DominantJenny
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Hi! My name is Jenny. My spouse, T, and I will shortly be celebrating out 12th wedding anniversary. I came out to him as kinked in the first year of our marriage...after discovering on the internet that actually expressing this sexuality was possible. He had never had any inklings this way, but (thank goodness!) took to being a submissive. I explored (with his knowledge and agreement) online at my pace and in our relationship at his. The best part of this is that I got to essentially create my ideal male submissive...but it was HARD work and I'm glad it's long over now. I do NOT advise going this route, btw; I got really lucky. But for those struggling with a partner who didn't come to this as naturally as you did, there MAY be hope.
I'm bi, and poly, and came to CollarMe because I'm still looking for my Ms. Right. (Or ms. right, if you're into the (non)capitalization thing. I'm a straight-up dominant, not a submissive bone in my body.)
I used to be very active in the online BDSM community, but I eventually got tired of having it be such a huge identifier (if you are wondering, I went by the handle GypsyElf...I was a strong presence in the old Park chat community/bulletin boards and a medium-strong presence on ssbb for a while), and went partly back into the closet; I don't make it a secret that I'm kinky, but I don't share just how/how much with everyone. I'm also particularly careful about revealing my life because of the risk inherent in that; my husband needs his job, and we have a young child and another currently on the way. This is probably THE source of stress related to kink in my life these days.
For a long time, I didn't miss the BDSM community. (BTW, I never connected with my local groups, though we did go and try, back before we had kids and no time. :P) But I find that every once in a while, I want to talk kink, so I'll probably pop in when I'm in that mood.
In our relationship these days, we're dealing with having pretty much explored all the things we're interested in exploring, and finding ways to continue to keep things fresh and exciting...along with finding ways to HAVE a sex life with a toddler (and soon another baby) around! We do consider ourselves 24/7, but find in the long run that we have what turns out to be a pretty egalitarian relationship ultimately, even though I technically have the last word on things. I'm just so darn reasonable. :P
Obviously, BDSM is about sex/romantic relationships for me; I know it's more of a physical/emotional challenge for others, don't think I'm slighting you! I've been around long enough to have learned to never knock anyone else's kink or to expect everyone to be like me. :)
Politically, I'm way over to the left, and, in fact, we are in the process of immigrating to Canada; we'll be submitting our application in the next few months (hard to find time to fill it out!) and will hopefully be there in the next couple of years. We got to take a trip up just recently to explore the places we were considering settling, and Kitchener is our place of choice, at least initially. (We were only looking at southern Ontario, because my husband prefers to work in the automotive industry.) I, speaking of work, am a stay-at-home Mom, and I love it; it's all I ever really wanted to do. (Sorry, no high-powered, high-heeled stereotype here!)
Aside from kink, I'm a fan of mysteries (not thrillers) and sci-fi/fantasy, in both books and film/tv. I'm a realistic optimist, a thinker and an introvert, an INFJ personality type. I have a good sense of humor; not a fan of physical or "low" comedy, I prefer a good, though gentle, wit. I have a social circle scattered all over the place that I keep in touch with online. I have four cats and a turtle named Kermit. Pleased to meet you.
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