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RE: Nightmares again - 3/30/2008 9:04:34 PM

SirRober

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i wouls suggest you try therapy again, but this time with a therapist who deals with PTSD.

I almost agree with the above person .... but IMHO the theraphy you need can only come from the inside and from your DOM......

PTSD is a tricky situation there are many ways to treat it but not all work for everyone. It is a matter of time and finding out what works for you ......

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/30/2008 9:47:42 PM

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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

i wouls suggest you try therapy again, but this time with a therapist who deals with PTSD.

I almost agree with the above person .... but IMHO the theraphy you need can only come from the inside and from your DOM......

PTSD is a tricky situation there are many ways to treat it but not all work for everyone. It is a matter of time and finding out what works for you ......

I agree wth this totally ...and I am so happy you finally talked to your Dom .. I think this is the first step for you in getting help ....

Good luck .....

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/30/2008 9:50:23 PM

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Therapy never really worked for me, I was always put on medicines that made me sick or just not someone I am.
PTSD is tricky. I will agree too that. I don't want to be like my mother who is currently on 20+ medications for all different things.
I hate this...

But I did finally tell my Daddy. He is upset but happy like I said. He is trying to figure out something, because right now we are not fiancally able to even consider therapy.

>_<;

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/30/2008 9:50:42 PM

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YAY! Kitten...you can do it without drugs!

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/30/2008 9:56:45 PM

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Honestly No Drugs..
They make me scary as a person...
Only Drugs I would take would be my birth control pill. That's it, maybe some tyendol or something like it that is over the counter for headaches and cramps.
But for depression NO DRUGS!

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/30/2008 11:34:20 PM

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Perhaps have him read up on Guided Meditation and try that.

I had nightmares and writing out, in detail, the sequence of events of the trauma helped me. Okay, at first it was really, really difficult to write it out. But once I was done writing it, I read it over and over until it lost its power over me. Meaning the memories of the actual event lost their power over me. The nightmares are not of the actual event, as they have morphed over the years into a more simple nightmare.

Now it seems like I have the nightmares only when I'm under alot of stress.

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:20:18 AM

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I don't know what to do, my Master/Daddy doesn't know that I am still having the nightmares because I can't tell him. I am afraid too. >_<; I don't know what to do.

Why are you afraid to tell your master what you are experiencing?

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:29:11 AM

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I don't know what to do, my Master/Daddy doesn't know that I am still having the nightmares because I can't tell him. I am afraid too. >_<; I don't know what to do.

Firstly, I feel for you. I really do. I've had great success in overcoming the abuse in my past, but I'm still plagued with horrific nightmares. Some of them so severe and realistic that I've had to be fished out of our swimming pool because I've been... fuck, it's not even sleepwalking at that point, more like sleeprunningandtryingtogetaway.

I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship dynamic with your Master/Daddy, but why are you so afraid to tell him that you're still having nightmares? It's completely not your fault that your subconscious is firing off the neurons that it is. If he's caring enough to set you up with a teddy bear and blanket then I'm sure he's going to be caring enough to help you find another solution to your nightmares. He needs to know. His responsibility is to care for you and make sure that you are safe, but he can't do his job unless you're open with him.

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 1:12:32 AM

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I finally told him that I have had nightmares. Yes he is alittle upset that I didn't tell him, sooner but he is happy to know now. He is just a little upset since the notebook we used to track the nightmares got lost in the move as well. We moved into a new place in November, and a lot of things got miss placed or just lost. But He knows now.

My Daddy knows. *suckles on her thumb.*

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 1:15:02 AM

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My Daddy says Thank Y/you all for your supportive words.
He said if Y/you want to talk to me or Him..
Just message us. :)

But I keep up with the thread. <3

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 10:38:11 AM

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I wish you luck and positive results ......

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 11:17:57 AM

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Good luck, the thing to remember is that the past has power over you inasmuch as it is allowed to. i do not mean to suggest that this is, in any way at all, your fault. But the solution will come when you see it as your choice. Choose the future over the past. Learn to make choices.

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:17:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

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ORIGINAL: lostsoulskitten

My nightmares feel like I am really having the things done to me again, and I wake up sometimes my arms are hurting or legs. Sometimes even my pelvic area. It sucks. I don't know what to do... I am afraid to tell my Daddy/Master, but I can tell him anything but this is something I am afraid too. We had post a thread on this before.. >_<;

The medicines for depression, and mixed anxiety are terrible. They make you sick, and they are very hypnotic. If you really look at the intructions, it tells you they are hypnotic well in doctors terms anyway. >_<; I need friends that understand where I am coming from... and I have none that will... >_<;

Can you tell your Daddy/Master in a letter ??... Perhaps that would be easier than face to face..... You need someone to talk to about this and he is the one that can help you most other than a therapist ... at least in my opinion.

