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PsyVamp -> RE: THANKS (5/25/2008 7:03:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist You are welcome! My dad (RIP) was doctor with a PHD in pysch and my girlfriend is a PHD in industrial pysch and teaches at a university. I don’t even think either of them could help you “understand a new sub in the future” with the information you posted in the OP of your other thread muchless anyone here at CollarMe. There are 3 “submissive type test” links in my profile. But I didn’t post any of them them in your other thread because they are not true pysch evaluations and will do nothing to help you “understand a new sub in the future.” The type of thing you are looking for is used by HR for employment position evaluation. I doubt if any of them are geared to rate submissiveness or help you “understand a new sub.” Even if a submissiveness insight test existed, it would not help with “a new sub” because they don’t know who they are yet and are still exploring. By the time “a new sub” took such an intensive and introspective test, the self discovers made would likely change their perspectives and who they were… the results would be tainted by opening their mind to ask effective questions. At best you could learn who they were before the test started. So, “a new sub” is affected by her environment which is the Dom’s job to provide. You fertilize her mind, make her feel secure to explore and shape her growth with that exploration. She becomes a collective of her past and what you now present to her. Hence the term “molding a submissive.” A Dom that isn’t a “want=a-be” will even take the bull by the horns and do the work and research. A Dom that isn’t a “want=a-be” wouldn’t expect a forum to hand out a non existent answer on a silver platter and then whine and stamp his little Domly feat in a THANKS thread when he discovers it doesn’t exist. And now you have the answer you wanted and it is served to you on the silver platter you requested. So get off your lazy ass and read the books in this -=BDSM Book List=- thread if you are in the least bit serious about trying to understand the lifestyle, another person or the role of a Dominant. My last advice is not to bite the hand that feeds you and insult the very people of which a majority posted sincere responses in your original thread. You have made an ass out of yourself in front of this community and such a test will not drop from the sky no matter how much you cry about it. You are welcome. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ To quote Usako: quote: ORIGINAL: Usako "Ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer." [edit: fixed type-o, repeated word] Maybe he thought there was a "crash test dummy" version of submissive. I guess he doesn't understand that the only way to know is to learn, step by step. Lady Jag

IronBear -> RE: THANKS (5/25/2008 7:11:59 PM)
There are times when even with an unclear question and respond to what I believe the quwsation to be, However if it doesn't suit me to respond, I move on to one (if one exists0 and resopnd to that. Now if you were to pay my gpoing rate of AU$150 per hour of part there of, I woiuld have responded to the best of my ability. On another matter, there are no stupid questions just stupid (or shy) people who don't ask them. However I am of the oipinion that those who rant back at people who have made the effort to respond, probable are lacking in a most serious way, self-esteem and self-confidence thus cover their short comings with bluster. Iron Bear Master of Bruin Cottage (A Victorian Lifestyle poly home) "I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester)

peppermint -> RE: THANKS (5/25/2008 7:26:13 PM)
I had not read your previous thread so searched for it so i'd understand your claim of being ridiculed. What i found were mostly answers telling you that there is no test for a submissive. Time and communication is the key to deciding whether a particular submissive you and are a match. Perhaps you felt the advice given was ridicule because no one could give you the submissive test you want. However, no one can provide you with something that does not exist. If you feel you've been ridiculed because everyone misunderstood your question, then perhaps you can clear up the misconceptions. Your claim of being ridiculed seems to be unfounded from what i have read so far.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: THANKS (5/25/2008 7:48:43 PM)
I think it was dragon who caught on to something I'd missed. It DOES seem now, in retrospect, that the question was asked by someone else FOR DaddyDom. The question, the way it was worded, and the seemingly imature response makes more sense if read in light of it being posted by a DaddyDom's babygirl. Maybe not a great deal more sense but at least some sense. I wish I'd taken the time to read the post a bit more closely and responded initially with a bit more consideration and kindness. Now I have to go ponder why I'd be gentler and kinder to a babygirl than a Daddy Dom under the circumstances....(sighs)

Missokyst -> RE: THANKS (5/25/2008 9:14:45 PM)
Whoever wrote it, he or she did not do an adequate job of stating what they wanted clearly. I do not see where anyone was less than kind though. Most of us stated the only way to learn was to communicate. Is there a test out there somewhere to which I am unaware? Were we expected to lie or pull something out of a hat to make him satisfied? His reaction post to the original does show me the type of person he seems to be. I see that as more of a stomping, temper tantum throwing guy who is not in control and does not see anything but insults when given common sense advice. But I guess one would need common sense to understand the directions given. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I think it was dragon who caught on to something I'd missed. It DOES seem now, in retrospect, that the question was asked by someone else FOR DaddyDom. The question, the way it was worded, and the seemingly imature response makes more sense if read in light of it being posted by a DaddyDom's babygirl. Maybe not a great deal more sense but at least some sense. I wish I'd taken the time to read the post a bit more closely and responded initially with a bit more consideration and kindness. Now I have to go ponder why I'd be gentler and kinder to a babygirl than a Daddy Dom under the circumstances....(sighs)

LadyRainfire -> RE: THANKS (5/25/2008 10:47:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dragon2760 <snip> Then it seems he was asking if there was a test that he could give. It's almost as if someone else is asking for him. Then again english may not be his native language. Which brings us back to the point of communications being so important. Dragon, you're right, it does look like he could be looking for a 'test'. Sorry about that. And again, that's all about communication, not a test. Looking at a profile might show someone if there are things in common but that's all. English does appear to be his native language as his profile states his home state is Ohio in the US. Hmmmm, let's see, how to say this...... "Communication, communication, communication....." [:)]

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