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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 12:52:32 PM

pinksugarsub

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angelwithhonor, i've worked with a couple of P/pl who had spina bifida, and i think i know the many obstacles it can create.

i don't have a disabled brother (unless you count 'zealous nut' as a disability, lol) so i can't say i 'know how you feel' about wishing you could have carried yr sister's burdens...but i think i understand.

It sounds like the two of you are very close. Good for you! i always wanted a sister -- must be a nice relationship. i love my brother to bits, but he's a Man, and it's just not the same.

Congrats to your sister on her upcoming wedding.

pinksugarsub

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 1:29:25 PM

missAnn77

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This is a wonderful discussion and I have greatly enjoyed hearing about everyone's positive experiances, I too have a disability but it is well hidden at times because mine is in my mind...I'm Bipolar. I have been living with this illness now since I was 16 and was officially diagnosed with it about 5-6 years ago and I have found a wondefull, understanding Soulmate for a husband of which I've given my heart to for just a little over a year now. As much as I cherish our relationship I'm still searching for a companion sub to serve me or both of us...wish me luck. Thanks to the person who started this thread and I wish E/everyone continued luck and well wishes in their searches!

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 3:49:12 PM

winterlight

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in California it is called disabled. I prefer abled. WE have license plates that say DP meaning disabled person.

Just because you are different doesn't mean that you are NOT desirable. I look at people the same way. They are all
interesting people to meet.

Unless you have proved yourself to be a stalker or a person that lies, cheats, steals, murderer etc. I have no problem getting to know someone.
I do have my "limits".

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 5:18:19 PM

peacelili

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quote:

she is getting married oct of this year!!!

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ORIGINAL: angelwithhonor

congrats to your sister...what an exciting time in her life....=)

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 7:16:19 PM

pixidustpet

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Daddy and TheEngineer have both been injured in car accidents. Daddy is a lot worse off than TheEngineer but they both have limitations. this never stopped me from caring about them, loving them, submitting to them. a lot of it is in the mind, not only in the body. both can render me speechless and totally in submissive mindspace with a few words.

i have my own issues with fibromyalgia, autoimmune issues, and possible MS. in my mind, part of the D/s equation is that we have someone to both lean on and support us. or as TheEngineer said the other night, "i cant sleep right without my best mattress" meaning i'm not there for him to lean on as he sleeps.

kitten

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 7:22:15 PM

angelwithhonor

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.......... hugs to all of you who have wished my sister well....and all i can say is that

is my heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yes pink you can imagine am sure, ohhhhh it was so badddddddddd for her.........but she always looked and laughed about it afterwards.........my sister lived with me for 8 years til i had to what felt like kick her out, since i got married ....to have that man to cheat me with another women...that was such a hard thing to say was sis you are going to go live with mom and dad. where she was so protected that they wouldnt let or see she could do things on her own. they just didnt or couldnt see her hurt...hugs to all of you ...i love the show little pp big world........now thats a family who loves and over comes with not seeing what they cant do but what they can..........angel kate

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 8:19:05 PM

LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: angelwithhonor

.....love how everyone here can keep the positive out look in life! i have a twin sister who was born with spinal bifida. i carry the burden alot whether we know its not my faught that she has it. but wished my whole life i could carry that burden. she had such a hard time in life, so many mean ppl out there.she now wears a kalostomy and eliosity ( i know i didnt spell them right and my spell check dont work)..but she is much stronger than i will ever be!! i had all the boyfriends!!! smiles now i have no one and she is getting married oct of this year!!!..........now thats the higher power...full circle of life and she is blessed now for someone to look at her who not only is sexy but loves her true heart!!!!

Disability is bestowed on those who have mastered "normal" life. It keeps us from getting bored :)

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 8:20:58 PM

angelwithhonor

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.......... wanted to say good nite to everyone. and what a beautiful posts....hugs and kisses from a angel above..........

