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subtee -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:11:40 PM)
It's so easy to use this kind of question to chest-pound about uber Dom- subliness...lovely for you. You "can't take a break from who you are." Okay. What defines "the lifestyle" from which the question references regarding taking a break? I don't want to start another semantical, drawn out, agonizing definition thread, but if you're not actually, actively participating, then might you not be "in" the lifestyle? And if you weren't actively participating, might it be possible that you may, on occassion, feel like not pursuing that participation? Or is it like saying "I am a Taurus, I can't take a break from being a Taurus?" A Taurus is not a lifestyle... [Edited to change a word I didn't like.]

Skully7000 -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:17:32 PM)
I don't take a break from the Goth Scene...I'm only focusing more on Fetish events... I don't take a break from Concerts I just prefer Clubs more... I'm sure eventually I will attend less fetish events and more of other stuff...am I taking a break...hell no...just redirecting my energies to my current interest... doesn't mean I can't do whatever I feel like whenver I feel like... I still go to plenty of Goth events... just on nights when there isn't a fetish event. etc etc. as for play...dynamics...the move and change organically...While I will always put the effort into them to make them thrive I will also be realistic in doing what is right for me and my partners etc.

stella41b -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:20:19 PM)
I sit on the fringes anyway so I come in, go out, and somehow meander through.. Sometimes I disappear, and sometimes I come back.. I'm probably one of the few who are stable in their instability.

trappedinamuseum -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:27:35 PM)
When I get extremely frustrated with how things are going, or a lack of, or when I need time to re-evaluate exactly what I am searching for, or need to back away from an unhealthy situation, then I take a break. But, I always come back. I can't escape, or hide what I am.

mztresn0w -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:29:31 PM)
I took a 3 1/2 year break from the lifestyle. My submissive and I parted ways and I was just not happy with my life in general. So I started to date vanilla and became involved with a vanilla man. He had no interest in the lifestyle so I spent those years in a wonderful relationship. It was part of my journey and I don't regret one thing that I did or did not do. We all have our journey in life and nothing is set in stone. I came back to the lifestyle and now really don't see me putting it aside. The people in my life at are inportant to me know who I am and accept that it.

chiaThePet -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:29:42 PM)
Sorry, I was in the bathroom. Did I miss anything? chia* (the pet)

subtee -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:30:31 PM)
Those are activities. Is that what constitutes "the lifestyle?"

subtee -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:32:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stella41b I sit on the fringes anyway so I come in, go out, and somehow meander through.. Sometimes I disappear, and sometimes I come back.. I'm probably one of the few who are stable in their instability. Very cool statements.

subtee -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:37:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet Sorry, I was in the bathroom. Did I miss anything? chia* (the pet) Hahahaha good grief I love the Pet, Chia.

angelwithhonor -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:43:31 PM)
...chia i just love those eyeeeeeeeeessssss..winks

angelwithhonor -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:45:14 PM)
[:@]...off the subject but why does it take so long on new pics all i did was take one down and passed it around.lol.....damnnnnnnn them..

chiaThePet -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:50:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelwithhonor ...chia i just love those eyeeeeeeeeessssss..winks "They're breasts Momma, and every woman has them." (Sissy Spacek in the much beloved "Carrie") chia* (the pet)

angelwithhonor -> RE: Taking a break (6/17/2008 6:59:11 PM)
but mine only has one stray hair that wont go away chia..why do you get all the hair and breast ...geeeeeeeeeeshhhhhhhhh[;)]

SireKane -> RE: Taking a break (6/18/2008 12:29:37 AM)
If being dominant or submissive is part of your core personality. I don't understand how you can take a break from being who you are. Does taking a break mean for that period you are not dominant or submissive? Does it mean that you temporarily have gone vanilla? Please enlighten me.

Strongmindbody -> RE: Taking a break (6/18/2008 1:22:46 AM)
I see "taking a break" as a time to scale back on active participation in BDSM, but not necessarily as an attempt to become someone else. I love to swim in the ocean. But when the water gets too damn cold, I take a break. Doesn't mean I no longer consider myself a swimmer. Maybe just a bit wimpier than I would like to admit... So yeah, I took a break. After a very long term Ds marriage disintegrated, I simply needed time to get my head together. Seemed like the obvious thing to do. Active participation in BDSM can be pretty intense, consuming a lot of time, energy, focus, what have you. At times, that might not be the best way to spend our lives. I can see any number of reasons to distance ourselves from the lifestyle for a while; even this water can turn cold.

SailingBum -> RE: Taking a break (6/18/2008 3:09:13 AM)
How can someone "take a break" from who they are? BadOne

TNstepsout -> RE: Taking a break (6/18/2008 5:24:12 AM)
I think I've taken more breaks than not. The whole concept was so new and foreign to me, that although exciting and fascinating, it required me to reexamine my persective and attitude about a lot of things, including myself. (mostly myself) So at times I just needed to sit back and let it all soak in. It's also taken me a long time to figure out what I really want out of it, and while I was "figuring" it didn't seem right to mislead other people.

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