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How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 5:13:01 PM   
neophyteanna


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Status: offline 		Help me people!  I recently have had this one guy who has been writing to me constantly.  He isn't soliciting me or being crude; he just doesn't like one of my stated preferences that appears in my profile and is DEMANDING that I appease him by explaining myself.  I have blocked him, and each time I did he created another profile just to continue to harass me.  He tells me now that if I don't deal with him, and each time I block him, he will report my profile as being underage from each of his different profiles until collarme.com takes down my account.  I have reported his emails that threatened this, but he is still writing to me.  Is there anyway I can talk/email directly with collarme personnel to explain this situation?  I really want this guy to get a life and stop bothering me, but I don't want to restart another account.
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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 5:16:05 PM   
Owner59


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From: Dirty Jersey
Status: offline 		Don`t be so damm hot?

Seriously,if you block them and they reappear constantly,you may have to get a new account/profile with a new name and no pix of you showing.

Good luck.

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 5:20:11 PM   
neophyteanna


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Status: offline 		Lol, thanks.  I guess I can try to be fugly for a while, but I might not like it.  If it keeps happening I might just email all my friends on this site that I have made and move on to a new account, but I like this one.  It's finally "lived-in" and doesn't have that new account smell anymore.

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 5:27:23 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		He does have a life... pestering you.  Change your lived in account and take charge, it is the only way really.  You can keep this one hidden and use another until he has a life pestering someone else.  Or just keep blocking him.  He is feeding off your response.  He doesn't know where you live or anything else.  It only cost a block here and there.  Don't let the lil bugs get to you... just spray um.

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 5:28:29 PM   
Sabella


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Status: offline 		Just don't reply to any of them. 

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 5:53:34 PM   
TheGaggingWh0re


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I'd go there and report him. Also, I'd put in all of his mail that he sent you, including the one threatening to get you banned. You shouldn't have to put up with it, and hopefully this will all pan out for you. I believe they might be able to ban his IP address. I don't reply to a lot of the silly mail I get, and I'm rarely ever pestered by them again.

Hopefully you won't have to change your profile :(

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 6:26:30 PM   
popeye1250


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

He does have a life... pestering you.  Change your lived in account and take charge, it is the only way really.  You can keep this one hidden and use another until he has a life pestering someone else.  Or just keep blocking him.  He is feeding off your response.  He doesn't know where you live or anything else.  It only cost a block here and there.  Don't let the lil bugs get to you... just spray um.


Teanna, just don't reply to him anymore.
Lockit's right, you're giving him his "jollies."
He's probably some fucking pathetic, disgusting, gnome who's neighbors are afraid of him because of his ugliness who's frantically masterbating at his computer in his parent's basement that he has fixed up as his bedroom for no rent everytime you reply.
And he probably has plenty of time to do it since being layed-off from a fast food place.
You know the type.
Limping down the street because he has painfull blisters on the head of his dick from 12 hours a day of masturbating.
Dogs bark at him as he passes by, cats snarl.
More likely in his 30 or 40's living at home with his aging parents (s).
The neighborhood kids throw rocks at him and tease him about the warts on his nose.
His left eye is so beautiful that his right eye keeps looking at it.
Cheeks like pedals, bicycle pedals.
He has to ask his aging parents for an advance on his "allowance" to get a "40 ouncer" of Colt 45 and a pack of butts.
Does he like Obama?
You BET he does!

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 6:30:15 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		Popeye, you know about this guy a little bit too much!

< Message edited by MzMia -- 6/22/2008 6:33:06 PM >

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 6:36:33 PM   
popeye1250


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

Popeye, you know about this guy a little bit too much!


Mia, I was "speculating" as to this miscreant's social and economic status.

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 6:39:23 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Hey, anna, just use my pic on your profile and he'll leave you alone.  

