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slaveboyforyou -> Weekends.... (4/12/2008 6:45:53 PM)

I spend most of my weekends alone.  I actually ventured out this Saturday and went to the horse track.  It was the last day of the season.  I lost 50 bucks.  I ran into a lot of people I know.  They all tried to get me to go bar hopping.  I always decline, because that really isn't my scene.  I feel awkward at bars.  I don't blend with that type of crowd.  I just prefer quiet on my weekends.  But I admit that I am lonely, and I know my friends are trying to get me out to meet people.  Am I wrong about that?  Should I go out more?



camille65 -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 6:49:37 PM)

I don't think so. I like being alone more than being in a bar too. Now if I felt lonely and needed to reach out or enlarge my friendship base then I would worry. But if someone is fine being a loner then why push for something else?



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 6:51:51 PM)

lonely days....and lonely nights.... lalala



xxblushesxx -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 7:17:29 PM)

I don't know. I am an extrovert with verrrry strong home body tendencies.
It takes a lot to get me to go, but when I do allow someone to make me go somewhere, I really enjoy myself.
Maybe hibernating all the time is me being sadistic to my maso side?
Idk...



Level -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 7:26:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I spend most of my weekends alone.  I actually ventured out this Saturday and went to the horse track.  It was the last day of the season.  I lost 50 bucks.  I ran into a lot of people I know.  They all tried to get me to go bar hopping.  I always decline, because that really isn't my scene.  I feel awkward at bars.  I don't blend with that type of crowd.  I just prefer quiet on my weekends.  But I admit that I am lonely, and I know my friends are trying to get me out to meet people.  Am I wrong about that?  Should I go out more?


Find things you and your friends can do that's not bar related.
 
I have little use for bars, myself. Too many drunk and loud assholes.



KatyLied -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 8:39:43 PM)

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Am I wrong about that? Should I go out more?


Are you carving out time for physical activity?  That is the first thing I think about when I read your post.  My weekend priority in good weather, is to take my bike out.  I'm so busy during the week that I enjoy down time on the weekend.  I usually try to visit my parents during the weekend as well.



popeye1250 -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 8:56:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I spend most of my weekends alone.  I actually ventured out this Saturday and went to the horse track.  It was the last day of the season.  I lost 50 bucks.  I ran into a lot of people I know.  They all tried to get me to go bar hopping.  I always decline, because that really isn't my scene.  I feel awkward at bars.  I don't blend with that type of crowd.  I just prefer quiet on my weekends.  But I admit that I am lonely, and I know my friends are trying to get me out to meet people.  Am I wrong about that?  Should I go out more?


Slaveboy, but what kind of woman are you going to meet in a bar?
If you want to meet a woman stay out of bars and churches!
Go to,........laundrymats.
You could spy a nice one folding up her laundry and walk by and snatch a pair of her panties and put them over your head and have her chase you around the place.
Now that's a real conversation starter!



Real_Trouble -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 9:04:01 PM)

I agree with the whole "find something to do that is not bar related".

I abhor the bar scene as well; given that what I'm primarily after is intelligence, they are very poor hunting grounds on average.

Yeah, that'll draw some fire... ahem.



popeye1250 -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 9:16:26 PM)

Trouble, true, my sister told me once to go to bookstores if you want to find nice women as they now have coffee shops in them.
But, I hate books and I figured if they're in a bookstore coffeeshop during the day they might be unemployed.
Slaveboy, do you have any shopping malls near you?
You could pose as a photographer needing models and...



kdsub -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 9:25:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I spend most of my weekends alone.  I actually ventured out this Saturday and went to the horse track.  It was the last day of the season.  I lost 50 bucks.  I ran into a lot of people I know.  They all tried to get me to go bar hopping.  I always decline, because that really isn't my scene.  I feel awkward at bars.  I don't blend with that type of crowd.  I just prefer quiet on my weekends.  But I admit that I am lonely, and I know my friends are trying to get me out to meet people.  Am I wrong about that?  Should I go out more?

You don't have to go to a bar... engage in volunteer work or pursue a hobby... Choose one where you will meet new people.

Another idea...take a class at your local community college...join some clubs...lots of fun and you can choose the level of involvement.

Butch



xxblushesxx -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 9:29:53 PM)

hmmm...I used to hang out in bars. I used to be a bartender. I also used to spend a lot of time in book stores and libraries. (ok, I still read A LOT)

I'm not sure that you can't meet nice, intelligent, funny  or whatever kind of people you are looking for anywhere.

I never hung out at laundriemats though, because I figured out I could buy a used washer and dryer for less than six months of washing clothes at a public place.



Real_Trouble -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 9:33:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Trouble, true, my sister told me once to go to bookstores if you want to find nice women as they now have coffee shops in them.
But, I hate books and I figured if they're in a bookstore coffeeshop during the day they might be unemployed.
Slaveboy, do you have any shopping malls near you?
You could pose as a photographer needing models and...


... and ruin a good book hunt by stopping to look at women?

I think not, good sir.  I will not fall for your ploy.



popeye1250 -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 9:35:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

hmmm...I used to hang out in bars. I used to be a bartender. I also used to spend a lot of time in book stores and libraries. (ok, I still read A LOT)

I'm not sure that you can't meet nice, intelligent, funny  or whatever kind of people you are looking for anywhere.

