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MistressAthenaX -> Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 11:27:35 AM)
So this is my first post on the message boards... This is a very open ended question, intended to spark some interesting conversation! What questions do you ask a new sub who approaches you online?

CoasttoCoast -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 11:49:28 AM)
"Are you sure you meant to contact me? Maybe you misspelled someone else's name?"

rubberpet -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 11:51:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressAthenaX So this is my first post on the message boards... This is a very open ended question, intended to spark some interesting conversation! What questions do you ask a new sub who approaches you online? MistressAthenaX, I've been asked, in the past, very direct questions. A few that stick out in my mind are: 1.) What are you looking for? Strictly D/s where you are just a service slave who will do the most menial tasks that are asked of you? Are you looking for online training? A live-in position? A romantic relationship centered around D/s and Mistress/slave? 24/7 or just ocassional play? 2.) What is your experience? Have you ever served a domme before? What was your role in that "relationship"? How long were you in her service? 3.) Do you have any references I may contact? Are there any dommes that can vouch for your character and seriousness? Usually, those three questions are enough to weed out the serious ones from the game players...especially the references. I hope this helps. [:)]

Misstoyou -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 11:53:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressAthenaX This is a very open ended question... Welcome to the boards. :) This is an open-ended answer, but my questions depend on the submissive's message, if I'm interested enough to have a question. lol Personally, I don't have a checklist.

malloves69 -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 11:54:46 AM)
hello mistress ..i think one very important question would be what ones interest are and what they seek from a mistress /dom ...if you have alot in common then the sessions should take place to see if theres any chemistry between you 2 [:)] if there is then start to develop and nourish the relationship ..if not say your good byes and move on ...like me i love strapon play ..and being fisted but if the lady has no interest in that chances are we wont get along very well ..love a lady in control but if im paying i should get to a certain degree what i ask [:)]i am open minded and not afraid to try new things ..past 2 years i have done plenty of that [:)] hope this helps ..mal [:)]

chickpea -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 1:04:28 PM)
question: what do you want to gain from service with me?

AtlantaMistress -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 1:12:08 PM)
My suggestion is to put in your profile that if a sub is contacting he needs to answer certain questions or provide information that you would want to know (like some of the examples given by rubberpet). This does 2 things - gives that info right up front, and weans out the cut and paste game players/time wasters who never even read your profile. If a sub isn't willing to take the time to read your profile, yet contacts you about serving you...big fed flag!

chamberqueen -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 1:13:39 PM)
I typically check their profiles. The less that is there, the more questions I ask. I tend to trust those with absolutely nothing in their profile less. I ask whether they are looking for online or real time service, whether they have looked at my profile and understand that I am a switch, the extent to which they have "played" before. If there is an incongruous age, like 99, I ask their real age. (My daughter knows of my lifestyle and she and I have a joking deal; that I will not take in a sub younger than her.) If they show signs of being in a committed vanilla relationship I ask about that. If there is no clue in what they've written I may ask why they chose to write to me. If things are looking good I will ask them if they have a special unfulfilled fantasy and have them give me details on that. In a first meeting in a public place I will ask about things like what safe word(s) they like to use, whether they have ever been in a session that went bad (and if so, how it went bad), whether they feel comfortable with me, and other similar questions. If I am comfortable and choose to have a session with them I will have the toys I expect to use laid out and ask if they feel comfortable with those, whether they have had similar ones used on them, review the safe word(s) again, and ask again if they feel comfortable with me. It is my own personal rule that new subs do not touch me unless commanded to, and I will ask to make sure that they completely understand that. Hope that helps. : ) Everyone will have their own questions. So far these have worked for me.

Puppy4goodHome -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 2:58:07 PM)
i think one would be to ask any ?s you can to get to know one better

PsyVamp -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 6:17:01 PM)
I ask them what was it about my profile that prompted them to write to me specifically. This usually weeds out a few right from the get go as you'll find a lot that just send the same "form letter" to each and every dominant female that they find on line. If they can't answer that with something that coincides with my profile, I don't continue the conversation. Welcome aboard. Lady Jag

pixelslave -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 7:20:13 PM)
I was going to suggest that you ask them what vanilla interests they had which coincided with yours that they especially enjoyed (one can't exactly do BDSM all the time). Then I looked at your profile and saw you didn't give them much of anything to work with. [>:] - pixel

Puppy4goodHome -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 8:41:57 PM)
that is somthing i would ask if i where Dom I actualy find myself as a submissive asking that somtimes went i get a email from a Domme at first and i for some reason dont think they have read my profile quote: ORIGINAL: PsyVamp I ask them what was it about my profile that prompted them to write to me specifically. This usually weeds out a few right from the get go as you'll find a lot that just send the same "form letter" to each and every dominant female that they find on line. If they can't answer that with something that coincides with my profile, I don't continue the conversation. Welcome aboard. Lady Jag

jonathan -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 10:22:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressAthenaX So this is my first post on the message boards... This is a very open ended question, intended to spark some interesting conversation! What questions do you ask a new sub who approaches you online? It's more like, what does he/she have to say to You? Do they approach You by answering what You have specified in Your profile? And Interests? Do You check their profiles and update times to see if they are real or just pandering to You to match what You say? If their profile update times match their responses to You, nah, i don't think so. Ignore.

Midnght -> RE: Interviewing new subs (6/15/2008 10:37:19 PM)
No one approaches me so I don't ask questions. }:>) But jeez what woudl I ask is hard to say a lot comes up in chat generally never quite think of what is actually asked.

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