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Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 5:27:11 AM   
LadyLockdown


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Status: offline 		Can anyone here reccomend a hypno-therapist that can help my boy to accept cuckolding ? He wants to do this for me , but is afraid of feeling hurt when I do cuckold him. I think it's a bad idea , but it seems to be so important to him that I wanted to see if this idea is even possible ?

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 5:41:56 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		I can't recommend anyone and I don't think it's a good idea for anyone to do anything that might damage them psychologically.
Aren't their enough people who have been damaged by vanilla experiences before coming into the lifestyle without us adding anymore?
You should be taking responsibility for his welfare if he can't do this for you then you shouldn't be expecting him to.
Experience changes people naturally so in time he may very well be totally happy for you to cuckold him but he may not.
Relationships are difficult and sometimes no matter how hard we try we can't have everything we want.
Unless you desperately need to have another sexual partner then why not just forget that particular kink?

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 6:44:13 AM   
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I can't recommend anyone and I don't think it's a good idea for anyone to do anything that might damage them psychologically.
Aren't their enough people who have been damaged by vanilla experiences before coming into the lifestyle without us adding anymore?
You should be taking responsibility for his welfare if he can't do this for you then you shouldn't be expecting him to.
Experience changes people naturally so in time he may very well be totally happy for you to cuckold him but he may not.
Relationships are difficult and sometimes no matter how hard we try we can't have everything we want.
Unless you desperately need to have another sexual partner then why not just forget that particular kink?


I actually got the idea from the OP that it was HIM who wanted to do it, but was afraid... not HER pushing him....I could be wrong, though.-- Bitch 

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 6:48:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		This may be a lil radical... but if someone can't accept something... maybe they shouldn't be doing it.  Just a thought.

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 6:49:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyLockdown

Can anyone here reccomend a hypno-therapist that can help my boy to accept cuckolding ? He wants to do this for me , but is afraid of feeling hurt when I do cuckold him. I think it's a bad idea , but it seems to be so important to him that I wanted to see if this idea is even possible ?


I honestly have no clue where you might find such a therepist.  One thing though I can add, is I am a new cuckquean, and I will say...it is sooo rewarding to me to experience but that does not mean it doesn't sometimes hurt or make me feel insecure.  It is definately worth doing, as long as you are  very certain you can pick up the pieces afterward, but that is just my opinion.  My Master and I have been together/married for 12 years, so... I KNOW he can pick up my pieces if something goes wrong... if it's a new relationship, maybe you might want to just fantasize together about it and talk about it during and outside of scenes from every possible angle for awhile.  At least then you will both have time to think and plan it out.-- Bitch 

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 6:58:21 AM   
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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 7:31:23 AM   
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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 8:14:04 AM   
LadyLockdown


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Status: offline 		My Mistress instructed me to reply since this was my query. Mistress told me from the very beginning that I could expect to be Cuckolded 2-3 times a year. That was 3 months ago and recently Mistress told me that my first cuckolding would be this September during Her Bull's 5 day visit.  I Love this Woman with all of my heart. I can't imagine myself with anyone else. Hypno-therapy is my idea , so that i can handle the emotional roller coaster when i am cucked. I have given myself to Her almost completely , except for this one area. Somehow , I must do this. Any other logical , constructive suggestions ? Thanks for the replies.

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 8:22:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyLockdown

Can anyone here reccomend a hypno-therapist that can help my boy to accept cuckolding ? He wants to do this for me , but is afraid of feeling hurt when I do cuckold him. I think it's a bad idea , but it seems to be so important to him that I wanted to see if this idea is even possible ?

Then as you say it's a fear of being hurt then any trained hypnotherapist will be able to do this. The fact that he hangs his fear on cuckolding is neither here nor there.



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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 8:31:01 AM   
LadyLockdown


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Status: offline 		You are right Prinsexx. Fear is the only issue here. I am afraid of having to watch and be humiliated during those 5 long days. That will hurt me deeply.Still though , I want to fullfill Mistress' desire and be a good boy for Her.

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 8:31:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		so many of my best experiances in this life have come from looking at my fears dead in the eye...and doing them, i think i would not feel the sense of accomplishment and strenth of character if i was hypnotised to get through it.

also cucking can be incredibly intimate when that is you intention.



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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 8:33:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyLockdown

Can anyone here reccomend a hypno-therapist that can help my boy to accept cuckolding ? He wants to do this for me , but is afraid of feeling hurt when I do cuckold him. I think it's a bad idea , but it seems to be so important to him that I wanted to see if this idea is even possible ?

If it doesn't hurt, what's the point?

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 11:13:33 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		A therapist is likely going to tell you not to take part, rather than hypnotise you to be better prepared for the hurt.
You have to get through this on your own, have your Mistress help you. If you resort to a hypnotherapist to avoid the suffering you will initially have, then you will never acclimate to it.



