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Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 2:28:38 PM

Missokyst

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I was one of those little kids who was quiet. I spoke to crack a joke, or when a point needed to be made, or to be the voice for someone else who needed one. I obeyed rules when I understood them, but challenged the system when it made no sense.
Growing up, I was the nomad who traveled on the edges of a pack, but my pack wasn't always the same.
I could adapt to the crowd whether I was hanging out with the intellectuals, the geeks, the artists, the jocks, the bullies, or the anonymous masses. I hung back until I saw the way the land lay, then I trodded forward to get where I needed to be.
I was alone, a loner, even among people I considered friends and I liked being the unknown who caught people by surprise.
I was this way at 5, 10, 15, 25, ect. The only thing I notice which has changed for me is that I am now impatient with people who cannot seem to move quickly over a speedbump.
I have more education than when I was a child, but my thirst for knowlege is just as strong as it ever was.

And.. today I wonder if it would have been better to have grown and changed from who I was. I see people who used to be ______ (<-fill in what ever) and as they grew up they fixed that, whether it was speaking up for themselves, learning patience, becoming gentle, ect.

Have you changed? Has it improved who you thought you were? How did you accomplish that?
Kyst

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 2:32:39 PM

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I would say that when it comes to my personality, I was and still am a lot like you, Kyst.

Some things have changed, especially in the last five years. I'm more confident now. I'm still submissive, when it counts, but I don't allow myself to be put into situations where I feel taken advantage of anywhere near as much as I used to. I'm more patient now and more accepting of others. I'm learning to love people even when I don't like them very much.

Unfortunately, I'm also more jaded and that is something I dislike very much.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 2:51:42 PM

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i have changed only in outter appearance....and damn am i hot now..

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 2:57:13 PM

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Yes you are *leer*

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 3:11:29 PM

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When I was young I wished I was old
When I was dumb I wished I was smart
Now that I'm old I wish I was young

You finish it.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 3:15:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

When I was young I wished I was old
When I was dumb I wished I was smart
Now that I'm old I wish I was young

You finish it.

T

and now that im smart...i tend to fart.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 3:27:50 PM

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Everyone knows girls don't fart! Silly faery!

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 3:29:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: opposingtwilight

Everyone knows girls don't fart! Silly faery!

we dont???so you've never eaten at mcd's? taco hell? subway? any other fast food?

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 5:27:59 PM

Missokyst

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Thats not farting, its venting.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 6:22:22 PM

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Actually I have changed. I am very quiet now, I don't do smalltalk. I hate it when people ask how my day at work was. It is always terrible, that's why I charge them so much to do it.

I don't answer the phone and I rarely use it. Usually I am calling to order food or weed or something, I do not chat.

Some people are starting not to like me so much, and I am fine with that. I don't need their bullshit either. I get all the bullshit I need right here :-)

I am serious. None of the people in my RL can bring the variety of topics I get into on this forum. The other day someone asked how my day at work was, I simply didn't answer. I didn't say a word.

And then how's this person and that person, ask them, I don't know. They have not called me with any problems so I assume everything is OK. That's all I know.

I like the words of Crocodile Dundee "Ain't none of my business".

So yes I have changed. Alot.

T

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 6:56:45 PM

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When you were not quiet, were you comfortable in that?

I am quiet now, I was quiet then.. but when I am wound up very little can keep me silent that does not involve someone stopping me in my tracks.
And though I can be very vocal, I was/am never comfy that way. I do it, get it over with, and move on.

Kyst

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 6:59:37 PM

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I'm a much calmer and happier person than I used to be.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 7:49:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Thats not farting, its venting.

does it come with a vent screen or is that a mud flap....

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 8:06:10 PM

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I'm a lot less forgiving than I used to be. I don't trust humanity like I used to. I no longer believe in the "inherant goodness" of humanity at all, nor inherant intelligence in humanity. I'm a lot more prone to violence, and much quicker to defend myself whether physically or in terms of exerting my rights. I do not give up control over aspects of my life to others any longer. Those are all things that have changed considerably since I was younger - some to the point of being the diametrical opposite of what I was like growing up.

However, I'm still pretty much a loner. I still tend to avoid crowds or stay at the edges when I'm in a situation where there's no way to avoid the crowd. The circle of my actual Friends is very small, very exclusive, and extremely difficult to become part of - though my circle of friendly aquaintances is large. I still much prefer creative persuits of whatever sort, and still jealously guard my "alone" time.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 8:19:55 PM

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Nope.....but everyone around me has......

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 9:37:11 PM

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I must have been a chameleon in a past life, as I keep changing.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/4/2008 10:24:11 PM

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I've changed since I was in my 20's and prior to that. I was very quiet and had a hard time expressing myself well. As I got older, I grew in confidence and now people who know me would never think I was ever shy - I'm quite outgoing.

I don't know if I improved who I was. I do feel more true to myself, more comfortable in my own skin.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/5/2008 8:20:17 AM

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Growing up...as a small child and losing so many relatives to death. I was quiet, I would sit around and watch people.
Mom would call me shy. Around the 7th grade or so, I decided it was time to speak up.

No more was I called shy. I was outgoing. I've been that way ever since. I will still sit back and watch and listen to peoples conversations. I love doing that. However if they fail to speak up I can take up the slack.

People tend to follow me. In a way I don't happen to like...currently I have two of those type of followers. No idea how to break them of the habit.

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/5/2008 9:43:07 AM

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I tend to think there is value in change. There are parts of me I would love to change but when it comes down to it, it is almost like I don't know how.
I think it is because I never had to force a change from myself. I started out as a loner being the youngest of 4 kids, but we were all 4 yrs apart .. people already had their role in place by the time I got there.
I was a loner, quiet, an observer, a person who no one noticed until I spoke up. And they noticed then because I had taken the time of being invisible to figure out where things might have gone better. It sort of gave me the reputation for having answers, prematurely.
I see so many people who have changed, either to become more outgoing, or more cynical and to me it seems like progress.
I am sure there is something I am missing, but I don't know what it is. How do people change?
Kyst

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RE: Have you changed? - 7/5/2008 11:46:49 AM

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Change is damn hard if you're deliberately setting out to do it. Mine was a gradual maturing process, I think - I don't remember making a conscious decision. It was more my becoming confident in myself and in what I offered. Not one person I've met after, say, 35 or so, would recognize me as who I was at 20. I think having kids also drew me out of my shell - put me around others with things in common and it just helped me grow from there.

There are things I'd still like to change. I'm a procrastinator to the point where it can interfere with my house being run well, and it takes both mental reminders from myself (giving myself a 'talking to' about not putting things off) as well as the physical push to just get things done. But it's really hard, and it's easy to slip into old habits.

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