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Rejection - 6/21/2008 10:51:58 AM

sensiia

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Though this is just a rant... WTF is up with people that they must be so rude when you politely reject them. In my 5 years on cm I have had, maybe a handful of rude men reply with a nasty retort. A good thing about this is, it shows me what kind of so called doms are here (no this isn't a bitter post, I met some wonderful people here and friends with quite a few offline). One email they almost praise you then when the rejection email is sent they can be so rude.

Does this happen often to others? I am sure it does.

How do you respond or do you...

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 10:54:41 AM

Deliena

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Hmm maybe I'm doing it wrong, I just hit the automatic "involved" button and it sends that daft form letter back - never hear from them again.

Of course the ignore button is also useful.

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 10:56:03 AM

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Sour grapes. I cant have it, so i have to make sure they know why I didnt really want it anyway.
I ignore it, honestly. If someone is dumb enough not to read what my profile says about looking (or not inn my case) and want to get rude about it, then I just tell them its not my fault they were too dumb to read up in the first place and spare their delicate feelings.
If I were you, Id just reply with a simple "Thank you for proving me right in rejectiing you beyond a shadow of a doubt. If you are that thin skinned, we would never have worked out anyway" and then block and ignore.

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 10:57:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Deliena

Hmm maybe I'm doing it wrong, I just hit the automatic "involved" button and it sends that daft form letter back - never hear from them again.

Of course the ignore button is also useful.

Color me confused - there is a button on collarme that sends a form letter saying that you are involved?

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 10:57:19 AM

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i don't respond. i just ignore them. if i need to i block them.

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 10:58:57 AM

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Sure it happens, it is hillarious.

I particularly get a kick out of how a supposed 'Dominant' man loses his wits over something so simple as rejection.

I merely reminds me that he is a weakling from the get-go and I am glad that my rejection-sensor is accurate. LOL

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 11:04:08 AM

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yes there are...they are relatively nice concise letters that let a person know that you are not interested for whatever reason.

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 11:05:53 AM

stella41b

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Yes, it seems a few appear to confuse BDSM relationship skills with being a toddler.

It's best not to get upset, but imagine them there, either throwing themselves all over the carpet flailing their arms about or sitting there in front of a computer, thumb stuck in their mouth, arms folded, refusing to speak to anyone.

Pity you can't be there with a rattle or pacifier, isn't it?

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 11:07:44 AM

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i don't respond. i just ignore them. if i need to i block them.

i just block them myself...most of the ones who send compliments are ones trying to get into my pants....they are almost always sub males of the 40-50+ age. half of them are on a different continent. the other half are form letters.

i dont send out emails anymore to mistress's since i always got rejected myself...but i never sent any nasty msgs to them...although i am guilty of sending nasty msgs back to those that send me nasty msgs (usually sub males age 30 or less do this).

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 11:08:33 AM

sensiia

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Diurnal Vampire,

Thanks for your post. I normally reply with, Good luck in your search. I try to respond to my emails unless of course they are rude from the beginning or they send a simple hello, those normally get deleted. When someone takes the time to write me a paragraph or more I usually will shoot off an email.

I do find it entertaining how one calls himself dom yet loses control over a rejection email, I just can't understand why people are so rude.

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 11:09:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sensiia

Though this is just a rant... WTF is up with people that they must be so rude when you politely reject them. In my 5 years on cm I have had, maybe a handful of rude men reply with a nasty retort. A good thing about this is, it shows me what kind of so called doms are here (no this isn't a bitter post, I met some wonderful people here and friends with quite a few offline). One email they almost praise you then when the rejection email is sent they can be so rude.

Does this happen often to others? I am sure it does.

How do you respond or do you...

Yup, this happens too often.

Therefore I've stopped sending polite rejection letters. They should just face the fact that no reply= no interest.

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RE: Rejection - 6/21/2008 11:19:33 AM

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I've found it rather amusing myself, and have considered using examples from previous emails as fodder for my journal (names changes to protect me from moderation of course.) I don't get much email from people since I limited the scope of my profile, but before I did that I received a surprisingly large armount of hate mail for politely saying thank you, but no thank you. I found the intensity of the reaction to be rather disturbing at times, which left me pretty blasted grateful for the near miss.

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