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fluffyswitch -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 9:53:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx quote: ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch fast reply-- or you could just fly. So appropriate truly.....these new good feelings........[sm=applause.gif] yep flying is great...until you remember you have to learn how to land lol.

hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 10:04:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch yep flying is great...until you remember you have to learn how to land lol. Landing isn't as hard as everyone assumes it to be.... [;)] (this coming from a civ strictly-for-fun pilot who had a helluva time learning how to nail landings LOL)

Maya2001 -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 10:32:14 AM)
quote: Questions: 1. Have iou ever been wothout a bdsm relationship and then been in the position of having to choose? Yes.. really nothing unusual about that 2. Have you ever wondered why, when you really like someone they back-off leaving you with the one you wouldn't necessarily have chosen? (I am sub so I get to choose anyway......) I am picky in my choices I don't need to be with left overs 3. Is it possible to serve more than one master (this is not gender biased question so applies to subbie men serving Dommes as well). For me their is a difference between spending time with casual partners who I am serving for the period of time I am physically with them( so yes in this case) and entering a commited relationship in which the decision is to serve only them with the goal is for an ongoing longterm relationship, I do no feel I can truly do justice by serving more than one in this form 4 What is it about being courted does that makes one more attractive to a second or third person..... how they come across.. are they happy , self assured, how attentive are they to my need and level of respect they show me, are they showing themselves to be well rounded or is the focus of conversations strictly sex and bdsm, how open are they ..are they will to talk about themselves or past relationships or are they always steering the conversation to being about you whenever you broach, is their interests and views similiar to my own 5. What has your choice been based on or can be based on a lot of things for example what else is happening in my life of I know I am under more stresses or have less time to devote or have recently came out of a more serious relationship I will choose one that has less expectations more geared to enjoyment and having fun where the focus is more enjoyment of each other company both in and out of BDSM , the relationships are still respectful and loving but no permanent claim on each other with each others happiness being important so there is a an acceptance that it is only temporary, it is in this stage where I may be seeing more than one Dom at a time though likely one will be more relationship based and the other social such joining them for dinner or other outings ....When I am in the right head space and there is not a lot of stresses and I know I have time to devote I focus on those seeking a a long term monogamous relationship to spend hopefully their life with possibly potential for marriage that will have more expectations and where more energy/commitment in time is going to be required to devote to the relationship and I do not go out with other doms during this time and limit contact to those that are friends as well because this relationship has a different level of commitment 6 Are you poly so this males the difference. No I am not OK it's impossoble to ride more than one bus at the same time I know. It all depends on what relationship dynamics your seeking and who you are involved with ... I can 't ride more than 1 bus if the partner I am with wants a commited monogamous relationship and it is only fair that those you are involved with are aware of other relationships. Thank you all for helping me out here........ ,

ProlificNeeds -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 10:38:50 AM)
I don't let men court me unless I've decided I want to pursue them in return. I don't let people vie for my attention, and I make myself perfectly clear up front about whether I want to date them or not straight away. No stringing along, no competitions. I don't let people send me poetry and gushy stuff or gifts unless I'm commited to putting in a return effort and interest. Anyone who tried to sting me along and make me compete for their attention would never see me again.

MissMorrigan -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:16:48 AM)
Prin, that wasn't an aspersion by me, the last thing I will do is judge you hon. I mentioned the back boiler syndrome b/c I've seen a great many people enjoy the wonderful process of being 'courted', but when that has been online, there's been a tendency to get caught up in the flattery from many directions. I liken it to feeling ravenous and having a profusion of takeaway menus - one simply doesn't know which to choose as they all have something different to offer, but the stomach is growling, we know we have to choose something and when it arrives it never quite lives up to our expectations. You're a lovely lady, enjoy flirting, continue growing and my advice is don't allow yourself to be chosen just yet. I liked Fluffyswitch's comment about learning how to land. You can holler on the 'other side' if you need me x quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx I fucked up on the title of the thread and the thread which had the correct title got removed. But anyway I think everyone realises it should say Dome not Soms.....too early in the morning way too early for me to be typing. As to your points above: you know a great deal more than many about who I am talking about because you have supported me at length in PM and I thank you yet again. The analogy of the bus has been useful for me though. I've never gone back. I've never kept anyone on the back boiler. I have never regretted my choices about not going back. I do a deep hurt, deep analytical time (very deep, very painful in a bad way) but once those feelings are worked through it's over. The journey is over. And even if I have to get off at an unknown place or the driver kicks me off unexpectedly I never run after the bus or try to cling on as it moves off. As to not choosing anyone: no I'm having far far too many good feelings being chosen. Thanks Miss Morrigan Prin x

