's like saying being left handed is somehow weird and exotic... People are who they are... and if you love 'em, you accept that as part of the package. Simple as that.

You know, we have these friends who live across town. They are probably the poster children for straight breeders... and they seem completely happy within their lives... a couple of months ago, we were at a dinner party at their place and the conversation got a little heavy on this very subject... They ended up admitting that they were a little envious of our "exotic" lifestyle, and we told them the truth too... that sometimes, we envied them for how mainstream... how easy and relatively uncomplicated ...their relationship seemed to be! We ended up realizing we were all being stupid, (the grass always being greener) and laughed it off.



brightspot -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/26/2008 8:40:18 PM)

~FR~
 
Yi,Yi,Yi,Yi![sm=cactus.gif]
 
I looked at your profile, your 41 and asking this! What Planet do you come from?
Anywhere distant out there the stratisphere and I am somewhat understanding.
 
Anyone can be an excellent actress or actor....
But no one can ever be anything than what they are.
 
To somewhat answer your questions????
 
I think today people live more on the edge. With things that are going on
and the uncertainty of tomorrow, I tend to think people are living more for
today, than "the future".
 
A good fraction are taking more risks, in the moment, saying yes, I want to
experience this.
 
But in the end..."No matter where you go.....There you are"!
 
Missy.




Shawn1066 -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/26/2008 10:15:20 PM)

I'm straight.  My Owner is bisexual.

She's told me that, in her experience, the differences between a woman and a man sexually is ultimately negligible.  And ultimately, she has no problem being sexually monogamous with me .  Her bisexuality is just what it is--a fact of life.  I don't fantasize about(Which I'm sure puts me in some sort of minority among males :-p) it and I certainly don't worry about it.

DV's Fox



Vendaval -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 12:09:28 AM)

I am a bisexual woman with two male slaves.  One of them is bi and the other is straight.  Orientaton and satisfaction are not issues.



openmindedslave -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 4:24:37 AM)

I appreciate the answers so far..but I need to correct something here I beleive ,for some of you..

Her concern was if someone is bi  and desires to play with others and they are in a realtionship, with someone who is straight,, does that  ,knowing that their bi already, Does that restrict  the  bi person if they are not allowed to explore this anymore..Would it be a concern for others if they were in this type of relationship..Many have said  no ..not an issue. 



MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 5:45:01 AM)

Monogamy might restrict a bisexual person ... but it might restrict a straight person as well.  Being bi doesn't mean you are *required* to have sex with people of both genders.

Mss



slaveluci -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 5:50:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: openmindedslave
Her concern was if someone is bi  and desires to play with others and they are in a realtionship, with someone who is straight,, does that  ,knowing that their bi already, Does that restrict  the  bi person if they are not allowed to explore this anymore

Obviously, if they aren't "allowed to explore" a "restriction" has been placed, yes.  The question then becomes can the bisexual partner live under this "restriction."  Master knew from the beginning that I am bisexual.  I had been involved with several female partners over the years though never in a serious, committed relationship.  We thoroughly discussed my desire for other females and whether or not it was something I could "live without," so to speak.  (Not that He wants me to[;)]).

I determined that - if being with Him indeed meant no more sex with women - I still wanted Him.  I love being with them but my desire for that does not outweigh my desire to be His and to please and obey Him.  Fortunately, pleasing and obeying Him doesn't conflict with exploring my bisexuality.  He desires for me to do just that and has even gone so far as to say that if I were to find a female that was interested only in me (and not Him) that He would give His blessing to such a relationship as long as it didn't interfere or negatively affect my relationship with Him.  If it was something that would enhance things -even indirectly - He'd be all for it.

