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MasterHermes -> Consent and violence in modern civilization (7/1/2008 5:58:27 AM)

There is a debate going on about when BDSM becomes destructive. One of the sub topics there is the role of consent. While its already being discussed , it is mixed with so many other topics there, so I wanted to start a new thread about the role of consent not only in "play time" but in our civilization .

Consent is a modern concept came with human rights , and personal freedom. In a society nobody has rights or freedom we can not talk the need of consent. So this very idea symbolizes the advancement of our civilization (if you consider freedom an advancement too). Today we witness there are some people take this idea a step further. According to their statement , consent is above every other rule we used for building our civilization and as long as there is consent all other rules can become absolute. I would like to discuss how taking this very step can bring to end of all freedoms and consent itself.

We will take nature as our reference point. Some of our motivations are coming from our nature, others are concepts created by human mind. Other animals in nature, except human, only follow the first part and can not create their own concepts ,and then act on it. For example possession is a natural instinct. We and great number of animals tend to posses an area and defend it against others. Wars, jealousy, competitiveness are all by products of this natural desire. While primitive versions of wars are fueled by this very natural desire , mass destruction and genocide are products of human mind . There are no other animals in nature intentionally try to destroy the entire population of its own race or different races.

Consent and freedom are also the concepts of human mind. It comes from our desire to protect our personal identity as a person. While any other animal is naturally free in their own environment , there is no such an act of protection of freedoms. Basically survival is the only way for ensuring an animal can protect its freedom against others.

There is nothing wrong with concepts created by human mind. They helped us to build a civilization and advance like no other animal on this planet. Using our minds we are transforming human from an animal only acts with instincts to something a lot more if he can learn to use its potential. At this point lets go back to original argument. Is anything and everything ok as long as there is consent? Are those acts are protected by personal freedom? It can be, you can reverse humans path and give him personal freedom to follow and feed his destructive side. Of course you will , as modern people, will still want and hope to keep it under control with creating rules as "person can only do anything he wants when there is consent of other people, when there is no consent its wrong and violation of other freedoms". Its an attempt, but a very weak barrier. There are two reasons for this we learn from nature and history.

First of all freedom and consent are not natural instincts. The society who is encouraged to feed and expand its violent side will destroy the idea of consent eventually and will not stop there. Once you started to promote " you can do anything you want as long as there is consent" , next the idea of "I can do anything I want because I can, because I am powerful enough" will follow it. While consent is a relatively new idea developed by modern society, "I do because I can" has been with us for 100.000 years. In that case people who wants experience their own freedom anyway they want to will end up losing their current freedom and become victims. Idea of freedom and consent will diminish but the instinct of violence will remain.

Second human mind is very good at rationalizing everything. It can even take your freedom away and find very good and noble reasons for it. Have you ever seen it happening? Even lately? Once we step into "let us feed every destructive desire in the borders of consent" , human mind will find a ways to remove that consent requirement from it. I would like to remind you even the most destructive events of human history did not start with "lets kill them all" idea. They all sounded reasonable and looked like serving the good of majority, until human mind kept pushing them to a point mass destruction looked like a very logical solution.

As a conclusion I would like to point out, saying "lets not promote consensual violence" , does not mean "lets bring an end to BDSM practices" . Many of you are already living the life you want to live , and nobody is taking this away from you. Opening doors to all kinds of violence in the name of personal freedom can fuel the further acts that bring an end to this very freedom we like to protect. One day a different group of people can bring nonconsensual violence upon you "just because they can" .

Please share your own thoughts..

Spread love instead
Hermes




RCdc -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 6:08:19 AM)

I enjoyed this piece.
I don't believe consent exists in reality.  It's nothing more than a concept, and idol and a construct.
It is a way of rationalizng what is done to make it more acceptable to the masses - and yet people make the claim to not seek approval - still using such a phrase or word.
 
I have little to add as I would just be repeating what you have already formed.
 
the.dark.




DesFIP -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 6:45:01 AM)

Why is this in BDSM and not other topics?




Amaros -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 7:38:38 AM)

I think it's a valid question, and some good observations, but generally speaking, the reason people consent to loss of freedom is generally the result of valuing their safety over their freedom.

