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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 7:52:48 PM   
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What part does patience play in a kink-relationship?


Patience to suppress the desires and physical needs in order to first form the foundation of knowing each other mentally and emotionally. 

Patience to let the trust grow and evolve naturally.

Patience to not force the feelings/emotions to exist that werent there yet.
 
Patience to deal with me and all my questions and feelings..thoughts, words and quirky ideas.
I had trust issues, emotional walls, some pain-evoked limits and lines to be dealt with..
His patience and confidence ( in himself and in me ) is the reason we are who we are today.
 
Patience with myself
  I am grateful to be able to say that I have that today.
Like Catize talked about > I was impatient to experience more..know more..feel more.
 
It wasn't until I learned patience, that I really learned to experience my experiences.
 
Patience when lifestuff causes disappointments and gets priority over the physical WIIWD stuff.
 
Our LTR  became a LDR several years ago. 
The patience Tyson brought/brings to our relationship and that he has nurtured in me> is, in my opinion, the reason why we are able to make it work despite the miles separating us.
It takes TONS of patience and understanding..
 
Always a new challenge around every corner..
Patience allows me to settle my mind enough to reflect on where I came from..
it also allows me to live in today and not fret about tomorrow.
 
My submission to Tyson taught me patience..
  hated waiting and wondering LOL
how do I NOT anticipate the outcome? next move? reasons for instructions?
He would patiently remind me:
obey...accept...surrender the control that comes with the  impatience.
Quiet my mind...just feel  and embrace what comes.
 
Sometimes its a love-hate thing..
and his ability to be patient and calm drive me nutz..
When I want to bounce off the walls and have a well deserved melt down and he remains cool as a cucumber and gives me that look to ...calm down.  But deep down inside I know that that self-control he has is exactly what makes me sooo wet.

 
 
 

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:22:57 PM   
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kyra wrote:

Most definitey.  It is extremely powerless feeling to know that some unknown person has such sway over my life and learning to manage the stress that comes with governmental red tape...  that takes patience. 


Yes, the government can be taxing, in more ways than one

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Knight wrote:

NOPE.. .wouldn't affect my thinking hardly that all.... (I am always thinking about hot women)...

But it will affect my actions!!!! *grin*






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adrian wrote:

The fact that our ability to reason is what sets us apart from animals is why patience is so important. What would the world be like if we all acted on just emotions and instinct? Remember, slow and steady wins the race.


Yes, it's a balancing act though, also. Action and patience..... but being patient is an action in itself.

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Patience.

I had thought I was an impatient person but so much of our balance hinges on it. Being his has required patience and trust which for me tend to go hand in hand. I have to trust that my patience will be rewarded, I have to know that I will be seeing him and eventually moving to his area.

 

Sometimes patience is required in smaller things, things that I want to do and do now but he tells me to wait. Usually it is something that will tax me and he wants me to wait, I have to trust that he knows what is best for me and stifle my impulse to go do 'whatever'.

 

For a long time I would feel a big angry or resentful having to wait. I don't know if it is something I've just adjusted to, but waiting for most things is a lot easier.

 

I'm not sure if this is the type of answer you're looking for..but it's what I have.




It's a good answer, my friend. I know that you're having to be awfully strong, and I think you're going to be fine.

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I'm a very impatient person in general.  I want matters solved asap, I hate waiting for anything, and yep, I rip into my Christmas and birthday presents first thing.  But I'm finding that my impatience doesn't work well in our relationship.  The quick conclusions that I came to in other matters don't work with us because a lot of the things that I'm learning and growing into require careful thought and processing.  Sometimes my first conclusion isn't the one I stick with in the long run.  And my impulsiveness has led to a few bumps in the road for us.

Fortunately Master has oodles of patience and I'm learning from how he interacts with me for ways to take a step back and breathe before acting.  And he does understand that we're building a relationship and is patient enough to let me step forward at a pace which is comfortable for me.  Which helps us greatly. 

And, oh yeah, with the kinky stuff ... I'm also learning how to be patient there, which has greatly increased my pleasure, which is one hell of a payoff!    The quickie "O" isn't always the best one! 



 Indeed.
 
Nice post; I thank you for it.

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Daddyslilpookie wrote:

Patience plays in every relationship kink or not everyone needs patience. I can see what you are saying though patience plays alot in D/s because it takes time to get to know and trust your partner and what they can and can't handle.


It does; in any relationship, it's easy enough for things to get broken, but a kink relationship has its special challenges

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:32:28 PM   
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If My Lord hadn't been patient with me, I wouldn't be with him anymore.