I never hung out at laundriemats though, because I figured out I could buy a used washer and dryer for less than six months of washing clothes at a public place.


blushes, that's true I once met a woman who was a teacher when pumping gas.
She claimed she didn't know how to use the pump. Duh! lol



NeedToUseYou -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 10:33:33 PM)

I don't think your wrong to dislike bars, I don't like them either. I've tried to like them like an acquired taste, but they are to loud, to crowded, to many drunks.

I just don't like bars, I might like some laid back cosmopolitan bar, but all we have here is trashy loud obnoxious bars.

The problem  is in most places there aren't many places for non-bar type people to congregate that the teeny bobbers don't overtake, anyway. So, there are more of us than them, but with no outlet other than bingo. LOL.





subfever -> RE: Weekends.... (4/12/2008 10:59:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

I spend most of my weekends alone.  I actually ventured out this Saturday and went to the horse track.  It was the last day of the season.  I lost 50 bucks.  I ran into a lot of people I know.  They all tried to get me to go bar hopping.  I always decline, because that really isn't my scene.  I feel awkward at bars.  I don't blend with that type of crowd.  I just prefer quiet on my weekends.  But I admit that I am lonely, and I know my friends are trying to get me out to meet people.  Am I wrong about that?  Should I go out more?


I've no doubt that your friends are well-intentioned. But I don't think it's a matter of right vs wrong here.

Simple question: Why do you think you're lonely?



Maya2001 -> RE: Weekends.... (4/13/2008 12:49:46 AM)

I took a look at your profile and noticed you have a good range of interests some suitable for volunteer work or even just to get you out the house attending some event, sometimes p[eople just need to give themselves a bit of a push, start making a commitment to get out at least once a month ...then after a while twice a month eventually you will start meeting and getting to know people that have the same interests as you to become friends with  and will make it easy to get out and in time you will likely be looking forward to the outings



SugarMyChurro -> RE: Weekends.... (4/13/2008 3:42:58 AM)

You should be more social if you intend to find people with whom you can relate on a more intimate level. You should have avocational interests - these will tend to define you more as a person than what you may do to make money. Find activities that you enjoy doing and do them in a social context.

This presumes you are not finding the internet itself useful in finding partners for your interests. I actually do think the internet can be a great gateway to relationships for people of unique interest.

::Ahem!::

But it's not the case for everyone. And you should be careful that the internet doesn't become the way you avoid real world interactions.



hisannabelle -> RE: Weekends.... (4/13/2008 3:49:58 AM)

greetings slaveboyforyou,

i spend most of my weekends alone as well (lately studying), since i am usually either working or catching up on schoolwork, and master generally works weekends so i don't see him (last night was a rare treat). it's nice when i can spend time with friends or go to a park or to the gym/swimming, though.

i am not the bar type. occasionally i'll go over to the shisha bar, but i don't drink (can't anyway, not for a few more months). most of my friends are of legal age, but thankfully they are not the barhopping type - and they know me well enough at this point not to invite me, if they are.

seriously, though - i have to second some of these suggestions. what are your hobbies? your profile mentions you like bluegrass and jazz - depending on whether or not you're a musician, check out what other local musicians are doing, and even if there's just activities around for enthusiasts. tally is not that big of a place and we have weekend fairs with live bands, usually starts around this time of year since it's not so cold. there are also usually poetry reading/writing groups or other people interested in things like photography and bicycling, which you also list. you're much more likely to find people into the same things you are (versus into going out and drinking, not that there's anything wrong with that) in places like that. and i have to second popeye's laundromat suggestion particularly. the underwear trick would sweep me off my feet, anyway.

respectfully,
annabelle.



SugarMyChurro -> RE: Weekends.... (4/13/2008 4:07:49 AM)

The supermarket closest to me has a coffee-bar area, a very well stocked deli (that even has fresh sushi), a wine-tasting area, a cheese tasting area and an area with lunch-benches that rounds the whole thing out.

That place is a meat market if there ever was one. Affluent and lonely women abound. They've had cheese, coffee and something sweet most likely. They are ready...

[;)]



pahunkboy -> RE: Weekends.... (4/13/2008 6:48:39 AM)

I woderred the same thing. I doubt I am missing much tho.

Reach out more to people.   Even males.  Why?  Many have sisters, cousins, co-workers who are single.

If you want to meet woman...easy.  Get a beauty service done every week at a beauty school. Tell the clerk you  are single and looking for a female bowling/bridge/darts/pool partner.

The key is to return.  When a male walks in to  those places you are fresh meet!  ;-0


I like my solitude.  I can spend endless hours puttering around the house.  the ppl on this board are lovely- so that is mingling.  [[altho high teck]


Oh do something workman like,  dress the part.  that should gain horn honks.   i get them and i am not anything to look at, especially since my hair is now like bozos!  the red  turned orange. lol.

I make a ton of reasons to not go anywhere.  There are also high maintence drama type the one could do without.  So solitude isnt necessarily bad.

the big thing- tho- is to have dreams and goals  and a spark for life.  oh- many singles 25 + are saddled with kids- at about 40, that fades-tho folks are very set in their ways.

i met some local ppl on freecycle- try it.



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