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Lumus -> Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 4:33:38 PM)
A lot of my life is repetition - like anyone else: wake, work, eat, sleep [lather, rinse and sometimes repeat]. I don't go out of my way to explore every nook and cranny of the lifestyle; I'm not an expert at it, or some mythical font of knowledge. I don't attend munches. What I actually do, though, I enjoy quite a bit. [Quick disclaimer for those who know me: despite the arrival of Rain, I haven't set her on fire; all her limbs are still attached; she can still speak coherently; and she remembers what clothes are. I'm creative when I want to be, and I think most people are glad of the fact that I don't act on every inspiration...especially Rain...] This doesn't bother me in the least. I'm quite content as I am. I'm always open to suggestion, but I rarely receive input. [That's an observation, not a complaint.] In the nine months since I first popped my head through the front door of this site, I've seen many a poster thirsting for more - more exploration; more intensity. Well, the stereotype about being adrenalin junkies floats through the community for a reason, and sometimes I get caught up in it, too. [;)] If I don't master fire play or shibari, though, I won't feel unfulfilled. I'm happy. Rain makes me happy. [:)] For all the bumps and turns, I like the road I'm on. So even though some might call this a rut, as much as I like the bestial translation of rutting, I dislike the connotation of being bored - I'm not. I'm rolling along, groovin' in my own groove, and things are well. Who else out there is content with their level of knowledge and activity? Anyone? If not, what's stopping you [if you know...and I wince in anticipation of the number of replies I could see with the tone of, "Because I'm single, unlike you, pinhead!" - this isn't about gloating, it's about where you are in terms of what you want]?

Emperor1956 -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 4:43:54 PM)
Lumus, and all: I am entirely content with where I am, and I am constantly seeking more knowledge and better experiences. A dichotomy? Perhaps. But in life as well as in D/s, I strive to be happy where I am, or more important, to make my own happiness (I have learned that both "happiness" and "luck" rarely are external; you make your own, you seize opportunities when they arise and you reap what you sew). But being happy doesn't quench the desire to learn more about WIIWD and to put it into practice (I'm one who likes to see his book larnin' turn into real time experience). I can be happy and at the time be a mind forever voyaging. I have learned certain truths about myself and B/D/S/M. I will never be a Shibari master (I don't have the patience; and rope, while nice, doesn't in itself thrill me). I will never be as fast a takedown artist as Midori. I will never star in any kink.com movie of any flavor posted on any site (and God, who would WANT to?). I have also learned certain supposed truths are false. A saying in the B/D/S/M ans swingers clubs of the 80s was "Swans fly with swans, and geese fly with geese". That's generally true, but every once in a while a lovely young swan might decide to check out the nasty old goose at the other side of the pond -- and I am THERE when she does! And that makes me happy. E.

fluffyswitch -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 5:11:56 PM)
i would like a little more play time but that's more of a scheduling issue than anythign else. i'm more than happy overall.

Prinsexx -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 5:15:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus A lot of my life is repetition - Yes my life too. It has had to be because the three R's routines, rituals and recovery are what keep me sane. UMs and animals and bills and the ever increasing cost of living but it's a spiritual thing too. Most people I know of the same age or older will say roughly the same thing. Like when I was a teenager I used to, or when I was much younger i used to.... I was entirely spontaneous in my teens and early twenties. I was a high risk-taker in all areas of life. When I was 17 I hitched across Europe entirely on my own with nought but a single mountaineers tent on my back and a switch blade in my pocket. i have taken risks in business affairs and wow how so in relationships. I miss the adrenalin of living on the edge like that. I hold a dream that when I have an empty nest I will be ready for another good ten years of adrenalin filled life again. the Berlin Wall is down in Euroipe and so too the Wall in people's minds.......perhaps eh? Oh yes lest i forget this is a bdsm site....about the lifestyle....there isn't a seam between my bdsm and my 'other' life. There is no Wall in my headthere either. Yes this is a reflective period for me. A quiet time. Rituals of greeting and sometimes meeting and a great deal of reptition as in oh look yet another email to read....what a blessing making friends is.....and pergaps there will be another drama filled mind-fuck around the temporal corner again....but no contrary to popular belief my life is not a constant drama filled self=masochism. There's a great deal of chips and kids.......and groovin, on a Sunday afternoon.............maybe there's a tall dark handsome very strange stranger about to whisk me off....but even with the best foresight in the world it's more fun not to know.

