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Leatherist -> RE: Stepford people (4/14/2008 8:54:34 PM)
I'm a shallow fuck. I just look for a woman who has a waist like this ) ( Instead of this ( )

MzHard -> RE: Stepford people (4/14/2008 9:45:32 PM)
I love OP ideas and sentiments. In my opinion of these 'charactors' are those that are babies/new to the scene...therefore uncomfortable in 'being themselves'...its 'safer' to be a role and not a real person. The kink I love is from that place of joy, freedom, and play. To get there you need genuine people expressing themselves nakedly before all that can see

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: Stepford people (4/14/2008 9:50:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin It might just be a lack of sleep. I haven't had a really good night's sleep in about a week now. An old injury has been tormenting me in a not so good pain kind of way. I know it's my fault because I've been pushing it when I know what I really need to do is just rest it...but shit's gotta get done ya know. Ever notice how things seem to hurt more in the middle of the night? Anyone, I can't sleep so I thought I'd do some reading on the boards to help me "get" tired enough to override the pain. I find though that tonight a large number of posts just make me feel sad.....and very, very blessed. There seem to be sooooo many people out there trying to jam themselves or their relationships into the boxes that fit their "perception" of what they think they are supposed to be. No room for individuality, no room for flexibility, no room for fallibility, no room to just be human. If you want to be a _____ you have to do_____ and accept_____.So many unhappy people. So many frustrated people. So many people who seem to be trying to follow some unwritten set of rules. They are trying to find a _____ partner, trying to make a relationship work with a _____ partner. It seems that in that process, so many seem to lose sight of who they are, what they want, what they need.....what fulfills them. Oh I know that none of this makes sense. But I just wanted to let people know....it is possible to be submissive or Dominant from a place of joy....to know love....acceptance....to find someone that you can share a life with....a life that isn't so rigid that you can't live up to the expectations of your partner....a life that allows for mistakes, growth, sharing, give and take. A life that doesn't require you to hide, neglect or forget parts of who you are or what you want, need or desire. Just saying....... STANDING OVATION You hit the nail squarely on the head, and I couldn't possibly have said it better myself. People need to forget what they should be and just be.

Poetryinpain -> RE: Stepford people (4/14/2008 10:20:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JANAAZ1 Oh, I told him that this isn't going to work for me You go, girl! quote: I read about how happy the one Slave is, I can't think of her name now, but, her Master is ' The Dark, Urmmm, the.dark is the slave; Darcy is the Master. And, yes, they are very happy. quote: I WAS UNDER CONSIDERATION.... I thought that meant for HIM to decide if I was a good fit for him, and, maybe he did mean that, but, I have walked away with the knowledge that, in the future, HE WILL BE UNDER MY CONSIDERATION TOO!!!!!! That's the spirit! quote: I will try again, I know me, I WILL.... And with that attitude, you're sure to succeed. pip, cheering

GreedyTop -> RE: Stepford people (4/14/2008 10:30:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Poetryinpain quote: I read about how happy the one Slave is, I can't think of her name now, but, her Master is ' The Dark, Urmmm, the.dark is the slave; Darcy is the Master. And, yes, they are very happy. And having met them, that happiness glows through even more in person than here :)

MadRabbit -> RE: Stepford people (4/15/2008 4:58:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth Reality is - it is impossible to disclose the totality of the issue in writing to make any suggestion useful unless/except if it initiates a desire for more self-awareness. This should be branded as a header on the top of every Collarchat page to serve as a reminder for the "Dump him!" brigade. quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth There are no 'ideals', no perfect or even good examples of what you should be or what a relationship should look like. There is no dogma. For a relationship to succeed long term it requires a self generated, and unique, dogma. Obtaining that is where you'll find that "joy" and "fun" you seek. It's there in the contentment and confidence of being self aware. No one can tell you HOW to achieve that - the important part is knowing that you have to. I agree with what your saying in principle, but not entirely in practice. I would say 20% of the protocols, rituals, and rules that make up my dynamic with the girls who have served me is trully original thought. Everything else is a benefit of the shared information from a whole assortment of people both real time and online. People share experiences and I pick and choose what I like and what I don't, what I think is effective and what isn't, and what is or is not a genuine concept or tenant that will work for me. The end result is unique in itself, but to claim the individual parts as self generated is not accurate. To trully "do it alone" without any reference to outside information or counsel would significantly stalwart one's own process of learning the skills and concepts needed to make own's own INDIVIDUAL relationship successful. The difference is any body of knowledge I take from is done for the purpose of internal self fulfillment and not with the purpose of conforming to someone's external ideal. My interpersonal relationship is tailored to suit me and not tailored to qualify for some social identity in the "True M/Sers" or the "Super Cool Black Hankie Sadists" or the "Slaves of Spinach". As long as the motivation is one's own self fulfillment, I don't see anything wrong and in fact, see it quite beneficial, to borrow from the knowledge and experience of other people's dynamics.

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