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RE: trust - 10/16/2005 11:59:45 PM

hotsweet19

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i wish to thank all who replied.to make this some what clearer it was no fight, the one he was seeing called me so that is how i found out about the others.and it was my understanding it was only to be meand no others.

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RE: trust - 10/17/2005 1:23:45 PM

plantlady64

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what would you advise a slave to do if she found out the 8 month relationship with her master was based on a lie.he was seeing others without her knowledge.i would apperciate any advice

Hello There,
I'd hit the high road and leave his lying ass. If you can't trust him to live as he says he will how can you trust him with your body and soul.
I'm not just saying this, it's happened to me. I was gone that day that I caught my ex in bed with my babysitter & I never went back.
Liars will usually always lie & cheaters will not usually be monogamous for long.
Your guy being both a liar and cheat leaves him in the dust in my opinion.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: trust - 10/17/2005 4:11:56 PM

fyreredsub

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this girl would be upset.hopefully if Master wanted others, it would be incorporated into play or perhaps another girl for the alpha female to train for their needs

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what would you advise a slave to do if she found out the 8 month relationship with her master was based on a lie.he was seeing others without her knowledge.i would apperciate any advice

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RE: trust - 10/17/2005 5:03:04 PM

sweetpettjenny

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it happened to me...
If someone who claims to be dominant, yet can't be honest , id say is it worth more future hurt?

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RE: trust - 10/17/2005 5:04:03 PM

SirKenin

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To Me what it all boils down to is this. At the end of the day BDSM is play. Sure, it is a lifestyle. Sure it can be 365 days a year. But it is still play.

A relationship, on the other hand, is reality. Trust is reality. Respect, communication and honesty are realities. Being unfaithful is an unfortunate reality of this particular relationship.

So, so as not to confuse the issue, set aside your play for a moment and focus on reality. Reality says that you are hurt because you were lied to and cheated on. That is a very fair reaction. So now you have to decide. In your reality, would you take that? Would you live with it? Would you turn the other cheek so he could turn around and do it again? If you do, there is something wrong with you.

Speak to him and find out what happened. See if there is a way to resolve this. In My experience most often they never change, but there are people that do turn T/their backs on such behaviours and never repeat them. Perhaps this is one such person. you never know until you try.

If He will not, and you catch him again, My advice to you is to set the play aside, focus on your reality and run away to live to play another day.

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