Level -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 5:49:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus Who else out there is content with their level of knowledge and activity? Pretty much, Lumus. I don't care about ropes, or fire, or shooting a submissive out of a cannon. Places like JT's Stockroom sell all sorts of easy to use doohickeys to bind someone, and I know what to do with a paddle (ping pong?), or crop, and I'm not totally inept with a flogger, if I can just remember which end to hold.

MzMia -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 5:59:00 PM)
I am happily single, content with my knowledge and activities. I am into the D/s aspects, not the S/m. Many of us are content in our little D/s worlds. [:D] I am not a "heavy player", and I have no interest in becoming a "whip master", "rope master" "Bondage Queen", or anything remotely similar. I am not interested in performing those activities. I do enjoy watching these activities, and I admire those with great skills and techniques. Down the road, I plan to start attending a few demo's, but I am not in a hurry. The things I love to do, I can/could do them DAILY for the rest of my life. And never get enough.[:D] I love my life.

christine1 -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 6:04:48 PM)
i'm in the best spot i've ever been in as far as where i am in terms of what i want. in about 11 weeks i'll be moving to Him...took me a very long to find Him and i wasn't even looking when He came along. my life has been a course of one thing, (good and bad, and yes sometimes very "ruttish), leading to another thing and so on and here i am...content, and happy as a clam. (although sunshine tells me i look more like a pancake with 2 eggs for eyes lol)

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 6:08:36 PM)
My life is in "reset" mode right now. I am looking at what I do and don't do, and why. There are some things I would like to try more, there will always be things I want to learn about and hear about, but by and large, I am who I am . I will never be a bondage queen. I can tie my shoes. I have cuffs and snap hooks. I have lots of dark fantasies, many of which will never come true, and probably shouldn't. I am still alone, but my understanding of what I really need trumps any desire to foolishly settle for something lesser, or not-quite-almost. I have a really nice life, overall. There are some black times, but I have a family and friends that love me, somewhere to live, a job, a car, and a blue cross card. Oh, and yarn. You could fly a kite to Mars, I got that much yarn. A hitachi with that nifty new head, and my contentment will be (nearly!) complete.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 6:13:12 PM)
Lumus, you sound happy my man, awesome. To enjoy life’s journey is a wonderful thing. In the music industry, the drummer always set “the groove”. It is the rhythm of that groove that holds the rest of the music together. Much like you describe the rhythm your life. I also used to ride (motorcycles) and I had a favorite stretch of rode. I never got tired of getting up to speed and finding my groove through those lovely long and winding curves. Thanks for the thread, it was a nice read.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 6:17:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level Pretty much, Lumus. I don't care about ropes, or fire, or shooting a submissive out of a cannon. Well you're no fun! scratches Level off of my list of potential cannoneers Guess I'll hafta keep dragging this dang cannon ball to someone elses house. [sm=ballchain.gif]

Level -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 6:20:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: Level Pretty much, Lumus. I don't care about ropes, or fire, or shooting a submissive out of a cannon. Well you're no fun! scratches Level off of my list of potential cannoneers Guess I'll hafta keep dragging this dang cannon ball to someone elses house. [sm=ballchain.gif] Ohhhh, okay, but I am NOT setting you on fire!

Leatherist -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 7:09:31 PM)
I like learning and creating. The day I cease to do otherwise will be the day my body goes cold. Grooves are for record needles. The ones with a scratch on them-sort of like "ground hog day".

xxblushesxx -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 7:21:06 PM)
I'm not sure whether we're in a groove or in a rut. But we're comfortable... lol We seem to have peaks where we are exploring new things for a certain amount of time, and other times where we're just comfy. It just depends.

pinkieplum -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 9:36:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus A lot of my life is repetition - like anyone else: wake, work, eat, sleep [lather, rinse and sometimes repeat]. I don't go out of my way to explore every nook and cranny of the lifestyle; I'm not an expert at it, or some mythical font of knowledge. I don't attend munches. What I actually do, though, I enjoy quite a bit. [Quick disclaimer for those who know me: despite the arrival of Rain, I haven't set her on fire; all her limbs are still attached; she can still speak coherently; and she remembers what clothes are. I'm creative when I want to be, and I think most people are glad of the fact that I don't act on every inspiration...especially Rain...] This doesn't bother me in the least. I'm quite content as I am. I'm always open to suggestion, but I rarely receive input. [That's an observation, not a complaint.] In the nine months since I first popped my head through the front door of this site, I've seen many a poster thirsting for more - more exploration; more intensity. Well, the stereotype about being adrenalin junkies floats through the community for a reason, and sometimes I get caught up in it, too. [;)] If I don't master fire play or shibari, though, I won't feel unfulfilled. I'm happy. Rain makes me happy. [:)] For all the bumps and turns, I like the road I'm on. So even though some might call this a rut, as much as I like the bestial translation of rutting, I dislike the connotation of being bored - I'm not. I'm rolling along, groovin' in my own groove, and things are well. Who else out there is content with their level of knowledge and activity? Anyone? If not, what's stopping you [if you know...and I wince in anticipation of the number of replies I could see with the tone of, "Because I'm single, unlike you, pinhead!" - this isn't about gloating, it's about where you are in terms of what you want]? <Runs in and and hollars 'pinhead!', LMAO.> I am happy with where I'm at. I want more people in my [real life] who are into D/s, but I'm taking it slowly. I think finding a quality D/s relationship is like gambling; odds are against it, but if you don't try, you have zero chance of winning. Congrats on Your happiness, Lumus, and thank You for sharing it a little bit. pinkieplum

