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shivermetimbers -> RE: Right and wrong answers (6/11/2008 10:42:28 PM)
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IMHO, those of us who are in or desire a BDSM type of relationship tend to be very open minded as a whole. The "your kink isn't my kink but I accept it" sort of thing. I think the vanilla world, there is more pressure from outside influences and ideas as far as how the relationship is supposed to go and to follow accepted norms. I feel in kink relationships, there is already a certain thumbing of the nose at standard society. I guess you could say it's like a giant buffet with the kinksters, you can sort of pick and choose, which perhaps might make some choosy. With a vanilla relationship, at least from my experience, if two people start "committing" to each other, than they start on the path of making a presentation to the outside world to show a certain conformity. It's easier for conformists to conform, than it is for non conformists to kind of take a page out of their book when it comes time to entering a relationship.
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