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:34:29 PM   
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I have tons of patience..I am always of the mindset that this too shall change if I wait and be patient..and sometimes it does and sometimes it does not..in fact I am so patient that some people crack up when I "pretend impatience" simply because such is foreign to my general nature..but strangely enough the older I get now, I find my patience is not as vast as it once was.....Tempting

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:36:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TysGalilah

Our LTR  became a LDR several years ago. 
The patience Tyson brought/brings to our relationship and that he has nurtured in me> is, in my opinion, the reason why we are able to make it work despite the miles separating us.
It takes TONS of patience and understanding..


That must be hard  the heart wants one thing, and life gives you another.

 
 
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But deep down inside I know that that self-control he has is exactly what makes me sooo wet.

 

 




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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:37:29 PM   
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If My Lord hadn't been patient with me, I wouldn't be with him anymore.


In what way?

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:39:18 PM   
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I have tons of patience..I am always of the mindset that this too shall change if I wait and be patient..and sometimes it does and sometimes it does not..in fact I am so patient that some people crack up when I "pretend impatience" simply because such is foreign to my general nature..but strangely enough the older I get now, I find my patience is not as vast as it once was.....Tempting


Hey pretty lady. Less patient....... I wonder how common that is? In some ways, I'm more patient, but in others....

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:49:58 PM   
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   Less patient....... I wonder how common that is? In some ways, I'm more patient, but in others....  


I do find thay I am impatient with those who are not patient.

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 8:55:06 PM   
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What part does patience play in a kink-relationship?


Patience allows you to build trust and endurance for extended and edgier SM scenes. When I play with someone, I always leave them wanting more, so next time they'll allow me to go further with them. I can't count the number of people who have put a hard limit on needle play only to turn around a few months later and ask me for a piercing.

Patience is good. ::grins::

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 10:23:18 PM   
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It would be good to have them wont it????

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 10:27:05 PM   
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OK, I completely read that as patience as in the card game. I need to up the meds and get a bit more action methinketh.

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RE: Patience - 4/12/2008 10:36:38 PM   
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He had incredible patience with me as I learned my way as his slave, and as I had to overcome my own personal demons.  In turn, I had to learn patience, as answers are provided on his timeline, not mine.

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RE: Patience - 4/13/2008 1:58:01 AM   
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Patience is very important both from the Top and the bottom.  If I had my way as a slave, I would be contacted a minimum of three times a day and given at least one task a day to perform, would move up real time sessions from once every two weeks to twice a week, and would learn something new every session.  I am most impatient with myself because I want to learn, learn, learn and never ever make a mistake.

I need to learn to be more patient because there are times I have to go without as much contact, or praise, as I would most like.

At the same time my Master is patient with me.  He knows that I won't be perfect for Him but need to be trained.  He wants me to learn what He wants by Him giving me only a glance, but that takes time and understanding what the glance really means.  He shows patience by allowing me to ask for lap time whenever I want or need it.  He allows me to ask questions to get clarification if I don't understand immediately what He is wanting me to do.

They are different forms of patience, yet we are both showing that quality.  I believe that it comes much more naturally to Him, but I'm working on it - as fast and hard as I can - LOL.

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RE: Patience - 4/13/2008 2:35:47 AM   
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Do you love that person? "Spiritually", how?


In a way, I love him. Marry...have children love? No. Equal partner love? No. I feel...connected to him on a deeper level than most people. This is in part due to my spiritual beliefs about past lives and such. We've known each other a long time and share memories of life times ago. So, the connection is unique and it means a lot to me. I can go into further detail, if you want, but I'd rather do it in private. Send a message on the other side, if you want.

I will say this: I know, beyond doubt, that I am his Master. There have been interactions on that level that you just cannot fake. he has acknowledged it, too, but isn't ready for it and, in some ways, I am not where I need to be in order to be ready for him, either. I do not yet have the skill necessary to be what he needs in his life. When I'm ready and when he's ready, the Universe will make it happen, I believe without doubt.

Master Fire

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RE: Patience - 4/13/2008 4:16:34 AM   
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I'm not a patient person, never have been, am not usually a patient person within a D/s dynamic either (unless as a form of punishment I'm made to wait for something)

Not sure that makes me a bad person or even a bad submissive for my current Master, He seems to like it when it becomes obvious it's urgent and "now!" for me, whatever works in your personal dynamic I guess.

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RE: Patience - 4/13/2008 7:02:37 AM   
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If My Lord hadn't been patient with me, I wouldn't be with him anymore.


In what way?


Everyway.  Taking the time to wait while I find words to answer his many questions, taking the time to allow me to adjust to a new idea or a new kind of kink.  Takin the time to talk to me about his needs and wants before plunging into action regarding them.  Taking the time to teach me to control myself, slow down, enjoy the process.  Almost every stride I've made in the kinky side of this relationship has been taken on the steps of his patience and willingness to let me grow at my own pace.

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