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stella41b -> RE: Christina Sforza and Mariah Lopez are transgender women who allege they were abused by NYC Polic (5/11/2008 6:38:07 PM)
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor
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Is there any greater birth defect a woman can suffer than to be born with a dick?
Yes, someone born with the inability to let others simply--be.
actually, I think people aren't BORN that way, they are MADE that way. I've never seen an infant get all pissed off because of the gender/sexuality of the person holding or caring for them :)
I don't want to go into my past here but trust me, it's been long and difficult. More so not just by me fighting myself and who I was inside just to be accepted and to fit in with others but also due to the waiting, doubts and difficulties doctors have had when confronting my issues. I am a mosaic type of transgendered female.. I was born transgendered (had I have been born male, trust me, I would be male right now, it would have saved me a lot of pain, heartache and suffering) and for some time it was believed that I could live in either gender but in either case I would need treatment.. but as I developed later it came out that my actual gender is female, or more specifically predominantly female. I don't have a karotype specific to one gender (but to both), and though my primary physical characteristics are male I have some secondary female physical characteristics, bone structure, skin, pattern of hair growth.. I am aging much in the same way as a female, even before I went onto hormones my body was producing insufficient amounts of testosterone and naturally producing amounts of oestrogen and progestoron. This is how I was born, it's not a choice, nor a preference, it could not be prevented and was even very hard to diagnose.
Trust me, there's a difference between thinking and knowing. I know. I have done the man thing over a number of years.
You see, no amount of hormones and surgery is ever going to make me female, it won't make me any more female than I am now. It's a lot of butchery, slicing, cutting, a very painful operation which comes with the 'emotional fallout' and trauma' but what will it give me? Just a hole which you can stick a penis or dildo into. It's not going to give me a womb nor the ability to have children, nor even the ability to menstruate and have a period. Furthermore it's not even guaranteed that I will ever be able to feel or experience the same sensations and feelings a natural born woman feels during sexual intercourse, there's no guarantee I will be able to achieve an orgasm, nor experience that union of emotional, psychological and physical sensations, feelings, emotions that almost every natural born woman knows and many take for granted. I experience the same needs, cravings, desires, I have the same dreams, but in some cases I've learned to let go, and in others I'm still waiting, patiently, knowing I still have some way to go.
Yes it's been difficult, but there's no way round it, I'm doing all I can, I tried the explanations and such, but you know this just makes it an even bigger issue than it already is, so I've just signalled the issue with a label and left it at that. I don't have time to play the victim, it doesn't change who I am as a person, and I'm getting on with life the best I can. I'm happier and feeling much better now than ever. I am integrated in society, there's people in my life who accept me, I have my theatre and charity work, I'll leave it for other people to put that part of me into context and work it out for themselves. I keep the TG label for a reason, an open admission of the issues, it's part of me, it's how I was born, how I live, and how I will die.
I ahve friends with children, small children.. a 3 year old girl who worked it out and understood within minutes, accepted it. None of the kids playing outside my block have an issue over it. But then again they're not adults.
In the UK the Gender Recognition Act 2004 doesn't make a female out of a transgendered female, it recognizes the fact that a transgendered female IS female on the basis of a clear, long term medical evidence of gender dysphoria based on the intention of someone to live in their appropriate gender permanently - which is not so much an intention but a necessity. The Act contains the phrase acquired gender because it enables someone to change their birth certificate to the correct gender only 6 years after surgery, but it also allows for trasngendered people to be legally recognized as being of their acquired gender prior to surgery. The intention is to provide legal protection for the transgendered people who are going through various stages of their gender reassignment.
This differs from legislation both in the United States and Canada which require the completion of a gender reassignment program together with surgery, which leaves those without surgery trapped in their birth gender and open to discrimination and prejudice from others. It's all well and good for those who are seeking surgery, but what about those who either don't want surgery or cannot have it for some reason?
It's worth not getting confused by the LGBT label.. this is about gender, not about sexual orientation. Is it really too much to expect for people to look beyond the superficial issues and recognize these people for who the medical profession have proven them to be?
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