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RE: Is this a common thing in the lifestyle - 7/13/2008 1:51:10 PM

sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean she's going to want to fuck you.

What?! LA... you break my heart... here I thought allllll the bi babes wanted to fuck me. but but but... I'm a hot tamale and all... sigh... *gets out my little list and scratches out that whole bi babe/lesbian/straight girl thing.

In seriousness, to the OP:
why are you, after all this time, asking us? Have you talked to him? (How many times do I have to type that?)

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RE: Is this a common thing in the lifestyle - 7/13/2008 2:04:36 PM

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I have several relationships, some collared, some not, as well as a primary marriage relationship.

Everyone involved knows that and accepts it - or at least has not raised it as a problem with me.

They have known that from the start and entered into it with their eyes open. I do hope they would raise it they were concerned.

I don't talk about one in front of the other, unless there is a good reason. If I am asked I will answer any reasonable question.

But otherwise I don't gossip, it is just plain and simply a preference for discretion and good manners.

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RE: Is this a common thing in the lifestyle - 7/13/2008 2:15:00 PM

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to the OP: Maybe it's the possibility of ones he has that you DON'T know about that's making you uneasy?

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RE: Is this a common thing in the lifestyle - 7/13/2008 2:17:21 PM

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I was just wondering what others think about this. My Sir has a collared "Girl" and myself who is owned but not collared yet. He does not talk about her with me or me with her(so he says). I would think he would want us to meet and play all together. Do you think he is hiding something????? Please help

To imply so blatantly, that your Sir is lying to you, just screams of so many issues to me that it just doesn't seem to matter what the question is.

I could not even fathom being owned by someone that didn't have my trust, confidence and respect. If I ever publicly dishonored anyone I was in a relationship with in this fashion, I would have already revealed to myself exactly where my head was and how on the wrong path I was.

My personal opinion about his not speaking of the other girl to you, or of you to her implies he considers you autonomous from each other, and respects your indviduality. Or, perhaps, he suspects your insecurities and is being kind in not speaking of her because you may not be prepared to hold yourself up to perceived comparisons. There are many options behind his potential reasonings.

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RE: Is this a common thing in the lifestyle - 7/13/2008 3:34:18 PM

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Dear RealSub 58, We have been together for 2 years now, owned for probably the last 8. He lives about 2 hours from here so he does not live with me nor does she.He would like for me to find a female to play with when he is here. He had his other Girl for two years before me so for 4 years now. I dont feel a collar really means to be more owned than owned lol, but I do think it would help me feel that I belong to him more. I am not sure on that one. lol And last, Yes I am able to ask him anything but many time I dont get a straight answer. Some how he evades the question. So I guess in reality he isnt answering all of them really. Thanks again for all your replies it has been very helpful.

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RE: Is this a common thing in the lifestyle - 7/14/2008 1:59:31 AM

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Let me see if i've sufficiently between the lines:
The Girl isn't the problem, she was a fixture when you entered into the relationship. The fact that he doesn't bring her with you for a threesome isn't the problem because he's never done that in the past 2 years. His evading certain questions isn't the problem because he's done that since the beginning. The problem is after two years of devotion, up to and including seeking out other subs for him to play with, you were hoping for a deeper committment from this man than he is willing to give. But it sounds to me he is giving you what he promised, nothing more, nothing less.

It's up to you to decide if you wish to invest more time and emotion into this relationship because sweetheart, it's not going to become more than it is. Accpet it and enjoy it or move on.

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