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 10:08:32 PM)
Oh it's pretty well known the most common thing I say about myself is how boring I am. It would be false to say I do not wish for things or desire to know more about them, but I also am pretty darn content to just be who I am now. It's not a "have-do-be" dynamic, it's a "be-have-do" one.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 10:12:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level Places like JT's Stockroom sell all sorts of easy to use doohickeys to bind someone, and I know what to do with a paddle (ping pong?), or crop, and I'm not totally inept with a flogger, if I can just remember which end to hold. Level, I just wanted to say you rock. [sm=yourock.gif] But if you ever do light BRN on fire, I wanna watch!!

chiaThePet -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/23/2008 10:13:12 PM)
Every now and then when I see someone getting ready to swat a fly, I run over and stick my ass in the line of fire. Ah, good times. chia* (the pet)

Level -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/24/2008 3:45:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: Level Places like JT's Stockroom sell all sorts of easy to use doohickeys to bind someone, and I know what to do with a paddle (ping pong?), or crop, and I'm not totally inept with a flogger, if I can just remember which end to hold. Level, I just wanted to say you rock. [sm=yourock.gif] But if you ever do light BRN on fire, I wanna watch!! Thank you, beautiful lady, I feel the same about you [;)] And bring marshmallows [8D]

DominantJenny -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/24/2008 6:04:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus A lot of my life is repetition - like anyone else: wake, work, eat, sleep [lather, rinse and sometimes repeat]. I don't go out of my way to explore every nook and cranny of the lifestyle; I'm not an expert at it, or some mythical font of knowledge. I don't attend munches. What I actually do, though, I enjoy quite a bit. [Quick disclaimer for those who know me: despite the arrival of Rain, I haven't set her on fire; all her limbs are still attached; she can still speak coherently; and she remembers what clothes are. I'm creative when I want to be, and I think most people are glad of the fact that I don't act on every inspiration...especially Rain...] This doesn't bother me in the least. I'm quite content as I am. I'm always open to suggestion, but I rarely receive input. [That's an observation, not a complaint.] In the nine months since I first popped my head through the front door of this site, I've seen many a poster thirsting for more - more exploration; more intensity. Well, the stereotype about being adrenalin junkies floats through the community for a reason, and sometimes I get caught up in it, too. [;)] If I don't master fire play or shibari, though, I won't feel unfulfilled. I'm happy. Rain makes me happy. [:)] For all the bumps and turns, I like the road I'm on. So even though some might call this a rut, as much as I like the bestial translation of rutting, I dislike the connotation of being bored - I'm not. I'm rolling along, groovin' in my own groove, and things are well. Who else out there is content with their level of knowledge and activity? Anyone? If not, what's stopping you [if you know...and I wince in anticipation of the number of replies I could see with the tone of, "Because I'm single, unlike you, pinhead!" - this isn't about gloating, it's about where you are in terms of what you want]? In general, I'm pretty content. I'm actually coming OUT of a long period of basic stasis at this time, but my expansion/exploration efforts are not urgent or required, merely something I can do since I happened to come here, a place with fresh viewpoints to peruse. When I'm done, I'll be done. (I'm pretty close to done, I suspect.) So I know what you mean, even though at this precise moment, I'm in the other mode.

Sabella -> RE: Groovin' In A Groove (6/24/2008 6:10:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level I don't care about ropes, or fire, or shooting a submissive out of a cannon. tears Ok I needed that laugh this morning [:D] I'm happy with where we're at. I wish for a bit more excitement (like an extra bowl of ice cream) from time to time simply because I'm greedy and I know it. The rituals and the ruts aren't necessarily a bad thing, they are the road we know is waiting at our back when we venture off it to chase the wild things. What stops me is tempering my desires to his needs. Well, sometimes [;)]

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