This is pretty much the dynamic of culture itself, the centripetal vs. the acentric - simply put, centripetal behavior is organized, hierarchial group behavior, like the military, and acentric behavior is individual behavior.

Ideally, it's not an either/or situation: the great apes, including hmans, are acentric-centripetal, meaning that our default mode is acentric, individualistic behavior, i.e., we act independently pretty much most of the time, centripetalizing when confronted by a common threat - centripetalism is adaptation that generates a group defensive response to a group threat.

A troop of apes will feed independently, doing their won thing until somebody spots a threat, a leopard is the common example, at which point the alpha males will form a sort of defensive screen, putting on displays and throwing things, while the females, children, elders, etc., beat feet to the trees.

Unfortunatly, in human culture, the more political members of the species have discerned that if there is not valid threat to centripetalize a consnsus, then one can be invented with the same effect - thus the "gay adgenda", "family values", etc., i.e., for some people there is always a threat, and they are maintained in continuous state of centripetal, hierarchial defensive alertness - these are called conservatives.

Others are acentric the point that they have a difficult time organizing at all, so wrapped up are they in themselves, but all in all follow much the same acentric centripetal pattern as the great apes.

One distinction between centripetal and acentric behavior is that acentrism is typically a more creative state - seldom do groups of people get together and innovate anything, they usually do whatever worked the last time - an individual by contrast, is more likely to look at a problem in a new way, and innovate some way to solve it, if this method proves effective or useful, it will eventually be adopted - if not, it will generally be ignored or suppressed.

Politics, once again, complicates the issue, if the innovation happens to be good or at least neutral to the average member of society, but threatening to the status quo, then a centripetal defensive response may be generated in indirect proportion to the actual threat, thus discussion itself, the primary means of consensus formation in human society, will be supressed, etc. - if it goes far enough, if enough people back a centripetal consensus, i.e., convinced the threat to the status quo is also a threat to them personally, then you may well end up with a feudal form of government, a dictatorship, oligarchy, communism, etc. if people are willing to surrender their rights thinking it's in their short term survival interests.

The stability problem here, is that to maintain control requires the constant generation of new threats in order to maintain the centripetal effect, so after the first Leopard is dealt with, new Leopard have to be invented, and typically, these sorts of political constructs end up eating themselves alive - sort of the way the PLO has fragmented, or the way religions splinter into sects and factions and end up preying on each other instead of praying for each other - it's the nature of the beast.

So, really, it becomes all about rational threat assessment: is the threat presented real or imaginary? How much information do you have?

BTW, just a prediction: we'll be at war with Iran before or shortly after the election.






MasterHermes -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 8:53:40 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Why is this in BDSM and not other topics?


Because no limit consensual violence and promoting it under BDSM flag as a personal freedom is a BDSM related subject. There is already a thread discussing how/if BDSM can get destructive. Consent in modern civilization thread more questioning the idea "does consent make everything ok" and possible future effects of this idea in our society. If its considered otherwise and I posted in the wrong section, my apologies.

Be well
Hermes




Amaros -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 9:06:27 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterHermes

Because no limit consensual violence and promoting it under BDSM flag as a personal freedom is a BDSM related subject. There is already a thread discussing how/if BDSM can get destructive. Consent in modern civilization thread more questioning the idea "does consent make everything ok" and possible future effects of this idea in our society. If its considered otherwise and I posted in the wrong section, my apologies.

Be well
Hermes
Gain, more accurately, the predictable result of a tolerant attitude towards consesnual violence that crosses the lines of legality is a centripetal reaction formation that will get a lot more Calvinist erotophobes elected to congress, adn eventually, limits imposed that are less reasonable than there already are.

i.e., if you don't know where to draw the line, somebody else will draw it for you.




ownedgirlie -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 10:56:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Amaros
i.e., if you don't know where to draw the line, somebody else will draw it for you.



This is brilliant and so very true.

And this is why I do not believe "consent" is the defining factor of what makes something ok or abusive.  For  years, I did not know what my boundaries were or should be.  Others defined them for me and I consented, even though it was extremely abusive to me.

As a society, we consent to the rules our government makes, by re-electing those we continue to keep in office.  They may not be good rules for us, but we played a part in creating them.

Consent is overrated, in my opinion.  Life's effect on the human spirit is what I find greatly important.




