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New to the site andBDSM - 3/24/2008 3:11:09 AM

crazyj68

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hello everyone! Im pretty new to bdsm inexperienced extremely curious open-minded and willing. Im straight and it seems that Doms on here either want only a girl or a guy that they can get free stuff from. im sure they arent all like that and thats what im looking for because there is alot more i can offer thats more meaningful and fun and productive. Im currently a sub in a virtual world and i really like it but i have alot of problems idky i try i really want to be a switch or just a sub. if anyone can help me out on learning all aboutBDSM it would be cool im not just a creepy horny guy that wants sex im lookin for wayyyy more than that.

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RE: New to the site andBDSM - 3/24/2008 3:36:12 AM

GiantSteps

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Welcome crazyj;

I dunno - I've been poking around the topics, and I'm not seeing anything that looks like Doms wanting free stuff from folks. Throttle back - if this is a lifestyle you're interested in, your first step has to be patience. Read the topics, get involved with discussions, be cool and learn. Take the time and get some basics under your belt before judging - or acting - on anything or anybody. It's a process you're beginning. Invest some time, and your investment will pay dividends.

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RE: New to the site andBDSM - 3/24/2008 3:49:04 AM

crazyj68

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yeah i havnt seen that on the forums but the young girls profile's ive seen that are Doms seem really greedy to me but im def sure that its not the majority.im also curious on what a real female Dom would think of a 19 yr male who wants to totally learn submit and have some fun. i'd one day like to live with one so i can pretty much serve her 24/7

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RE: New to the site andBDSM - 3/24/2008 3:58:56 AM

GiantSteps

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cj, really what you need to do right now is to throttle back and learn. I understand the whole thing has you revved up, but to be honest, what a real Domme would think is that at this point you don't know the basic of basics: safety, sanity, and therefore, consentuality. If you want to impress a Domme, raw enthuseasm alone isn't gonna cut it. Show you can do your homework, gain some understanding and poise. This is school, this is day one, so buckle down and do the homework. A real Domme is looking for discipline - they can get wlling bodies by the truckload. You're not in audition form yet. Learn. Ask. Listen.

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RE: New to the site andBDSM - 3/24/2008 4:08:43 AM

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Welcome, both of you!

crazyj68, you need to take baby steps here. What are you interested in -- A Domme or Dom? What sorts of things interest you? What limits do you have right now? You need to do some self-assessment because you need to know these things before you find someone to play with. Once you can clearly state these things, you can begin searching for the right person for you.

Everything worth having in life is worth waiting for... have some patience.

Good Luck!
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