popeye1250 -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:33:07 AM)
Jeeze, "poetry?" That's a hard limit with me, "poetry" and,...."the opera." The last time I went to the opera I forgot the sandwhiches.

MissMorrigan -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:36:17 AM)
You meantosay bawdy limericks aren't poetry, Popeye [;)]

popeye1250 -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:45:47 AM)
Well, Morrigan I just have to laugh at the profiles that give no information about the person but have poetry in them and quotes from some obscure "philosopher." Like reading some poetry for ten minutes that they've included on their profile is going to give people some "insight" into them as a person? I don't think so!

xxblushesxx -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:48:10 AM)
I think that until a person learns to walk alone, no alternative means of transportation will get them where they want to go. (no matter how much they hope it might)

softness -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:51:18 AM)
This is hilarious for years ... years ... I mean literally YEARS I couldn't get within arms reach of a beating ... I mean honestly .. I got within a sniff of a decent bout of abuse and poof it would vanish into thin air. I book a trip out to the states and the local Dominant population comes running ... and some of them can even spell .. walk and talk at the same time .. and dont need to follow the text with their finger as they read.

PanthersMom -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 11:58:13 AM)
1. Have you ever been without a bdsm relationship and then been in the position of having to choose? yes i have, on both ends of the spectrum 2. Have you ever wondered why, when you really like someone they back-off leaving you with the one you wouldn't necessarily have chosen? (I am sub so I get to choose anyway......) nope. if i wouldn't have chosen the person in the first place, i wouldn't be "left" with them. 3. Is it possible to serve more than one master (this is not gender biased question so applies to subbie men serving Dommes as well). absolutely not if i'm one of the dominants. if you want to serve me, fine, if you want to serve someone else, that's fine too. just don't even consider doing both at the same time. 4 What is it about being courted does that makes one more attractive to a second or third person..... forbidden fruit seems more attractive to some ppl, not to me. 5. What has your choice been based on? a lifetime of experiences tends to color a person's decisions at the time. more experience later on may reinforce those choices or change one's mind. 6 Are you poly so this makes the difference. not currently, but it could be in the cards someday. i have yet to meet anyone of either sex i would consider adding to my family. edited due to silly cat who likes to jump up on the desk no matter what she lands on, including my keyboard!

popeye1250 -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 12:10:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness This is hilarious for years ... years ... I mean literally YEARS I couldn't get within arms reach of a beating ... I mean honestly .. I got within a sniff of a decent bout of abuse and poof it would vanish into thin air. I book a trip out to the states and the local Dominant population comes running ... and some of them can even spell .. walk and talk at the same time .. and dont need to follow the text with their finger as they read. Hi softness, I'm Popeye, nice to beat you!"

slavegirljoy -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 12:42:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx 4 What is it about being courted does that makes one more attractive to a second or third person..... It can be a big ego boost, when someone shows an interest in you, especially when you have been feeling down about having had a big disappointment from a relationship that didn't turn out the way you wanted. It can make you feel wanted and desired, which feeds the ego. It can give you a greater sense of confidence and make you feel more positive about yourself. It can give you a more hopeful, optimistic outlook and a brighter disposition. This makes you more appealing to others, because a lot of people are attracted to someone who is cheerful and positive and feeling good about themself and about life. quote: (No bus comes for ages and I am left all alone at the bus stop waiting....et voila! two buses arrive at the same time). To me, waiting is a big waste of time. And, life is too precious, to me, to waste it waiting for anything. Rather than waiting for the right bus to come along, i just start walking in the direction i want to go and when someone comes along, who is going the same way and offers me a lift and i feel like it, i hop in and, he and i share the ride together. If he turns left when i wanted to go right, i thank him for the ride and i get out and walk some more. If no one happens to come along and i get tired of walking alone, i put up a sign that says where i'm headed and that usually gets me some offers . Either way, i'm still getting closer to my destination, instead of sitting in one spot, hoping that someone going my way will find me there. joy Owned servant of Master David

