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LordVelvet -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 12:09:19 PM)
Tempting, I didn't check your age BUT old is a mind set and personally you're too hot [:)]. I had a similar experience and it took a very special person who I wasn't looking for to make Me see that I do feel love in a big way, she is now 3 and reminds Me of love with every look. In the context you spoke I would agree with LA. LordVelvet

AMaster -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 12:39:41 PM)
That question is way too deep for me to attempt an answer. All I can say is everyone is different. In your case you may well have hardened to the point of not feeling. Maybe are just in a slump and will snap out of it. Perhaps you are subconsciously trying to block your feelings.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:03:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde Once upon a time I wanted to learn how not to feel. For years I was successful. Then there came a time when I wanted to feel again. For over a year I failed. Eventually I was able to feel the little things. For a time this was good enough. Later I was given a reason to let someone deeper, and let myself feel more. All hell broke loose and I was an emotional wreck. I've gotten a little better at feeling now. ______________________ My point is this: sometimes we close off parts of ourselves, either consciously or unconsciously. Hopefully you will one day find the reason to open up to deeper love and deeper pain. Beautiful. I agree with you Greedy, it was beautifully thought out and written..Tempting

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:06:43 PM)
Dear MFM, thank you for your response...No, I am not totally hardened, I feel love on many differing levels for family, friends. I am a truly blessed individual to have so many who love me and whom I love fully in return....Tempting

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:10:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub I was sitting here reading the threads, when suddenly it occurred to me..I can no longer even fathom heartache any longer.Have I hardened as I have aged?..Have I wised up?..Am I no longer capable of those deeper lost in love, devotion type feelings?..I can recall the last time I felt heartache, which was about 6 years ago...since then nada...and yes, I have been in relationships,dated , whatever..and when the break came..or we simply just parted...I felt a whole lot of nothing..Am I too old to feel that burning,gotta have it,crave it,stars in my eyes love?..Or have I been burned so much in my past that love is no longer an acceptable risk?...Has love become a "hard limit" that I was unaware of until now?..Tempting You know we can't answer that for you, Tempting. But perhaps you didn't feel those things in recent breakups because the relationships just weren't "deep" enough? You have such a good heart, I would truly doubt you are no longer capable of love, pretty lady. My dear sweet Level, you always bring a smile to my face with your common sense and compliments...thank you...:0)....Tempting

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:11:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross That's a great question but I don't know that any of us can answer it. Do I think you still have the capacity for it? Yes, very probably. Will you ever have that experience again? I don't know. Do I think it means you've become hardened and unable to feel deep passionate love because you can't imagine heartache? Not even close. Thank You LA, I can always count on you to cut to the chase and tell it like it is....Tempting

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:13:23 PM)
Thank You Tethers...(((hugs back)))...Tempting

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:14:56 PM)
To all others who responded to this thread, I thank you all for your insight and personal experiences...you have given me much to ponder....and I appreciate all your responses...Tempting

lilredny -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:35:58 PM)
NEVER. Never too old, never too anything, never!

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/23/2008 8:54:23 PM)
Me too! And I still fear those emotions, and fear that letting go and just "feeling" them will start an uncontrollable torrent of "stuff". With His help and understanding, I am learning to be vulnerable again, to open myself up to love. It's definitely not easy. [&o] quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde Once upon a time I wanted to learn how not to feel. For years I was successful. Then there came a time when I wanted to feel again. For over a year I failed. Eventually I was able to feel the little things. For a time this was good enough. Later I was given a reason to let someone deeper, and let myself feel more. All hell broke loose and I was an emotional wreck. I've gotten a little better at feeling now. ______________________ My point is this: sometimes we close off parts of ourselves, either consciously or unconsciously. Hopefully you will one day find the reason to open up to deeper love and deeper pain.

mypain56 -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/25/2008 6:18:46 PM)
LOVE is such a hard emotion, it has so many different factors. how deeply you would like to love someone, or like me i havehad this armor surrounding my heart for years, simply because the last man i was truly in love with left me with scars that will never go away. And then after that i hada brain fart fell in love with a woman was devoted for for 10 years and she left me for a crackhead online. More heartache. now as i am getting on in years that before i give any deeper emotions it takes trust,honesty,integrity and comfort. Although i will always have that shield ready for battle so to speak but don't sell your self short to letting someone prove themselve to you. i did after along time and it's been worth it. He has proven to be a very good man. i really now how hard it is, but the good one's are out there it just takes time. good luck in your journey. melly/srln:654-049-049

HornyToadsMI -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/25/2008 7:43:23 PM)
I would say that the right person has not come along and knocked your socks off lately....

Missokyst -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/25/2008 9:38:17 PM)
Hmmm.... based on the other topic you posted in the general section, I am sure more than a few of us are questioning that "good man" part. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: mypain56 He has proven to be a very good man. i really now how hard it is, but the good one's are out there it just takes time. good luck in your journey. melly/srln:654-049-049

LotusSong -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/25/2008 9:45:12 PM)
"It's good, sometimes, to open your heart and let a little hurt come in..it proves you're still alive"- Rod McKuen

Morghan -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/26/2008 4:37:23 AM)
An alternative to the concept of numbness is the idea that you just haven't been 'struck' in the way you once were by a partner. I recommend a book called "Love and Limerence". It talks about romantic love as a term, limerence, where one is obsessed with the LO (love object) and feels great emotional pangs based on their behaviors or perceived feelings. Its a great read, not that long, and might be relevant to your ponderings. Morghan

deviousmiss -> RE: Hard to Fathom (4/27/2008 11:36:38 AM)
Tempting, One is never too old for love, as many examples will show. I believe that we all experience the numbness which comes from repeated heartache. In a sense, we're adapting to handle these emotions, even if it is in a negative way, like closing oneself off. I think that, once you meet someone(s) truly worthy of you then you'll begin to feel your heart open up again. As Hallmark as that sounds, I firmly believe it is true. Ultimately, you are special indivudual capeable of love and worthy or recieving it, and in time you will do both. ... And read darchChylde's response, like, every day!

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