RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners

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Racquelle -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 10:31:08 AM)
It isn't about changing hats for me. If I am emotionally engaged with my sub, then part of dominating them is caring for their emotional state.

candystripper -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 12:22:57 PM)
quote: He often notes emotional upset in me when I don’t recognize it. But, He would never tell me or discuss those things with me. hejira Why not, hejira? candystripper

hejira92 -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 12:32:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candystripper quote: He often notes emotional upset in me when I don’t recognize it. But, He would never tell me or discuss those things with me. hejira Why not, hejira? candystripper Because there are certain things He keeps to Himself. I might know the what, I might recognize the why, but I'll never know the how. When I sometimes forget, and ask Him things that come to close to the how and why He does what He does to me- He just smiles and changes the subject. And I wouldn't change that. He knows the complete workings of my mind- ofttimes better than I do. I don't need or want to know how His mind works. How can He enjoy a good mind-fuck if I see it coming? I don't think I'm explaining this well, but I bet there a few Doms here who know what I mean.

LadyRainfire -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 12:53:32 PM)
[;)] And a few subs as well..... You've explained it very well, hejira. For lack of a better description, there is that "spark" that makes them the Dom and gives them that understanding of our minds. Better than we understand ourselves at times. And it's shown every time we get that mind-fuck. It's not all about the physical but the mental, emotional and physical. And Lumus can mess with my head faster than you can say "hello". He knows just how to..... What's the disclaimer though? "Your mileage may vary"?

Lumus -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 1:52:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hejira92 How can He enjoy a good mind-fuck if I see it coming? When you can't stop it. [sheesh]

slaveluci -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 2:01:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hejira92 When Master realized what I was saying, He quickly changed from His “Dom hat” to His “Daddy (or even, dare-I-say, Life Partner) hat”. He consoled me, and spoke to me about the situation and how I am handling it. He helped a lot (as He always does) Thank you for sharing, hejira. I can totally relate. One of the things I admire most about Master is that He is so capable of doing what you mentioned above - "changing" into whatever "hat" or role that is most needed at whatever time. It's like He knows what I need better than I do most times. He's always "Master" meaning that He always has the ultimate say and final word in every situation/decision. However, how He interacts with me varies from day to day. Some days He's stricter than others, sometimes He's very "mushy", sometimes He's more "Daddy" than Master and sometimes He's more husbandly than the other roles. I almost hesitiate to use the word "role" though because that seems like it's a kind of "act." I really don't know how to state it well other than when He observes me, He knows best what I need. As you said, He always does what's best and helps alot. I don't know how He does it so wonderfully. I'm just grateful that He does. Isn't it a blessing?[:)]..................luci

hejira92 -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 2:15:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci Isn't it a blessing?[:)]..................luci A resounding.... YES! [:D]

Level -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 2:19:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hejira92 I guess I may have wondered if it was ok that I switched emotionally so quickly from sub to worried mom. And I was amazed and grateful at how easily and willingly He adapted and changed tactics and tones to deal with me. I think it's absolutely "ok", and I tip my hat to Cuffkinks, as well.

mbes -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/28/2008 6:43:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus quote: ORIGINAL: hejira92 How can He enjoy a good mind-fuck if I see it coming? When you can't stop it. [sheesh] No kidding! I was going to add that mine fucks with my mind regularly, even though I understand his quite well. That's the most fun (after the fact): when I know he is, and I can't do a thing about it. [:D]

Huntertn -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/29/2008 8:46:09 AM)
My sub's son got married ...we've never met the girl ...and she is not adjusting to the ideal of her son being married..soon enough we are going to have a meeting with the flogger and all this is going to come out...but in the meanwhile I've had to stop her from trying to give ultmatives to him over it..and now they are at least talking....You know giving a hint here and there..letting her vent..befor she says something she cann't back down from...yep..many hats..but all with love...grins..

SocialPerversion -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (6/30/2008 6:16:31 PM)
I find that being a “life partner” is much like being a parent, you have to wear many different hats. Every situation requires a different response. ~~conquer4love~~

ApathyRomance -> RE: Doms, Daddys, Life Partners (7/13/2008 10:42:49 PM)
My last girl took my favorite hat. /cry

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