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Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/1/2008 8:43:11 PM

LadyPact

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Well, foks, the time has come.

I have done what I can in sharing My little corner of the world when it comes to talking about Myself, My life, My husband, and My collared sub. My little poly family has done our best to provoke you, educate you, stir discussion with you, and hopefully grow with you. To steal a line from GreenDay, this has been the time of My life. Now, as I feel it's imminent departure. To My great distress, the time of closure has come.

To My great credit, I have three weeks left of a glorious year with My boy. A portion of this time will be taken up with his volunteering with SouthEast LeatherFest. However, there are quiet moments still. There are a few, precious few, opportunities yet unexplored. It would be those possibilities, that I would hope to explore.

So, I am open to suggestion. Not one of those random thoughts of one's last night on earth or anything. I want his good-bye in his submission to be very special with Me. Something to last a lifetime, should he chose not to return. I want something.... spectacular. What can I do?

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/1/2008 8:49:40 PM

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What fulfills you? Quite honestly, just being together doing what makes you happy is right for me. When we moved away from the East Coast, we had taken three day weekend trips to cities nearby so we could say goodbye and enjoy them one last time together, then the last weekend we saw a movie, went to Coldstone and just cuddled together.

For me the spectacular is being in bliss together. Whatever specific thing you happen to be doing is just an expression of that. So what do you do that makes you feel most together?

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 5:05:24 AM

malloves69

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share him maybe with other lady friends of yours

some wearing strapons for their enjoyment

always wanted to do a strapon gang bang thing with my mistress ..bet that would be awesome to be tied up and blindfolded and used by women like that

and if they threw in a guy or 2 to see if i could tell the difference would be fun too

ladys usually have great imaginations and playfullness so im sure this wont be hard for you to plan Ms Lady ..have fun and enjoy

mal

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 5:33:17 AM

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While I appreciate the time you took to comment, mal, sharing the strap on fun isn't especially what I'm looking for.

LA, I think you hit on part of My quandry. There are so many things that fulfill Me that I am having difficulty deciding on those few activities that scheduling will permit.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 5:42:15 AM

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LadyPact,
whatever you do, don't turn it into Christmas. What i mean is, Christmas is just horrible for many people, full of crushing stress which can cause absolute breakdowns, all because of these impossible expectations that it be 'perfect'. Don't let that ruin this for you.
Whatever things you decide to do will be perfect, if you just relax into it. Even if you end up crying in his arms, or him in yours. Not that i am suggesting that - i am just saying, if you accept it as true, then there can be no wrong decission, no wrong thing to do.
If i were going to make a suggestion, it would be that you have a play session together that you work at making spectacular. If you concentrate on making it incredible for him, it will be incredible for you. Master is famous for these - i get them for weight loss goals, birthdays, ect. They are simply paly sessions that He throws his all into and doesn't allow any time contraints. For my birthday, he laid out nearly every impact toy he owned, chained me down, and gave me 40 whacks with *each*. and he kept the intensity at just the right level so i was flying the whole time. it was incredible.
Most of all, Remeber:
Whoever are gathered are the right people
whenever it begins is the right time to begin
whatever happens is the only thing that could have happened
when it over, it's over.

Blessings
when its over, its over.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 6:11:55 AM

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My answer and examples from my life, LadyPact, are dependent on what you wish to do.

A ceremony to mark him as yours even though you will be apart or a ceremony to give him his freedom with the hope that he might return.

If you know, I have had experience with both and can share the appropriate example.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 7:30:49 AM

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Tammyjo, as usual, hit it right on for me. While I do think that you should do the things you enjoy most, I think you should mark the occasion of your separation in some way.

My best to all three of you!

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 8:04:44 AM

pixelslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Tammyjo, as usual, hit it right on for me. While I do think that you should do the things you enjoy most, I think you should mark the occasion of your separation in some way.

My best to all three of you!