If I were your Dominant I would want to know what was affecting you so and would be very disappointed if you couldnt tell me.

A letter/or email is an EXCELLENT idea! i've done that w/my previous Dom/it worked wonders. Tell him. Maybe he can help you find a free support group in your area. You've kept this hidden for so long, it's trying to resurface thru dreams. Kind of like being on overload. Once you tell your Dom/find a support group...the nightmares should not come as often. i'm not saying they'll disappear, just slowly fade away.

**Edited to add that i perved your profile/noticed that you mentioned your abuse in your journal entry on 3/30. Did he ask about this***???

***Edited again to add, uh, sorry, i just read that you did talk to your Dom.****

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:33:58 PM

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I think that when one has had some truamatic events in life, that afterwards when the nightmares start again, there is a current stresser that is causing the mind to go back to that event somehow and causes the dreams. It can be as simple as financial problems that make you feel unsafe deep down. Something is like triggering the response of nightmares.

Sometimes I've seen people that have suffered in an intimate relationship, shut down a part of themselves intimately and when they are getting close to someone else their automatic and sometimes not thought out defense is to pull away. They want and need exactlly what they are fighting off and yet something inside is warning them. While awake they might not have a problem because they have emotionally decided they want this intimacy and yet deep down on an unconsious level the walls of protection are up.

Find your stressers in your current life and see if addressing them and finding ways to keep yourself 'safe' and calm will help with the nightmares. This may not be what is happening, but I thought I would mention it as I have seen it in myself and others and I have been successful in it and rarely ever have nightmares now. I wish you well!

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:37:33 PM

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You could try keeping a journal of your daily activities see if there is a link between certain activities and nightmares or defensive episodes. It would be a lot easier for you and your Daddy to deal with issues if you know what triggers them.

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:49:29 PM

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Private therapy can be very expensive, but many therapists have a sliding scale fee. If you can find a group therapy for survivors of abuse, the cost will be lower. ACOA is also an option, and asks for a dollar in the pot. It is very liberating to hear others talk about their pasts and know you're not the only one. You don't have to talk if you don't want to, just sit in the back and listen. I went for six months, never spoke, and cried after each meeting. Very freeing. However you might prefer him to pick you up after the meeting because driving while crying is not that easy.

Look up ACOA in the phone book to find a local meeting. And no, although it means Adult Children of Alcoholics, you don't have to come from an alcoholic home to attend.

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 12:54:40 PM

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Private therapy can be very expensive, but many therapists have a sliding scale fee. If you can find a group therapy for survivors of abuse, the cost will be lower. ACOA is also an option, and asks for a dollar in the pot. It is very liberating to hear others talk about their pasts and know you're not the only one. You don't have to talk if you don't want to, just sit in the back and listen. I went for six months, never spoke, and cried after each meeting. Very freeing. However you might prefer him to pick you up after the meeting because driving while crying is not that easy.

Look up ACOA in the phone book to find a local meeting. And no, although it means Adult Children of Alcoholics, you don't have to come from an alcoholic home to attend.

not to derail...but awhile ago i heard ACOA refered to as Adult Children of Abuse.
Perhaps it was a mistake, or perhaps they changed the name. Just mentioning this if anyone is looking it up.

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RE: Nightmares again - 3/31/2008 8:06:14 PM

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YAY! Kitten...you can do it without drugs!

Capt Morgan scares away my bad dreams. He'll even bring his friends Jack and Jose on the Long Island for extra back up.

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RE: Nightmares again - 4/1/2008 11:33:08 PM

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Kitten doesn't drink, nor is she legal to be able to drink.
Well let me repharse, she doesn't drink a lot. She drinks maybe wine coolers here and there but nothing to much.
Her stomach is ultra senstive to different things.

She has been doing a little better now that we have talked a bit, and figured out some things (a little to private for ya'll to see).
She thanks you all for your kind words, but if you want to ever talk to her on yahoo or aim just message U/us and we will be gladly talk to Y/you.

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RE: Nightmares again - 4/1/2008 11:39:44 PM

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I find that when I have nightmares, sleeping during the day is helpful.

Yes, I know how horrible PTSD is. A little levity can't hurt, though, eh?

Peace, Scott

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