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RE: Telling 'nilla Friends about Y/yourself - 5/12/2008 8:14:59 AM

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it seems to me that finding out what one's sexual inclinations are is sometimes like finding religion, People want to share what makes them happy and sometimes they go way to far in sharing with others what it is that has caused the profound happiness within them.

Think of you a friend of yours, when becoming a recent convert, showered you with ravings of how wonderful their lifestyle was, and remember how you thought it was wonderful for them but it was tedious for you to listen to as it wasn't something that remotely interested you. So long as they discontinued that conversation quickly enough, you remained friends. If they continued to the point of uncomfortableness you distanced yourself from their company unless you couldn't avoid it.

You are not so much changed as you found something that makes you profoundly happy and you wish to share the key to joy with others. Just remember that their path isn't yours and you don't want to be that overbearing friend who doesn't know when enough is just too much.

Unless you wish to engage in a relationship with this friend, does he really want to know?

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RE: Telling 'nilla Friends about Y/yourself - 5/12/2008 8:44:03 AM

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Perfectly skewered in S&M Couple Won't Stop Droning On About Their Fetishes in The Onion.

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RE: Telling 'nilla Friends about Y/yourself - 5/12/2008 8:47:33 AM

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Oh, I love the Onion and always forget to read it until someone gives me a link. Thank you.

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RE: Telling 'nilla Friends about Y/yourself - 5/12/2008 8:48:25 AM

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Happy to oblige!

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RE: Telling 'nilla Friends about Y/yourself - 5/12/2008 8:53:22 AM

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agreed, kinda like forums, say it in one sentence ONCE and then shut the overbearing fuck up.

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it seems to me that finding out what one's sexual inclinations are is sometimes like finding religion, People want to share what makes them happy and sometimes they go way to far in sharing with others what it is that has caused the profound happiness within them.

Think of you a friend of yours, when becoming a recent convert, showered you with ravings of how wonderful their lifestyle was, and remember how you thought it was wonderful for them but it was tedious for you to listen to as it wasn't something that remotely interested you. So long as they discontinued that conversation quickly enough, you remained friends. If they continued to the point of uncomfortableness you distanced yourself from their company unless you couldn't avoid it.

You are not so much changed as you found something that makes you profoundly happy and you wish to share the key to joy with others. Just remember that their path isn't yours and you don't want to be that overbearing friend who doesn't know when enough is just too much.

Unless you wish to engage in a relationship with this friend, does he really want to know?

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RE: Telling 'nilla Friends about Y/yourself - 5/12/2008 8:55:24 AM

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I dont see a reason to come out about your sexual proclivities unless it is brought up. My friends all knew from well before I was into things that I had a dominant personality, so it wasnt much of a shock when some of them learned what I was into. Few understand the actual Dominance thing, beyond the sex, and almsot no one understand myu interest in it with Angel. But, they accept becasue they are my friends and those that are uncomfortbale just do not ask again.
Dont go into more detail than necessary, especialy if this is someone who is not right there. /if he asks, you tell, but dont volunteer anything if you are concerned.

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