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/14/2008 10:51:40 PM

dommistressmelan

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I am a disabled dominate- I seem to have several 'disabilities", the foremost is a condition known as microtia, it means that I was born without a right ear and have an inner ear imbalance so no high heels for me. it does allow me to ignore the pesty sub though ;)

I also have a heart murmur, a herniated lower disk, a speech disorder (from the microtia, but I'm still able to give orders just fine), ptsd, and DID.

I met my boy through seekdiscipline, we are happy together and so far none of the above have interfered with our relationship to any serious degree except the ptsd and did and when those two issues come up we deal with them at that time.

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 2:59:46 AM

IronBear

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Hi ya angelwithhonor,

No point in any of us living out lives and going ablut like sad sack. Old addage, "laugh and the worls laughs with you" is so true. Feel happy and you attract happy people. The reverse is true too.. I am lucky My father was dosabled from an early age with a severly cuirved shine from infantile poplio. I watched that man work, study and not just bui;ld an awesome practice as a Charted Accountant, but take out family to one of the most financially and policically powerfull in our state of Victoria without complaint. I hedard the mocking early on and listend to it change as people saw him prove his capabilities and competiveness. I also got the taunts os "Son of camel" when at grade school. I learned to grow a thick hide. I thank the whole pantheon of deities I worship for being the son of such a man. I have him to thank for teaching me how to deal with my own issues and more importantly to help those who need a hand from a friend untill they learn how to handle things.....

Iron Bear
Master of Bruin Cottage
(A Victorian Lifestyle poly home)

"I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester)

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 3:29:35 AM

pinkwind

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Both Master Andy and myself are have health issues. He has had a stroke, was prone to lung collapses and has been diagnosed with MS, although it has not made any real impact on his life to date. He is my carer, as i have osteo and rheumatoid arthritis, ankylosing spondylitis and MS, all of which have conspired to making life rather challenging!

We found each other on another kink site, our searching and meeting and eventual moving in together was conducted in the same manner as anyone else's as far as i have seen from other people's descriptions of their own stages, the only difference being we had an extra few boxes to tick, and more to be open and upfront about at the beginning of our tentative negotiations.

i do wish people with health issues, what ever they may be, would understand that there is no special route for them to find happiness other than the ones every other human being takes, just that there is a little more baggage than some, a little less than others too. Our infirmities do not define us, and anyone who thinks they do is on a hiding to nothing.

It matters not whether it is the Dom or sub, or both, who have health issues, but how they factor them in to life as it is lived, and their honesty, with themselves as well as others about their abilities rather than their disabilities that counts most.

What folk have to be is realistic, open minded, amenable to all sorts of possibilities, and slow to judge...and that goes for all, looking and looked for.

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 3:56:18 AM

nailgirl

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i am registered disabled, but my sir knows my body and mind well and it isnt a problem. on good days i can play for hours on bad days maybe only ten minutes. life dealt me this illness, and i think it has added to who iam . made me stronger and independant. i love my life, i live every day like it could be my last. one day it will be . i think life throws at you only what it knows you can cope with. i cope well with my illness, im glad i have it and not someone i care every deeply for x

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 1:26:38 PM

HalloweenWhite

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I'm a wheelchair user ( through Spina bifida) and a Dominant, I've found submissives and slaves on this site and others.

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 1:36:45 PM

HalloweenWhite

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Lmao at "Gimpy". Sounds like she's got a really dry sense of humour.

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 1:43:50 PM

HalloweenWhite

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Not wanting to hijack the thread, but you'be amazed how many times I've had to look where pedestrains (as I call able-bodied people) because they never do and how many times I've been looked at blankly when I've spoken to them. They see a disability with a person, not a person with a disability, some of them, I think.

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RE: Disabled Masters/Mistresses - 6/15/2008 1:53:57 PM

angelwithhonor

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...Ironbear Sir and pinkwind and HW Sir..its wonderful that W/we can come to even a bdsm kink site . and bring out the best in all of us. many of these forums dont have kink in it. some stem from it, lets face it W/we like the lifestyle , and want to live it! and to show the world that we are all normal. hugsssssssssss huge hugssssssss

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