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MasterArywen -> Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:00:42 AM)

My partner and I meet over a year and a half ago, over the net like so many that seems too be a trend, but after we finally meet in person things went from her being my online slave too real time. Well shortly after she got pregant and asked if we coudl stop things because she was uncomfortable with it because of the baby so I agreed not wanting her too stress and risk loosing the child like before. Well not the little princess is here in our lives, my partner has expressed she woudl liek too be a submissive or pet mainly in the bedroom apart from teh setting out clothes etc for her.

I guess my biggest thing is how can it go safetly from TCE too simply being a pet? I am not sure how too really go about things and such anymore at this new level of things. I guess I am worried too much of takign things too far.

Anyone have any advice?




xxblushesxx -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:03:02 AM)

She will let you know if you go too far. Even though it is D/s, you are still a couple, so, do what you like, and, seek input from her.



MasterArywen -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:11:22 AM)

Thank you blushes, we have discuss a few things but its mainly in the bedroom..and well I am more use too it being more than just the bedroom. I guess I am having problems with the it mostly be sexaul, since that when i first got involed into the lifestyle thats all I thought it was and it took me a very long time too learn other wise.

thank you for your encouragment



RedMagic1 -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:22:24 AM)

Master Arywen,

Congratulations on your future child!  I wish you all the best.  And let me say, it is soooo refreshing for a man to post a problem like this to the boards.

It sounds as though she doesn't know whether she can handle being your slave and a slave to the baby at the same time.  There is no "magic advice" here.  But I can say that as long as you support her and make sure she is not overwhelmed, she will gain more love and respect for you, and want to please you even more.  How the two of you express that love with a new baby in the house is something you will have to figure out for yourselves.



MasterArywen -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:29:44 AM)

Thank you very much on the congrats. I know there is not any real magic advice I am just wondering if anyoen else might of had this happen in some form or another.

I just want her happy and with us oth workign as well and witht eh baby the timing for me makes it harder too judge when she wants that attention or not..if ou get my meaning.



xxblushesxx -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:36:23 AM)

You could also try giving her an 'assignment' or two once a day, (with some days as special 'days off'), and when she does the assignment, (even if it's not perfect) compliment her, and make her feel good for serving you...do something nice for her too, once in a while. Being made to feel good about helping Master, can be a huge thing for many. (not all need it, but, she might)



azropedntied -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:52:46 AM)

M/A > kids change EVERYTHING , sounds like she wants to still serve , i would say just bring it back slowly .perhaps also give mom some rewards for not only her new role but her role s and dedications to you as well .What new mom  does not dig a spa day from a loving caring Master .Congrats and best wishes .



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 4:32:04 PM)

Sit and list what you want. Have her sit and list what she wants. See how much you have in common. Then you have a decision to make and, as I see it, your options are:

1) Take what she is willing to give and throw the rest of what you want out the window.
2) Decide that what she's willing to give isn't enough and move on to another monogamous relationship.
3) Consider poly relationships where you get what she doesn't offer from someone else.

Master Fire



DesFIP -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 6:54:03 PM)

The truth is, newborns make the rules. Doesn't matter if you order her to clean the kitchen floor with a toothbrush, if the baby wakes up hungry then she abandons your job to tend the baby. Plus too much stress is not good for an expectant or nursing mother. To have a good milk supply, she simply needs to be like a contented cow, calm in a green meadow not racing around like a border collie. You have to change your priorities to be a good parent.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Needing some advice (5/19/2008 8:10:12 PM)

MasterFireMaam said what I was going to say :)



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Needing some advice (5/20/2008 12:32:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

MasterFireMaam said what I was going to say :)


JINX!

Master Fire



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