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ownedgirlie -> RE: Sensation not sex or sensual? (6/5/2008 7:55:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
Directly to your question, yes in deed there is a 'connection' between us regardless of who else is involved. We each get great pleasure seeing the other experience pleasure. We LOVE participating in the other's 'fun'. We LOVE the idea of participating or facilitating the other's fantasies. The 'connection' is so deep that the idea of jealousy, if others are involved isn't a consideration.
Yes! This is exactly what I was thinking. That no matter what is going on with the other party involved, you and beth are still connected, still in tune, and are enjoying participating, even if that means just "being there", in the other's experience. The connection remains, in fact it can be strengthened, when watching your partner.
I remember a particular experience which involved a "casual party", and I was so zoned in on my Master, as though there was this channel of energy zooming between us, even though he and I were not the ones touching. It was an experience we reflected on later, and one we mutually shared.
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Sometimes it is a matter of preference. For instance, I personally have no interest or desire for hot wax play. beth was curious about it. An opportunity arose for her to experience it at the hands of a very experienced, and very 'sensual' for that matter, dominant couple. The 'intercourse' that ensued between the four of us was marvelous; different colors, dripped from varying heights using beth as a 'canvas' produced interesting visual and tactile results. Much better than anything I could do alone. There was a four way 'connection' occurring, but none stronger than the fundamental connection between beth and I even though I had very little 'hands on' involvement.
Exactly. Even though it was someone else dripping the delicious colors on her, there was a shared energy between you (you & beth) that couldn't be matched. I get it. It's icing on the cake that a four way connection occurred.
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Sometimes the others who are involved are much more casual but are required more as a 'prop' than sensual intimacy. The 'connection' is that I know them, and trust them enough with my most valuable possession, my slave. Little, if any, mental/emotional connection is required or involved. It is much more difficult to express well and, at the same time, concisely in written words; easier using an example. Put it this way, one person, even an Italian, can't fulfill the fantasy of experiencing a something akin to a 'gang bang'. Again, very casual, and sensation driven for the men; the sensual would come into play with that 'connection' between us that you mentioned. At its extreme, consider the fantasy of having your head locked into the receiving end of a 'glory hole'. What comes through the hole are sensation props; what occurs in the Master and slave's head, the 'connection', is the sensual.
Once again, I get it. In fact this is exactly what I was referring to, that no matter what is occurring "outside" of you both, the intensity of what you are feeling together, for each other, with each other, can be amazing. What she does, she does for you, no matter who is physically subjecting to what you have decided for her. And you both know this, and the connection shared as a result can be amazing, yes?
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'Connection' represents the confidence and trust shared by the people in the relationship. Thanks for making sure that was included for consideration.
Thanks for replying! I actually think "connection" represents more than trust and confidence, depending on who is doing the connecting. To me, "connection" is shared energy - like you said, it's difficult to explain. It's an internal, emotional, maybe even spiritual sharing. At the risk of sounding weirder than I already am, I see connection as your spirits touching each other, and sharing something precious.
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