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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 1:22:44 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Hypnosis isn't really a way to deal with fear unless the fear is irrational. The way to deal with fear is to face it. Courage isn't the absence of fear, it's action in the face of it.

Forcing him to do it isn't going to work either. The relationship should develop as fast as the slowest person. Are you SURE he wants to do it? If so, he needs to reprogram himself. Whenever he starts to have bad feelings about it, he needs to deliberately stop those thoughts and think the opposite.

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 2:42:21 PM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		There is a big difference between emotional pain and physical pain.
If someone purposely puts themselves through something which they know they can not really cope with to show their love for someone else it can destroy the very emotion that they are trying to show or destroy their self worth.
Fear is a normal and necessary emotion it should not be dismissed.
The fear of never gaining someone else's love or the fear of losing it can be destructive and the manipulation of love is abusive.
Just because someone wants to be able to cope with something doesn't mean that they can. Playing with fire can be risk assessed. This knd of playing with fire can't be.
I have no idea how to resolve the situation I just urge you both to rethink it.

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 2:48:49 PM   
MastersBitch96


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ORIGINAL: LadyLockdown

My Mistress instructed me to reply since this was my query. Mistress told me from the very beginning that I could expect to be Cuckolded 2-3 times a year. That was 3 months ago and recently Mistress told me that my first cuckolding would be this September during Her Bull's 5 day visit.  I Love this Woman with all of my heart. I can't imagine myself with anyone else. Hypno-therapy is my idea , so that i can handle the emotional roller coaster when i am cucked. I have given myself to Her almost completely , except for this one area. Somehow , I must do this. Any other logical , constructive suggestions ? Thanks for the replies.


Ok, well, I started out thinking that this was something that you desired and that you craved, not something that your Mistress was doing out of her own desire, necessarily.  This post changed my mind.  First, cucking (and this is just my opinion) should never be forced on a person.  It really comes across that it is being forced on you through manipulation of your desire to please her.  Please bare in mind that I'm saying this from the point of view of a cuckquean; I'm not just a know it all shmo.  Personally, I think that her telling you this would happen with no prior knowlege of requests on your part is plain old wrong.  Also...and this is a biggie!!!  -- Her bull is staying for 5 days?????  What the hell is that all about???  I know, YKINMK yada yada yada, but...this seems to me to be terrible torture and damn near emotional abuse of you.  If I am incorrect in my grasp of your situation, I apologize, but I sincerely hope that you can not find a hypnotist to help you with this... my hope is instead that you speak out against what is being done to you, and either come to a comprimise, safeword the whole situation, or get out while the getting is good.  Again, this is just my opinion.... perhaps I am reading this situation all wrong.-- Bitch

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/1/2008 5:47:50 PM   
LadyLockdown


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Status: offline 		Mistress has instructed me to use a safe word if i can't handle the pain ,but i feel like if i do , it will dissapoint Mistress. Yourself and Lateralist1 do understand my situation and i agree with You both. 5 days is a long time , but i work 9-6 and always have my guitar, so it will just be the nights to fear. i don't want this to destroy my Love for Mistress , but i can't tell Mistress "no".

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/2/2008 5:55:09 AM   
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I have no idea how to resolve the situation I just urge you both to rethink it.

My instincts tell me the same as lateralist1 but from the outside it's impossible to know if you need to rethink or not. However, if you were to do so, this may be a way of going about it:

Identify the outcome that you are looking for by going through this experience?

e.g.
To be humiliated and made to understand that your needs are completely secondary
To build trust by showing your Mistress how far you are prepared to go to sacrifice for Her
To fulfill an obligation you assumed when you started the relationship on the understanding you were going to be cucked.
etc.

Identify Your Mistress's outcome - what does She want to achieve from it? (particularly with regards to you)
(Avoid expressing your needs or desires in terms of Your Mistress - i.e. i want my Mistress to be happy with me/satisfied)

Then think (with your Mistress) if this experience is going to achieve this outcome. Why?/Why not?/What are the doubts/issues?
(Don't just put the issues down to fear - this isn't just a case of you conquering your fears to satisfy your Mistress - your doubts are real and rational so think them through, preferably with Her).

Make everything clear to yourself and to Her without questioning Her authority and allow Her to take the appropriate decision.

Her decision, though, will only be final if you completely agree to it. If not, start again.

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RE: Hypno-Therapy For Cuckolding - 6/2/2008 7:36:33 AM   
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Can anyone here reccomend a hypno-therapist that can help my boy to accept cuckolding ? He wants to do this for me , but is afraid of feeling hurt when I do cuckold him. I think it's a bad idea , but it seems to be so important to him that I wanted to see if this idea is even possible ?

Hypnotherapy?  Not likely.  Hypnosis is not going remove either his fear of being hurt or the being hurt itself.

You need to sit down with him and talk through that fear.  If he wants this, he has to face that fear and move past it. 


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