RCdc -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 11:10:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Amaros
i.e., if you don't know where to draw the line, somebody else will draw it for you.


I'm going to echo OG and say brilliant.  It's a cracking quote too.
 
the.dark.




Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Consent and violence in modern civilization (7/1/2008 11:37:28 AM)

I hate to break the news about it.   If two people get come together and they want to do something bad enough, they will break the law.  Regardless of the laws are.

People actually have a lot more freedom then you think.   We all have the freedom to break the law at any moment.  

I thinking back to the riots that took place in LA.   That truck driver was was filmed being dragged out and beat to death.   All the people breaking into places, stealing.  Setting places on fire.   Felony crimes being committed left and right.

Just because laws are created, and some lines are drawn in the sand legally does not mean people won't cross over them.   We all have the Freedom to break any fucking law we wish to.   We are just aware of the consequences that might occur from breaking the law.    There are people breaking laws every day, that never get caught.   There are people breaking laws that do get caught.

If enough people break a law, then the law is not working.

We all have the FREEDOM to do many things.  However, this does not mean somebody won't try to stop us, nor that we are free from any consequences for our own actions.

I've not mnetally explore the abstact meanings of consent and approval.

However, has spent some time exploring the concept of FREEDOM, and our own illusions behind it.   Just as much as we are Free to do certain things, people are free to do things in response to our actions. 

In as much Freedom one has to break the law, the police officer has the Freedom to arrest your ass.   Perhaps your neighor if they don't agree with something, might step in and use their Freedom to interfer.   "Freedom" not being a legal concept here.

In regards to the OP, two people did something.  OK, it's not legal and morally far outside the Norm of things.   However, they were getting away with it because they had the FREEDOM to do it.    This is why we have Jails and Prisons, to take away this FREEDOM.  Sure it's form of punishment, but it also to isolate law breakers and take away their freedom.    If not, these people would be Literally Free to continue doing what they want or like to do.

Now even many of the Law Breaker, Criminals have their own morals and eithics.  They will turn on certain types of criminals in prisons and jails.   Hence, the need to for isolation cells.  Guards not only making certain the criminals don't escape, but guards actually protecting law breakers from other law breakers.

Needless to say Jeffrey Dahmer did not live very long in the prison system, somebody was Free enough to kill his ass.  Personally, I find the taking of Jeffrey Dahmers life morally acceptable.  It actually made my day, that somebody killed him.   Sure that Dude that killed Dahmer broke the Law to do it!   However, you know what, I'm glad somebody broke the law and killed him.   Hmmmmmmm.... I seem to be morally supportive of somebody that broke the law here now.

I'm not the kind of person that supports the mindless taking of human life.

Have you ever wondered why in the 10 commandents, it say's though shall not murder.  Yet many people have been killed in wars and such.   Because there is a difference between Murder and Killing somebody for moral reasons.   Just like manslaughter, the unintentional taking of human life.   Murder however is very premediated act to do.   Now when it is morally OK to kill somebody or not? 

I'm still thinking about that innocent Truck driver in the LA riots that was dragged out of his truck and beaten to death.  The strange ways our laws work.  The Video tape evidence and the outcome should speak for itself.




variation30 -> RE: Consent and violence in modern civilization (7/1/2008 1:26:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterHermes

There is a debate going on about when BDSM becomes destructive. One of the sub topics there is the role of consent. While its already being discussed , it is mixed with so many other topics there, so I wanted to start a new thread about the role of consent not only in "play time" but in our civilization .

Consent is a modern concept came with human rights , and personal freedom. In a society nobody has rights or freedom we can not talk the need of consent. So this very idea symbolizes the advancement of our civilization (if you consider freedom an advancement too). Today we witness there are some people take this idea a step further. According to their statement ,  I would like to discuss how taking this very step can bring to end of all freedoms and consent itself.

We will take nature as our reference point. Some of our motivations are coming from our nature, others are concepts created by human mind. Other animals in nature, except human, only follow the first part and can not create their own concepts ,and then act on it. For example possession is a natural instinct. We and great number of animals tend to posses an area and defend it against others. Wars, jealousy, competitiveness are all by products of this natural desire. While primitive versions of wars are fueled by this very natural desire , mass destruction and genocide are products of human mind . There are no other animals in nature intentionally try to destroy the entire population of its own race or different races.