Lady Pact,
I think I'm in agreement with both TammyJo and Lady Hibiscus. Some kind of ceremony marking the transition between you and clip would seem appropriate to me, followed by time spent doing something that the two of you both find enjoyable or especially meaningful to you. I suggest you fill the next few weeks with those kinds of activities, perhaps mixed with the memorable ones that brought you together and told you that you should collar him as yours. For example, a trip to Atlanta perhaps if it fits your schedule?

That said, while you've asked for our input, I strongly suspect that you already know in your heart what will feel right for you to do.

- pixel

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 8:18:01 AM

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What's something that you've said, "Yeah, let's do that!" and never have?

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 11:22:52 AM

ElanSubdued

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Lady Pact,

i'm going to throw another vote into the "do what is special to You" pool. So as to avoid vagueness, i'll clarify a bit.

All to often, when i've been with a partner and we're in a situation similar to Yours, we've made the mistake of getting caught up in fancy arrangements. It's true, You could go on a trip together, construct an elaborate scene, host or have friends host a party in Your honor, and on and on. There is nothing wrong with any of these except for one thing: were i in Your position, i'd want close, uninterrupted, unencumbered time with my partner. Trips, hotels, parties, scenes, and all the other trappings are great, but they take time that You could be spending in a more close, intimate way.

i realize that You and clip don't have sexual intercourse, but i'd be surprised if you're not intensely intimate with one another. Thus, my suggestion is don't overburden Yourself with the trappings so as to miss the main course. Take the boy in Your hands and kiss him - for an hour, for two hours, or better, all night. It's true, You could take this as an opportunity to share a new "first" together, but my suspicion is that this won't provide what you both truly need and want.

Therefore, my suggestion is rather than planning more, plan less. Clear off schedules so that Your boy can sit at Your feet and pamper You, so that You can pamper him back, and so that you share a few days (or more) of completely uninterrupted time together. Perhaps You enjoy just talking, playing cards, holding each other, kissing, or, just to add variety, seeing Your boy bleed for You. Maximize your time enjoying one another as opposed to that managing peripheral details. Of course, this may not be what You want. You asked for thoughts so i'm putting this out there. i hope i'm not coming across rudely in a "telling You what to do" kind of way.

A final thought: were I the submissive and You wanted to leave a lasting mark on me, kissing would do it. So would biting, scratching, bruising, close intimacy, and a more permanent, physical marking from You (such as a special collar, arm bracelet, leg bracelet, ring, chain, or something else i could wear all the time, or, if appropriate for where i was going, a tattoo or piercing).

my best wishes to You and clip. i hope my thoughts are helpful in some way Lady Pact.

Elan.

P.S. Nine And A Half Weeks is a movie. They had a huge production crew to make that stuff happen (traveling to different locations, setting up special situations, rigging elaborate sets and lighting, dealing with schedules, and handling the actors needs and making them appear immersed and perfect). You've got three weeks left. You have a production crew of two (including Yourself). And, you're both the main attraction. i know i've repeated myself several times. At the risk of becoming annoying, i'll do so again. Really, don't over plan. Keep this in mind and i'm sure You'll make these last moments together very special and spectacular indeed. :-)

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 3:47:34 PM

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Lady Pact...I am sure you by this point in time have figured out pretty much what you want to do. I think the idea of some sort of ceremony is good if you feel inclined. In my humble opinion, you should do something that both of you will never forget. Do something that is different, something that you have always thought about or something that is truly unique that is just on the fly.
Have fun together...and mark the occassion.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 10:50:19 PM

LadyPact

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All of these have been really good comments, and thanks to everyone who made them.

MasterFireMaam, you know, for the life of Me, I can't think of anything off the top of My head that I've wanted to do, but haven't tried. Oh, I'm sure there's tons of things out there, but nothing I can think of. I tend to jump in on things that I want to do, so it isn't often that I know of what I want to do, but haven't tried.

My dear elan, your post was quite good. I absolutely want a good mix of both scenerios. For example, this evening was just quiet time. A pedicure and a massage were a wonderful way to just spend time together. In less than a couple of weeks, we'll be going to SELF, which will be less intimate during social hours and such. Still, we enjoy attending those kinds of things together. This one's going to be a huge blast!

