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Termyn8or -> RE: Definition please (6/21/2008 5:37:00 AM)
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It is more context. I also find it not smart to use UM to try to gloss it over. If you are talking about a young person, one not of age just use the proper term.
The way I see it CM is not going to tolerate talking about UMs in any sexual way, unless it is a Parent worried that their daughter may come home pregnant. Things like that.
People use the words 'kids' and 'children' all the time here, but it is the context. If you get out of line, using the term 'UM' it not going to save your ass.
This is an online forum, and people will talk about their kids, their graduations, moving out, being born, all that. This is all part and parcel of an online group such as this. I don't see threads pulled for simply mentioning children, to do so would be to imply that us kinky folk should not have them, when after being around here for awhile, I can not find much that is further from the truth.
The term UM seems to give people a false sense of security against further hacks and attacks by the nilla crowd. In fact I think even the use of the term 'UM' is detrimental.
This is an online community of how many tens of thousands of people ? Let's say one is a pedophile, then when they get caught (which I hope they do) in the courts and newspapers they can further villify us by saying "Look, this guy goes to a website that uses a code word for children".
So I must agree with Mod 11 on this, it does not make it OK. I'd recommend against it. It is context. Young people exist in life and will be discussed. People come in here and say their oldest UM just graduated etc., why can't they say son or daughter ?
I say don't try to subvert that which does not need to be subverted. And if something does require subversion I am sure it is quite unwelcome here.
It's like in the TOS, no mention of illegal activity. But if someone got robbed and wants to relate the story that does not get bounced. Someone has mentionerd getting raped, not by a member or anything but that's how it is and they want to discuss it. They won't bounce that.
I have read the TOS once and have inadvertently violated it here and there, and it has been explained to me that it cannot quite be explained to me. But I am starting to get the gist of it. You see I now realize that this is the largest of the large, the best foot so to speak, the almost representative of the BDSM community to the rest of the world.
That is why it is so important to be careful what you post here, you know it can be viewed by anyone, but only members can post. CM wants to put out a positive impression of our ilk, and I think most here are good people.
So there are so many exceptions to the rule, and there are rules in place which have yet to be written. But that's the way it is. If you want total freedom try Usenet, but get ready for some spam and other annoyances.
I still say using the term 'UM' is not right. Use the right word. If the post is unwelcome for whatever reason it doesn't matter what term you use. In other words, don't try to hide when you have no reason to hide.
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