Consent and freedom are also the concepts of human mind. It comes from our desire to protect our personal identity as a person. While any other animal is naturally free in their own environment , there is no such an act of protection of freedoms. Basically survival is the only way for ensuring an animal can protect its freedom against others.

There is nothing wrong with concepts created by human mind. They helped us to build a civilization and advance like no other animal on this planet. Using our minds we are transforming human from an animal only acts with instincts to something a lot more if he can learn to use its potential. At this point lets go back to original argument. Is anything and everything ok as long as there is consent? Are those acts are protected by personal freedom? It can be, you can reverse humans path and give him personal freedom to follow and feed his destructive side. Of course you will , as modern people, will still want and hope to keep it under control with creating rules as "person can only do anything he wants when there is consent of other people, when there is no consent its wrong and violation of other freedoms". Its an attempt, but a very weak barrier. There are two reasons for this we learn from nature and history.

First of all freedom and consent are not natural instincts. The society who is encouraged to feed and expand its violent side will destroy the idea of consent eventually and will not stop there. Once you started to promote " you can do anything you want as long as there is consent" , next the idea of "I can do anything I want because I can, because I am powerful enough" will follow it. While consent is a relatively new idea developed by modern society, "I do because I can" has been with us for 100.000 years. In that case people who wants experience their own freedom anyway they want to will end up losing their current freedom and become victims. Idea of freedom and consent will diminish but the instinct of violence will remain.

Second human mind is very good at rationalizing everything. It can even take your freedom away and find very good and noble reasons for it. Have you ever seen it happening? Even lately? Once we step into "let us feed every destructive desire in the borders of consent" , human mind will find a ways to remove that consent requirement from it. I would like to remind you even the most destructive events of human history did not start with "lets kill them all" idea. They all sounded reasonable and looked like serving the good of majority, until human mind kept pushing them to a point mass destruction looked like a very logical solution.

As a conclusion I would like to point out, saying "lets not promote consensual violence" , does not mean "lets bring an end to BDSM practices" . Many of you are already living the life you want to live , and nobody is taking this away from you. Opening doors to all kinds of violence in the name of personal freedom can fuel the further acts that bring an end to this very freedom we like to protect. One day a different group of people can bring nonconsensual violence upon you "just because they can" .

Please share your own thoughts..

Spread love instead
Hermes


I'm not quite sure what you are arguing, but I do have a few questions.

the first is why you think humans and human action is any more or less 'natural' (whatever the hell that means) than any other animal and its actions?

are you saying that freedom and consent are merely mental constructs but self-preservation is not? I fail to see how they are different. why does an animal take flight when a predator appears? the prey wants to avoid the consequences of letting the predator catch it - pain and death. the prey, given the choice of experiencing the unpleasantness of being eaten alive or running for its life, chooses the latter as it does not want to be eaten. granted, a rabbit running from an owl might not have the ornate cognitive motivations of a human avoiding an unpleasant situation, but in the end, they are one in the same. one animal has a preference as to what it wants done with its body just as the other does. both animals act in a way to meet those ends.

"In a society nobody has rights or freedom we can not talk the need of consent."

I have no idea what this means. this whole discussion is based around what actions are just and what actions are not just (think of just in the sense of an act that conforms to reason, not just in the sense of morality). you have to start at the roots of this issue: self-ownership and property rights. do you think that every individual fully owns his or her body?

"consent is above every other rule we used for building our civilization and as long as there is consent all other rules can become absolute."

...what rules were used for building our civilization?

"The society who is encouraged to feed and expand its violent side"

first off, the word 'society' is illusory. societies do not act - individuals act.

secondly, when one supports the notion of individual freedoms, no one is encouraging anyone to feed or expand their violent sides anymore than they are any other side.