Tsatske, that was really good. I know exactly what you mean by turning the whole thing into Christmas. Once upon a time, I was the kill Myself over making the perfect holiday type of person. Thank goodness I'm over that. As soon as I gave up on the concept, holidays became much happier, less stressed times.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 11:06:22 PM

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Iraq is a desert that is hot as hell. My Army doc spankee friend came home with a bigtime ulcer, because she had been pinned down for days, and she and everyone else chewed coffee grounds 24/7 so they wouldn't fall asleep. She also killed some people, and has no problem telling folks she hasn't been right in the head ever since.

Do things that will ground both him and you for the next twelve months. Give him things he won't have during that time. Take him to Chattahoochee so he can breathe deeply surrounded by lush greenery. Buy him the best espresso drink you can find. Share a homemade dessert. Build a touchstone that will remind you both of what is important when you feel alone.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/2/2008 11:33:47 PM

LadyPact

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Hiya Red,

He's actually been there three times before. Being the person that he is, he tries to find the best in everything. (He often tells Me that the shopping is great.)

I do get what you're saying, though. One of the good parts about being in GA is that it is very green here this time of year. I'll definitely put some of those good suggestions to use.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/3/2008 7:01:40 AM

Madame4a

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you've gotten some wonderful ideas... I have nothing new for you... but I'm feeling for you...

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/3/2008 12:52:31 PM

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Hey, LP, I apologize. It's a subject that's a little too raw for me and I should have stayed off the thread. I am sure that whatever you do will be wonderful, even if you decide on something different from any of the suggestions.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/3/2008 1:02:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Hey, LP, I apologize. It's a subject that's a little too raw for me and I should have stayed off the thread. I am sure that whatever you do will be wonderful, even if you decide on something different from any of the suggestions.

Dear, why should you have stayed off of the thread? I appreciated your comments, and seriously took them to heart. The only one of yours that I can't use is the 'best espresso I can find' idea. Not that it isn't a good idea for most, but My boy has ADHD and caffeine has something of a reverse effect on him. It calms him down, where it picks most people up.

Listen. There's nothing wrong with saying this type of situation effects us, and those close to us. It makes you a better man, in My opinion, to step up and be honest in saying so.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/4/2008 3:23:30 AM

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Grab his head in your hands and look him in the eyes and slowly lick his nose from the tip to his forehead. That ought to do it.

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/5/2008 1:39:02 PM

tsatske

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ewww, Dnomyer, Puppy Kisses!

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RE: Three, rather than nine and a half weeks - 6/5/2008 5:00:49 PM

MissEnchanted

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tsatske

LadyPact,
whatever you do, don't turn it into Christmas. What i mean is, Christmas is just horrible for many people, full of crushing stress which can cause absolute breakdowns, all because of these impossible expectations that it be 'perfect'. Don't let that ruin this for you.
Whatever things you decide to do will be perfect, if you just relax into it. Even if you end up crying in his arms, or him in yours. Not that i am suggesting that - i am just saying, if you accept it as true, then there can be no wrong decission, no wrong thing to do.
If i were going to make a suggestion, it would be that you have a play session together that you work at making spectacular. If you concentrate on making it incredible for him, it will be incredible for you. Master is famous for these - i get them for weight loss goals, birthdays, ect. They are simply paly sessions that He throws his all into and doesn't allow any time contraints. For my birthday, he laid out nearly every impact toy he owned, chained me down, and gave me 40 whacks with *each*. and he kept the intensity at just the right level so i was flying the whole time. it was incredible.
Most of all, Remeber:
Whoever are gathered are the right people
whenever it begins is the right time to begin
whatever happens is the only thing that could have happened
when it over, it's over.

Blessings
when its over, its over.

This was so close to what I wanted to say:
I think I'll quote it.

Lady P,
Whatever makes you feel really good, and flows.

My best,
ME

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