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LacedCorset -> Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:39:21 AM)

We are a community. A community that stands firm supporting each other. When someone comes on here and exclaims that they enjoy using simple things like handcuffs and scarves, do we judge them for being too vanilla? Or do we accept them that they want to learn about the fetish lifestyle that all of us enjoy?




colouredin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:41:06 AM)

Do we care if they like cuffs or scarves do we need them to 'learn' to be like us or can they just enjoy that? your message is equally as judgemental as any other




mistoferin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:41:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LacedCorset
We are a community. A community that stands firm supporting each other.


Really? Since when?




faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:41:45 AM)

correction....this is a community that is expected to support each other...but it certainly doesnt.

this is a community that is supposed to be open minded and accepting of everyone...but it isnt.

just facts of life...




KatyLied -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:42:28 AM)

Another thread by a person judging others for being too judgemental.  I love this place!





colouredin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:43:10 AM)

No one supports another because we all expect everyone to think like us. if they dont they are weird problem is that there are billions of 'us' who all think we are right, but the problem is that no one is




mistoferin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:43:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied
Another thread by a person judging others for being too judgemental.  I love this place!


Well it is more entertaining than a barrel of monkeys some days....




colouredin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:44:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Another thread by a person judging others for being too judgemental.  I love this place!




You rock




KatyLied -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:45:50 AM)

Well you said it first.  Let's split the credit for it.    [:)]




faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:46:58 AM)

you have your doms
you have your subs
you have your brats
you have your whiners

the facts of life.....the facts of life......

you take the whip
you take the flogger
you take the hand
that spanks you harder

the facts of life....the facts of life....




colouredin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:49:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Well you said it first.  Let's split the credit for it.    [:)]


ohhh can we, not many people agree with me :D




RedMagic1 -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:51:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LacedCorset
A community that stands firm supporting each other.

Do you believe that an online message board is a "community?"  Or do you believe that everyone who does WIITWD is part of a community?

Either way, I don't.  I couldn't give a rat's ass what your sexual practices are.  I care what you say and do in real life when you're not in the bedroom.  I judge people based on those actions, and decide whether I want them in my life.  Whether they like flame, fisting or furries is not relevant to me.  Are you decent? humane? reliable?  That's what counts.




LaTigresse -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:52:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LacedCorset

We are a community. A community that stands firm supporting each other. When someone comes on here and exclaims that they enjoy using simple things like handcuffs and scarves, do we judge them for being too vanilla? Or do we accept them that they want to learn about the fetish lifestyle that all of us enjoy?


Since when are "we" a community?

Since when are we supposed to support each other?

I don't care what anyone else does, or thinks about what I do. There are a few things that many people on this very site do that I personally think, are sick and wrong, and not in a good way. I don't beat them over the head with it because it doesn't really matter to me. But I still think it's wrong. I refuse to accept every damned thing just because some fool puts it under the same BDSM blanket that my "things" are put under. Why should I?

On the flip side of that, there are things that I do, many people on here, might find sick and wrong. I get that. I don't care that someone else doesn't like or agree with me. If they want to pass judgement on me for it..........it is their perrogative.




colouredin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:55:30 AM)

I think what you are into makes very little differance, do you kick puppies? do you slag off people because they dont think what you think, thats when I get shitty and start being angry because other than that i dont care, do what you do so long as it doesnt affect anyone else who doesnt what to be affected who cares

P.s (edit) Hiya La not seen you for a while hope you are ok




OmegaG -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:57:04 AM)

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Don't see anything in the definition about judging, playing nice or getting along.  This is a community only because it is designed to bring like minded people to one place.  In this case, like minded is a fairly diverse population.

This community member personally hates when others try to mold the population to fit their personal definition of community.




mistoferin -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 11:58:29 AM)

On second thought LaT...maybe you're right....maybe it really IS Dodo bird season.




LaTigresse -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 12:04:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

I think what you are into makes very little differance, do you kick puppies?

P.s (edit) Hiya La not seen you for a while hope you are ok


NO PUPPY KICKING ALLOWED!!!

P.S. I am just fine........busy as hell, but peachy keen fine. Thank you for asking!! How's you?




RCdc -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 12:21:49 PM)

It does depend how you define community.  I personally do not belong to the community, but rather I exist within it.  In other words, I hold no responsibility to or for anyone.  You will find that some people have a need to belong to something - I don't because I already belong to Darcy.
 
But semantics aside - I don't believe in vanilla other than it being just another version of what gets someone off.  Its a level just like everything else.  Someone enjoying the use of handcuffs for example, does not mean they have a fetish for them.  In fact, they may not have a fetish at all, simply using a tool.  It would be misleading to allow the thought of them to be a fetish only, particularly for newcomers.
 
I don't believe it is up to anyone to accept peoples choices because it's not up to us to judge for others.  We should only be focusing on ourselves and our own relationships unless requested externally.  Judgements are not bad as long as we do not inflict our ethics and beliefs on others in an attempt to convert them to a certain way.  That would be unhealthy.
 
the.dark.





OmegaG -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 12:29:17 PM)

wonderfully said .dark

As an aside, someone laughed when I pulled out a silk scarf once, until I yanked it so tight that he found it was more effective then rope.  It's not what you use, it's how you use it.




SimplyMichael -> RE: Open for interpretation (6/25/2008 12:38:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LacedCorset

We are a community. A community that stands firm supporting each other. When someone comes on here and exclaims that they enjoy using simple things like handcuffs and scarves, do we judge them for being too vanilla? Or do we accept them that they want to learn about the fetish lifestyle that all of us enjoy?


So handcuffs and scarves are "simple" and thus "less" than other implements?
Isn't "too vanilla" a judgment against both vanillas and implies that the farther from that you get the better?
So only new people use handcuffs and scarves?

The list of judgements in there is a mile long




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