"Once you started to promote " you can do anything you want as long as there is consent" , next the idea of "I can do anything I want because I can, because I am powerful enough" will follow it."

these two ideas are opposed to one another. one is a philosophy of self-ownership and personal liberty for oneself and all other humans, the other is a philosophy of denying self-ownership and personal liberty for all other humans and even for oneself. Rothbard wrote on this in the Libertarian Manifesto. there are two options, either your philosophy is that all humans have a right to self-ownership and unlimited contract (they can do with their property whatever they want) or no humans have a right to self-ownership and unlimited contract. if you believe that interfering in another person's life against his or her will, no matter how good your intentions, is ever justified, then you have usurped that individual's ownership of his body. why have you done such a thing? because you *feel* you know how that individual should act better than he does. there is no logical distinction between doing something most people may think correct (like forcibly stopping an individual who is going to commit suicide) and doing something most people may think ar incorrect (like murder). the underlying rationale is the same - I have the power to influence how you live at my whim and I will excersize that power at will. if that is your philosophy, then you do not believe in any universal rights. if you follow it to its logical ends, you do not believe that you  have rights as well because they are forfeit the moment a stronger individual comes along.

in summary, the two ideas are the antithesis of one another: one is based on universal rights of self-ownership and unlimited contract and the second philosophy is based around their nonexistence.

"While consent is a relatively new idea developed by modern society, "

how modern? let's take the idea of theivery. if any individual sees that his rightful property has been taken against his will, he acknowledges consent. his property was taken and he doesn't like it. I'm willing to make a bet that consent was an idea that was well developed in ur or nippur or any other ancient sumerian city (what was that, 6000 years ago?). I'll even bet that the concept of theivery or murder or rape predated the agricultural revolution. these are all concepts based around the acknowledgement of consent.

"Idea of freedom and consent will diminish but the instinct of violence will remain."

you've made quite a few logical leaps and bounds to arrive at that conclusion.

"Second human mind is very good at rationalizing everything."

the irony is so thick you could cut it with a butterknife.

"I would like to remind you even the most destructive events of human history did not start with "lets kill them all" idea."

you are correct. they started when one group of individuals started dictating to others how they can and cannot live.

"Opening doors to all kinds of violence in the name of personal freedom can fuel the further acts that bring an end to this very freedom we like to protect."

hm. as an interesting sidenote, the word 'violate' has it's roots in latin and is closely related to 'violence'. do you think one boxer getting repeatably punched by another boxer is violence? do you think it is a violation? or to bring this closer to home, do you think a willing domme caning a willing male sub is violent? do you think it is a violation of any type? in both instances, I do not. why? because they, for whatever reasons, are agreeing to this practice. to me, violence is synonymous with aggression. an act that is conentual can never, by definition, be aggressive.




variation30 -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 1:35:56 PM)

quote:

i.e., if you don't know where to draw the line, somebody else will draw it for you.


I'd be careful with that line of reasoning. if you try to draw a line for a person who resents that type of oppression, you might find yourself in a bad situation.




lally3 -> RE: Consent in modern civilization (7/1/2008 3:54:12 PM)

animals give their consent and take it away from each other all of the time - sexually, territorially with food and water.

in the collective consent means SFA - it is a tool to keep the masses under control and the governements free to do whatever they like because they can.  our consent couldnt matter less to any of them - except when theyre trying to be voted in, then they play on our innate instincts for consensual agreement because without us on board it would be bedlam (rhodesia is a prime example right now), we know it, they know it, and for the survival of our lifestyles (more than our lives in the western world at least) it is the one time when we are actually allowed to press our opinions home.

individually consent is very powerful - it creates a bond you see everywhere in the animal kingdom - the bond may be brief or long term, but the consent between them is always built on mutual respect and trustworthyness - survival of species depends upon it.

our instincts in that regard are very natural and im sure go all the way back to neolithic times.

we can be jaded about the collective consent as a tool often used against us or bent out of shape time and again to suit the ones that reckon they rule the world. but individual consent is the cornerstone of society and relationships of any sort. 

it isnt the threat of prison or anything else that stops your average person from sticking a knife into their next door neighbour - its our innate desire to be trusted and respected because civilised society must survive if we are to survive (and survival is everything)

consent in any relationship, not just bdsm is built from the instinctive need to trust and respect -  put together for short term or long term - these are two of the main ingredients that we instinctively require from a mate. 

i have given my consent as a sub in a D/s relationship, i trust and respect him, he trusts and respects me - whatever he does, just because he can will always remain within the remit of trust and respect or the survival of our relationship would be seriously challenged.





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