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Help - 5/25/2008 7:12:26 AM   
DaddyDom59


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Status: offline 		daddydom's looking for a submissive type test to adminester in the future to help him understand a new sub in the future can any one help with this
 
thanks daddydom
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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 7:23:20 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		umm. Well there really isn't a test that could be devised to be used that way. because everyone is different, and a test would just have pre-detirmined (sp?) answears, and that won't help you or her, in the answears you seek.  reading books on psychology would help, seeking out a kinkaware therapist may help as well.  Thats all I can think of, without knowing what is going on, what you or her questions are.

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 7:52:52 AM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		What can a test tell you that simple conversation cannot? I'm not sure what you mean by "understand"  the submissive either- Her pain tolerances? The depth of her devotion? What she likes to eat for breakfast? Can you clarify?

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 7:59:55 AM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		Sounds like you seek an easy way to determine compatibility. There isn't one! Put some effort into getting to know each other, meet and perhaps that effort will reward you. If I were a submissive and found you weren't putting any effort into getting to know me, my interests and likes/dislikes I would feel you didn't give a hoot about what makes me tick and would not be interested in continuing correspondence. 

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 8:20:11 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		The best test is communication and time.
I think you need to work on both, based on what you have posted.  Shorthand, and shorthand speech are difficult to understand unless you know the person well.
And that takes clear communication and time.
Kyst

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 8:25:43 AM   
MladyHathor


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Status: offline 		I get this----I can imagine it must be tough to put this out there-----due to the ramifications----you might look at other Daddy profiles and Daddy's baby like profiles and draft something from what you see there.

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 8:33:57 AM   
SimplyMichael


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyDom59

daddydom's looking for a submissive type test to adminester in the future to help him understand a new sub in the future can any one help with this
 
thanks daddydom


For me, if they were willing to take such a test, I would reject them ASAP

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 8:49:03 AM   
MladyHathor


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyDom59

daddydom's looking for a submissive type test to adminester in the future to help him understand a new sub in the future can any one help with this
 
thanks daddydom


For me, if they were willing to take such a test, I would reject them ASAP


well cheating on said test was never mentioned-guess that means a new thread----

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 8:59:32 AM   
Midearthtrainer


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Status: offline 		What LL and CE said are true. You need to figure out what intrigues you about the one that you are interested in. You have to decide for yourself, what you are interested in - kink first or relationship first?  It is as much the personality, as it is the kink. First, determine that you would like to establish a relationship. Then after you know that person, and only after you have probed compatibilities, digressions, incompatibilities and even landmines, do you incorporate any kink into the relationship. Make it something that will a daily part of your relationship.
  Simple things like:
              Requiring dress, skirt/blouse vs. jeans/pants
              Daily journal
Remember whatever is chosen, must fit:  1.Your llifestyle  2.The situation at hand  3. Must be consistant.
You have to decide for yourself. What are you looking for?


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< Message edited by Midearthtrainer -- 5/25/2008 9:01:16 AM >

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 10:35:00 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		(sighs) One gets all excited over a particular screen name, and then the owner has to go and post something.

I'm going to wiggle out on a limb here, and be as gentle as possible - sounds like:   DaddyDom for Dummies to me. 

You should start with a good basic IQ test, followed by a personallity test, which of course should be followed by those Myspace quizzes that tell you who and what you are, becuase none of us have a clue I guess.  Then, ask her what her sign is, because that should tell you all you need to know.  Once you have compiled a good basic control test to base your knowledge of her off of  - then you can actually really GET to know her, maybe.  Just saying.


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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 10:37:31 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		  How can a 'test' determine if a new girl would work or not? Rote or pat answers could mean anything. "Yes, I like age play." "No, I don't like diapers." Does that mean she's willing to learn, grow or experiement though? Best thing would be just to get to know her and see what time brings.

Besides, people change.... Who's to say what doesn't work now might work in a while?

*snickers at the idea of cheating on the test*   LadyHathor, now come on - no one would do THAT, would they?!?

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 11:16:15 AM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyDom59

daddydom's looking for a submissive type test to adminester in the future to help him understand a new sub in the future can any one help with this
 
thanks daddydom


For me, if they were willing to take such a test, I would reject them ASAP

So the test is as simple as whether or not they will take the test? 

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 11:17:49 AM   
dcnovice


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Status: offline 		SAT = Submissive Aptitude Test ?

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 11:21:47 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 11:31:56 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		I wonder if the op is thinking of a bdsm checklist?

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 11:43:48 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		  Doesn't sound like it to me, Greedy, but maybe? I had one on my old laptop but since it crashed, I don't have a copy anymore.

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 2:26:36 PM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		Sorry, I don't use myself.  Just engage in good old fashioned communication.  Just be certain to cover the important area or things along the way.

If you seriously want to make up a test.   Think of all the things that are Deal breakers for you.  List them out as questions.  I would recommend, it be more a written answer test compared to Multiple Choice or Yes/No \responses.  This way you get a reasoning behind the answer.   

That's about all the advice I have to give you on this one.  Good luck

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RE: Help - 5/25/2008 2:52:31 PM   
dragon2760


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I wonder if the op is thinking of a bdsm checklist?


http://www.bdsm-education.com/checklist.html


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