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 7:06:47 PM   
neophyteanna


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Status: offline 		I know better than to write back to creeps like this, and I think its the fact that I have ignored him and blocked him each time that is making him focus on me more.  I don't write back because I know now that it encorages him.  Thanks for all the tips so far though!

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/22/2008 8:52:38 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		be pro active .. you've blocked him so now you need to protect yoursef/account if you want no problems. 
personally i would contact a moderator and ask them how best to handle this. 
it is their site.......... 


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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/23/2008 12:24:44 AM   
JulieorSarah


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Status: offline 		I recevied a random SMS about a year ago on a friday night and thought it was someone i knew and responded ... it became apparent we did not know each other at all ...

Fortunately  i was going away with some friends to a remote area - no reception - when we drove out on the sunday my message box filled up and the phone just about exploded with all the messages, starting calmly and then becoming more and more abusive.  I went to report him. The service line was only open on M-F!  the last SMS from him was early on the Sunday.  Apart from two sms from me on the friday - i didnt' respond - at all.  it took some time but they stopped in two day ... i still reported the number however ... and gave consent for my phone records to be used.  I heard nothing further.

Just don't respond, don't block anymore, just don't respond - report him to the moderators, and find out how you can forward his contacts to them - they will deal with him. and everytime he communicates, forward it.  Just don't respond to him.

Idiots who can't take no for an answer, who don't understand what no means, get there 'fun' from winding up their victims ... he is nothing more than a school yard bully.


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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/23/2008 12:29:53 AM   
SweetNika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

be pro active .. you've blocked him so now you need to protect yoursef/account if you want no problems. 
personally i would contact a moderator and ask them how best to handle this. 
it is their site.......... 



What Quivver said. Contact a mod and ask them how to handle it.

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/23/2008 4:19:07 AM   
pinkieplum


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ORIGINAL: neophyteanna

Help me people!  I recently have had this one guy who has been writing to me constantly.  He isn't soliciting me or being crude; he just doesn't like one of my stated preferences that appears in my profile and is DEMANDING that I appease him by explaining myself.  I have blocked him, and each time I did he created another profile just to continue to harass me.  He tells me now that if I don't deal with him, and each time I block him, he will report my profile as being underage from each of his different profiles until collarme.com takes down my account.  I have reported his emails that threatened this, but he is still writing to me.  Is there anyway I can talk/email directly with collarme personnel to explain this situation?  I really want this guy to get a life and stop bothering me, but I don't want to restart another account.


Yes, there is. Go to the Main page, click on 'Help' and scroll all the way down to the bottom.  in the sig line will be an option to 'contact support'.
 
Be sure you give support info on all the nicks he's used, especially the one he's using now, so that if they decide to take action they can ban him by his IP.  It's imperfect -- he can use a proxy or get a new ISP -- but banning this guy by nick seems pointless.
 
Sad as it is to suggest, perhaps you need to delete your account -- at least on the other side.  i gather you could still s'how come one the boards and post, if that matters to you.
 
If you want to know how this works, i'd suggest you post the question in 'Test Section'; P/pl have been quite generous in explaining the CollarMe features there IME.
 
i'm very sorry you've attracted a nutjob, and i wish you well.
 
pinkieplum
 

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/23/2008 4:30:07 AM   
XaviersXian


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From: Australia
Status: offline 		I, personally, wouldn't reply to him.  The more you pay attention (even to bother to tell him to bugger off), the more he'll keep annoying you.  People love attention.  Just delete the posts as they come in, after awhile, he'll realise you've stopped "playing his game" and move onto someone else (or, with any luck, disappear entirely).

good luck!

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RE: How to deal with harrasment on this site? - 6/23/2008 4:45:28 AM   
KatyLied


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From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		I would ignore him, in all of his incarnations.  Sometimes blocking people just gives them the attention they need and they will make new screen names, it's like a game to them.  If you ignore him he will soon move on.  Don't change your screen name or delete your profile, unless of course, you enjoy submitting to guys like that, because you are giving him the authority to control you.

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