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Owner4SexSlave -> RE: The Vanilla Truth (6/6/2008 5:13:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark
Well, there ya go, I learnt something new! So I do thank you for that.
I do find the whole 'vanilla all tastes the same' attitude totally misguided however. That is akin to saying all 'BDSM tastes the same' which it isn't. (And just to pre-warn you, I am synaesthesic [;)]). As I said, I just see these kind of threads - which are about as repeatative as the sub Vs slave debate - very one true way and as an attempt to make something 'different'. Everything is different, if it wasn't then snowflakes would all be the same.
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Thank you, because I just learned something new. I had never heard of "Synaesthesia" before just did a quick read of it on the Wikipedia. Actually thank you again for sharing it with me.
I tend to associate and memory map things in my mind and cross reference it. I'm not very linear at times in my thought constructions.
Yes, these types of threads are indeed are about as repeatitive as the sub vs. slave debates.
Now, for some people (thank you leatherist) Barry Manalow might be pretty vanilla but don't say that to a Barry Manalow fan, cause you might be in for a bit of a heated debate. Some people might even find dare I say it, "Judas Priest" to be rather vanilla. Again don't say that to a "Judas Priest" Fan. I believe the word "Vanilla" alone is a relative term.
Another repeating debate topic. Difference in views according to what "being in the BDSM lifestyle" actually means. Not everybody prescribes to it involving a D/s relationship. BDSM with or without D/s. Some people go so far, to proclaim unless you have a M/s TPE relationship that people are just practicing a waterdown version of "The Lifestyle" that accomdates for vanillas.
These threads lead right into heated debates and head butting at times.
The end of my OP I wrote this for a sort of conclusion to my thoughts on it all
"Some people are just more vanilla compared to other people. It's a sort of relative term. It all depends upon how much flavoring you have in your own life, and in your own world."
I tend to view things as such, as long as you practice one or more elements of BDSM in your life, on a frequent basis, it's part of your lifestyle. Basically take every letter of what BDSM represents break it down, and do one or more of those things. Perhaps, I've become too liberal minded about this.
I tend to view matters as such, some people are more Heavily involved in BDSM compared to others in different combinations of the BDSM letters.
It amazes me that people in lifestyle itself will simply refer to one another as Vanilla's doing nothing but kinky sex. A common theme when it comes to relationships not based on D/s.
Vanilla really becomes subjective and relative to personal perspectives.
I find myself rolling my eyes, at threads posting about incorperating "Vanilla" activities into the relationship. Such as going to the movies or dinner. It makes me want to scream. It's amazing how some people have this image of BDSM being a total and complete fracture from normal day to day living and life.
To me going to the movies or dinner is just "a normal" activitity to do. Oh wait, if I go do these things does it make me a vanilla head? Does it somehow void me from "the lifestyle"? What if I bring "a slave" with me out to see a movie? Does this mean I'm being too Vanilla with her? These lines of thinking and debates and even thread postings, just make me want to roll my eyes.
Personally, and this is for me personally. It would bore me to death keeping a slave chained and caged in my basement 24/7, just to go downstairs use for her sex, sadistic acts, clean her up with a garden hose, feed her a dish of dog food. And this was how day to day life was. Boring Boring Boring! It would get so old, it ain't funny! Actually, It would start to feel really plain to me. Actually it would become "Vanilla" according to one of the meaning in the dictionary. To me that would be "Vanilla". Boring Boring Boring. Might be entertaining for a little while, not something I want to do every day for the rest of life. I think anybody has tried what I just describe knows damn well, what I'm talking about.
Everybody is different, every relationship is different. Snowflakes, I love that analogy.
However, even a snowflake has characteristics, that seperates it from being hail, rain or sleet.
To rip off a line from Captain Kirk "We're All human, each and every single one of us"
BDSM does not mean a complete fracture from the rest of the human race.
I've recently redefined Vanilla in my book to mean anything plain. Be it plain sex, plain relationships, plain movies, plain music... I'm certain there are some really Plain Slave girls out there. I'm not really into wanting to own "a vanilla slave girl"! Boring Boring Boring.... I want somebody who's a little intelligent, and has a creative mind. Something besides just fuckmeat alone, or live in maid service.
Think perhaps the phase "Non lifestyler" is better choice of words to refer to people not in "the lifestyle", seems more accurate.
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