I certainly can't speak for anyone but myself but that's how it works for me.  Even if He had restricted my interaction with other females, it wouldn't have been a restriction I couldn't deal with and adhere to..................luci



subtlebutterfly -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 6:16:50 AM)

I'm bisexual AND monogamous. I take interest in both sexes but when I've picked a partner I stick with them, I don't have the urge to be with a person of the other sex while I'm with someone. Being bisexual is exactly like being straight when it comes to relationships. The only difference is in the dating life where you simply have more people to choose from [:D]

Edited to add: Please don't confuse bisexuality with polyamory there's no more connection between polyamory and bisexuality than it is between polyamory and heterosexuality.



Missokyst -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 6:48:10 AM)

It does seem like more people are bi these days.  Maybe that is because of exposure to the idea has not only opened up, it has become fashionable. 
Some of us are strictly hard wired in one direction and always will be.  Even thinking of joining in on the trend makes my lips clench back in a grimace.
I like straight sex.  ....especially when a his cock is boring into me.
Kyst



MsStarlett -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 8:28:05 AM)

I prefer my subs, or men in general, to be straight.  I don't turn one down for being bi if I find them interesting.  I would prefer to be the pinnacle of their sexual desire.  I don't think that happens with Bi Men.  *shrug*  



seababy -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 8:59:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

I appreciate the answers so far..but I need to correct something here I beleive ,for some of you..

Her concern was if someone is bi  and desires to play with others and they are in a realtionship, with someone who is straight,, does that  ,knowing that their bi already, Does that restrict  the  bi person if they are not allowed to explore this anymore..Would it be a concern for others if they were in this type of relationship..Many have said  no ..not an issue. 



I don't see it as any different from being attracted to blonde and dark haired people.
Being bisexual may open up more initial choice as to who attracts you but that's about it. (Unless your poly)
Being in a straight monogamous relationship doesn't stop you being attracted to other people you just don't act on it.
Anyone in a monogamous relationship is choosing to restrict themselves bi or straight.
The key is " if someone is bi  and desires to play with others"
Its not a bi issue its a wants to play with others issue.
IMO





liquidhands -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 11:39:44 AM)

But even if theyre bi , they have chosen You as their pinnacle of desire. I mean being bi doesnt neccesarily mean that you will not be their pinnacle of desire. You are after all the Mistress for them right? I mean even if one is straight, you might not be the pinnacle of desire they could look at someone else. Or maybe i need some clarification on what you mean by pinnacle, but im quite sure You mean that you are their favorite ''sexually''.
In short a sub regardless of orientation picks a mistress because she is unique or vice versa right?



MistressDolly -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 11:57:19 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

Recently I was speaking with a Mistress that asked me if any of the men out here are straight anymore? Too big a question for me to answer, but I did want to throw it out  here.Not just guys being  straight, but what about woman being straight? Does it really matter or limit your interest if your partner is  straight?  And if your straight and your partner is bi, do you worry about not being able to satisfy  their needs if they seek the same sex in the past??


Gen. Y overplays bi-sexuality.



LadyPact -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 12:33:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave
Does that restrict  the  bi person if they are not allowed to explore this anymore..Would it be a concern for others if they were in this type of relationship.

I really don't think the question is so much about bisexuality as it is about monogamy.  If two people have come to the conclusion that they are only going to engage is sexual acts with each other, that would stop the "exploration" of that person's sexuality with other people, regardless of gender.

Personally, I happen to be straight, so I can't help you with a perspective on bisexuality. 



undergroundsea -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 12:36:30 PM)

I am as straight as a West Texas road. With that said I tip to yáll my hat and am off to go tip some cows.

Cheers,

Sea



earthycouple -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 2:42:16 PM)

I'm bi, both the men in my life are straight and I spend lots of time drooling over hot women....but I'm quite happy with those I have.



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Is Being Straight Boring Now a Days? (7/27/2008 3:02:05 PM)

Being straight isn't boring if you're wired for straight.

Being monogamous isn't boring if you're  wired for monogamous.

Being less than honest with oneself or others about whether you are truly straight and/or monogamous is an issue if you find that you can't keep any promises made under the premise of your ''straightness" or "monogamousness" later.

Calla Firestorm



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