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RE: Mono Relationship - Using Another As Punishment - 5/24/2008 8:28:10 AM

MissMorrigan

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Hello Batshalom, you are one insightful lady. Thank you for your reply, it resonates with what I know of my submissive. I haven't been able to get back to this thread until today, it's been a hectic week at work for me. I do think I was over-analysing the gesture Reality was making. While I always have the final say-so, I do like to have his input and suggestions. I know he loves me implicitly and is devoted, I sincerely believe that in his own way he was telling me what he'd be prepare to endure for my happiness, but also that he gained a lot of reassurance with my response.

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ORIGINAL: batshalom
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My first reaction is that he wants your assurance that while it might be hot, you wouldn't actually do it. It may seem like a fantastic fantasy to him, but monogamy seems to be such an issue that perhaps he wants / needs the embrace of your reassurance.

He: Here it is, I am giving up this hard limit.
You: No, my dear, (or whatever you call him), it is not something I'm interested in pursuing. You fulfill all my needs and desires.

I don't know about you, but as a sub who has been in a similar situation, such a thing would make my day (and it did). ~smiling~

(Please note that I don't think he's being manipulative - the above scenario sounds manipulative to me. I think he truly wants to please you and would give up a lot in order to do so.) I am happy for you to have found such a devoted submissive.

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RE: Mono Relationship - Using Another As Punishment - 5/24/2008 8:32:26 AM

MissMorrigan

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Thank you for your reply, Jeff. Knowing Reality as I do, I think his comment was two-fold, insofar as what he is prepared to endure, but also gaining reassurance that I would not wish to pursue such either as a form of punishment of otherwise.

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ORIGINAL: jeffp
maybe i am off base here but i see it as a maturing relationship, he has obviously grown really close to you and wants to continue to bring you to greater levels of pleasure because pleasing you pleases him. IE... If one is good then two must be great, so he feels that sharing you would please you and its a sacrifice that he is willing to make for you.

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RE: Mono Relationship - Using Another As Punishment - 5/24/2008 8:34:27 AM

MissMorrigan

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A huge thank you to all that have contributed in response to my initial question. I have managed to read all responses which have provided a lot of food for thought/great insights, but sadly don't have the time to reply to all.

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