Prinsexx -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 12:58:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: popeye1250 Well, Morrigan I just have to laugh at the profiles that give no information about the person but have poetry in them and quotes from some obscure "philosopher." Like reading some poetry for ten minutes that they've included on their profile is going to give people some "insight" into them as a person? I don't think so! I find it difficult to respect many people's writing. I'm far far too much of a technician. This isn't a profile with poetry quoted in it. This is a writer who writes beautifully, has taken my breath away with command of language, and especially with the intention behind the words. there's one thing using the words of aomeone else and imitating another also doesn't float my boat. BUT when the nature of the relationship itself heightens the prose to poetry than me for one, then I am inspired. Just me..................

Prinsexx -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 12:59:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx I think that until a person learns to walk alone, no alternative means of transportation will get them where they want to go. (no matter how much they hope it might) Now that is priceless........[sm=applause.gif]

Prinsexx -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 1:05:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavegirljoy To me, waiting is a big waste of time. And, life is too precious, to me, to waste it waiting for anything. Rather than waiting for the right bus to come along, i just start walking in the direction i want to go and when someone comes along, who is going the same way and offers me a lift and i feel like it, i hop in and, he and i share the ride together. The older I get the more I feel time is precious. the older I get the more time seems to fly....it speeds up. the older I get, the more patient I get also. BUT I suppose the downside of that is that I would be content to just sit (yes a seat for tyhe old bird please0 and wait at a bus stop and no one would even bother to tell me the traffic had been re-directed and I wouldn't even care. SO yes I guess I am in a rush.......I have a sense of the finite.

popeye1250 -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 1:09:07 PM)
Prinsexx, that's true. Life is like a roll of toilet paper, the closer to the end you get the faster it goes.

MissMorrigan -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 1:41:22 PM)
By the light... You silver-tongued charmer you! lol quote: ORIGINAL: popeye1250 Hi softness, I'm Popeye, nice to beat you!"

Prinsexx -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/17/2008 1:43:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: popeye1250 Prinsexx, that's true. Life is like a roll of toilet paper, the closer to the end you get the faster it goes. Well you know first I read as far as toilet paper and thought what a load of shit BUT then I read on.......you have a point about toilet paper.......[:D]

Lumus -> RE: Soms are like buses (5/18/2008 6:26:59 PM)
You've already received a pile of useful commentary, Prinsexx, but I wanted to answer the questions. [:)] I've been put in the position of having choices before. I go with what feels right; who knows what I need and want better than myself? As for "drive-bys"...hmm, the people insane enough to go out of their way to approach me generally stick around, so I can't really comment on that. Serving more than one Master brings to mind the image of a juggler who uses flaming batons trying to siphon gas out of a tank. Doing one or the other should be easy business if you know what you're doing; both at once could be...err...explosive. Or, if done successfully, impressive! [To me, at least. Damn you, Cirque du Soleil...] If you ever discover what makes a person attractive when they're clearly being courted or are involved, please, for the love of Rupert [everyone uses God these days...], let me know! I'm invisible when I'm single; I'm swamped when I'm involved with someone, and I have absolutely no damn idea why. Now, if I were poly, that might not be so aggravating; however, one woman can be a handful at times; two women are a handful [been there, done that]; more than two would likely make me go blind and die with a ludicrously big grin on my face, but that's another matter entirely... Yes, I'm a pig. [8D] I'm glad to hear you're getting some good reading material, at least. I finally finished my side project - I've written a book for my son's upcoming birthday, just need to print it off and have it bound. So sometime in the next few weeks, I should be putting another tale up in P&RS.

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