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DupedDom -> BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 10:56:52 AM)
How many people began to explore this lifestyle after finding out that they like kinky sex??? I was chatting with someone and told them about my first bdsm-ish experience, it involved a cuckhold husband and his wife. I did his wife in the arse and made him "grease me up" before I did the deed, making him watch while his wife took me, in agaony, which soon turned to ecstacy. She never allowed him back there but I was very insistant, now he was watching make his woman, both suffer and experience great pleasure. The excitement that I recieved from her and his submission, made me very excited. It was then I knew that my next relationship would involve BDSM. I was accused of just liking kinky sex, not being a true Dom. My contention is that most every person into BDSM, likes kinky sex, it is just that BDSM, goes much , much deeper. What do you think???

Lordandmaster -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 11:01:57 AM)
I think you need to discover what you like and don't like, and then live your life accordingly. Don't worry about whether it fits someone else's notion of what BDSM is supposed to be. But yeah, normally there's more to it than just fucking another man's wife in the ass. (Not that there's anything wrong with that...)

Floggings4You -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 11:08:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DupedDom How many people began to explore this lifestyle after finding out that they like kinky sex??? I was chatting with someone and told them about my first bdsm-ish experience, it involved a cuckhold husband and his wife. I did his wife in the arse and made him "grease me up" before I did the deed, making him watch while his wife took me, in agaony, which soon turned to ecstacy. She never allowed him back there but I was very insistant, now he was watching make his woman, both suffer and experience great pleasure. The excitement that I recieved from her and his submission, made me very excited. It was then I knew that my next relationship would involve BDSM. I was accused of just liking kinky sex, not being a true Dom. My contention is that most every person into BDSM, likes kinky sex, it is just that BDSM, goes much , much deeper. What do you think??? Did you ask your accuser what they meant by 'true Dom'? I know a few pairs of folks who like D/s and/or S&M, who do not have sex with their partners. In most cases, they are paired with vanilla sex partners, and reserve any sexual play for that person, and simply meet with a Dom or Domme for the endorphin and/or emotional (but not sexual) rush. Second, just liking certain aspects of kinky sex, doesn't make one a Dom or a sub. Even topping O/others doesn't make you a Dom, just as bottoming O/others doens't make one a sub or slave...

DupedDom -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 11:27:49 AM)
I guess everyone has an "awakening" moment. My curiosity and question I guess, is how many people get this "awakening" during kinky sex. A woman may never know she likes being spanked until someone does it, this doesn't make her a sub but might awaken her to persue the path of a sub.

DupedDom -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 11:29:30 AM)
I was just asking how many that are into the "lifesyle" started out with Kinky sex??

LadyHibiscus -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 1:29:47 PM)
I was a virgin when I started dominating people......so, no, not really. There are an awful lot of swingers interested in bdsm, and cuckolds, and voyeurs. For me, there is a world of difference between a sex act and a D/s relationship.

xxblushesxx -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 1:35:53 PM)
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colouredin -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/10/2008 2:37:15 PM)
BDSM to my mind inculed what you term 'kinky sex' but really even that definition is impossible, whats kinky sex? who judges that? I actually do make a destinction but not with your labels or in your way, I say that one can play without the D/s dynamic and vice versa. In response to your question, not me I was driven far more by submissive desire than the acts often assocaiated with it.

DupedDom -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/11/2008 4:56:38 AM)
I see that this thread is not the most popular. Perhaps it has been done before. Pehaps many people are in denial???

DiurnalVampire -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/11/2008 5:22:04 AM)
In denial of what? My interest in the lifestyle has nothing to do with kinky sex. It doesnt have much to do with sex at all, most of the time. When I started as a Domme, I didnt have sex with the subs I played with for several years until I was dating the one I was dominating. I am a sadist and enjoy the power, the sex is a perk with the right partner but not the focus. I have 2 collared boys. Angel has been mine for almost 2 years now, and he is still a virgin. Our play has never and will never be about kinky sex. Fox and I do have sex, sometimes kinky sometimes rough, sometimes vanilla. My control over him started way before the sex, and would continue whether or not sex was an aspect of our relationship. DV

MichiganHeadmast -> RE: BDSM or Kinky Sex (4/11/2008 5:23:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DupedDom BDSM or Kinky Sex My answer is "both."

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