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roland23 -> Forgot you had a husband (5/24/2008 10:18:38 PM)
Or boyfriend? Hasn't everyone forgotten something? Cell phone, car keys, the name of that Thai restaurant. I'm quite comfortable with married or otherwise attached subs. I will even meet their hub or bf as long as he doesn't have a criminal record or emotional issues. I recently concluded a long term relationship with a married sub.(she introduced me to her recently divorced girlfriend) Remember the brain is the sexiest organ. We never had intercourse or even kissed but when we were together, she did what she was told. Why is there so much distress about this?

MasterGangelS -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/24/2008 11:12:50 PM)
What do you mean by distress over this? Where? ~ Angel

corsetgirl -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/24/2008 11:18:17 PM)
Hmm...not clear to what you mean by your post. Who is stressing out over your relationship? Is it the long-term sub your broke up that she is distressed because you met her divorced girlfriend? Is it the husband?

Exquemelin -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/24/2008 11:39:47 PM)
I don't think anyone would be distressed over the relationship you described. It sounds like everyone was aware of the situtation, she was fulfilling a need she couldn't get in her marriage but so long as it stayed non-sexual her husband was ok with. Hell she set up at the end.

VMistressV -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/24/2008 11:45:25 PM)
...What are you talking about.

slaveboyforyou -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 12:47:05 AM)
quote: Or boyfriend? Hasn't everyone forgotten something? Cell phone, car keys, the name of that Thai restaurant. I'm quite comfortable with married or otherwise attached subs. I will even meet their hub or bf as long as he doesn't have a criminal record or emotional issues. I recently concluded a long term relationship with a married sub.(she introduced me to her recently divorced girlfriend) Remember the brain is the sexiest organ. We never had intercourse or even kissed but when we were together, she did what she was told. Why is there so much distress about this? Your post here is slightly rambling. Seriously, are you drunk? What do you mean by "forgot you had a husband...or boyfriend?"

Maya2001 -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 5:05:39 AM)
I usually ask a person what their relationship status is... before getting involved .....that is one of the reasons for dating getting to know the person first....but since you prefer diving into relationships without do the preliminaries of getting to know more about the person (meet the person for coffee and go straight to the motel for the whack and fuck) it probably was not considered an important issue by the other person to reveal ....hopefully that is all they never had time to get into discussion about or forgot to mention ...it could have been worse they may not have gotten around to saying they have herpes or HIV.....

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 7:05:28 AM)
ok i'm sooo happy i'm not the only one confused by this post coffee time

slaveluci -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 8:27:31 AM)
~FR~ If I'm deciphering correctly, he seems to be talking about his involvement with married/involved subs. He is asking why people get so distressed about subs being married/having SO's. I have often wondered why that gets people so hatefully, spitting mad and judgmental myself and have come to the conclusion that most people say it's only when the married person lies or sneaks that it's so "bad." It's not them being involved, it's hiding it. I buy that to a degree but then I think about the tons and tons of cheating folks out there. Married people cheating and single people cheating with married people. It always reminds me of how no one ever admits buying Bee Gees albums yet millions were sold[8\|]. If everyone is so above "cheating," who are the millions of people committing adultery and infidelity and where did they come from? Methinks there are some here protesting a bit too much..............................luci

Mercnbeth -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 8:30:19 AM)
quote: Why is there so much distress about this? Maybe it is coming from the anti-masturbation crowd? But if you're so proud and excited about it - why worry about soliciting anyone else's opinion or reaction?

Floggings4You -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 9:19:27 AM)
As a married Dom, I do get taken aback by many posts here (and elsewhere) that suggest that anyO/one who is married and seeking a kinky partner--other than their spouse--is automatically a no-good, cheating liar. Of course that's not true. 1) Many people engage in BDSM 'play' without sex (as it seems you have), and thus kinky time spent with someO/one other than their spouses, would (at least) not be sexual infidelity. 2) Many O/others have open marriages--as I do, Myself--and their spouses are fully aware of their spouses' play outside the normal paramaters of marriage. (My wife and My submissive both attended My college graudation ceremony, last weekend.) The thing to remember is that this is an on-line site, and many people here will only ever engage in BDSM on-line. So, don't be so concerned about any 'distress' you encounter here. The people who are actually in your life (in real life) are the ones whose opinions should matter to you.

FullCircle -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 9:23:33 AM)
These kind of threads come about from time to time mostly sparked by paranoia. I don't think there are nearly as many people moaning about this than people moaning about people moaning about this. Like every so often there will be a why am I not taken seriously as a young Dom type thread.

Arpig -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 1:50:02 PM)
forget I had a husband???? Damn I have a hard enough time forgetting I had a wife!!

xxblushesxx -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 2:28:01 PM)
The distress is because if you are not being honest with your SO (yes, some of you are, and this is so not directed at you), then you are stealing from the relationship. If you are getting emotional needs met elsewhere, why would you turn to that boring husband/wife you have had for so long, when you can have something new and exciting? Oh, and I'm hardly the anti-masturbation crowd, btw...

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Forgot you had a husband (5/25/2008 2:45:55 PM)
You forgot your cellphone, car keys, married sub, her husband and her recently divorced girlfriend all at a Thai restaurant that you can't remember the name of and you're confused as to why you are so distressed over it? [8\|] Well that's what I got from the story....... [sm=wiggleass.gif]

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