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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 5:54:17 AM

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I think the worst form of punishment would be to continue a online relationship.

Oh Jenny,

I'm only glad I wasn't sipping coffee when I read your suggestion! What a great response.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 9:54:39 AM

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One of the good reasons that "on-line" training does NOT WORK

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 10:23:04 AM

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Well online? How is he to know whether you did the task or not. When told what your punishmentis, how does he know you did that or not? For me online don't work, i think r/t is better.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 11:04:35 AM

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If you were disrespectful enough to disobey a simple "online" order (as silly as that may be), I'd probably release you. If you can't perform in an "online" capacity, I'd venture to say that you'd be even more useless in REAL LIFE.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 12:25:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: sweetpettjenny

I think the worst form of punishment would be to continue a online relationship.

Oh man that just had me busting up...LMAO.

Well i like to have friends whom I corospond with online, but as far as anything of a sexual nature. Well I jsut can't honestly find the appeal in it.
I do love getting really good erotica in my mailbox from friends...does that count?

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 1:08:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: YngSlavErin4Mstr
what would my punishment be

Isn't online only BDSM punishment enough?

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Shoot TallDarkAndWitty.. the last time I played with a Dom buddy of mine, I was asked to do such a thing.. I didn't do it.. so for the next 3 play dates I had to go VANILLA.. talk about punishment!!

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/29/2005 9:50:57 PM

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I don't dis online, myself.

For some, being online involves 2 (or more - heh) people creating their own good erotica, together, in real time - whether typing, phoning, sharing photos, being directed to certain links to talk about what you see there or web camming.
It is a place to start learning and sharing interests, exploring. But you sure do have to be careful about who and what you allow into your mind so intimately because it is very intimate, with the right person.

For those who value the mental and emotional aspects of D/s more than the physicality of S/m, it is definitely possible to have that intensely online.

But if it doesn't appeal to you, I guess it doesn't.

Sorry to see the original poster get so dissed in this thread.

True, one doesn't have to tell the truth - but he could have checks in place - like a cam directive. I'm thinking both the task and the punishment would have to be anything he could verify, asking for photo proof.

And don't forget, some people are online because they are in long distance relationships already.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 5:32:12 AM

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For some of us online is all W/we have most of the time due to distance.I have not been in an online only relationship however. O/ours is part r/t and part online..
I think if you did not do the task asigned whether online or in r/t then you do not respect you Master enough to be His Sub. If there is an issue with the task (safety) then discussit before hand.also if clit clamps are a hard limit for you that should have been set in the original talks and He should not even give that as a punishment or a task.
Master gives me task to complete online. some of them i have not completed due to unexpected circumstances or just not completly understaing what He was looking for. However...i have told Him of these and He has either revised the original task to fit my situation or Talked me threough it via webcam.
online D/s can work if both parties are commited to each other. the sub has to be ready to do what He says just as if they were in r/t and the Dom has to realize that a sub cannot physically do to thenselves what He would do all of the time .
Its a matter of trust ..He has to trust I will do as he instructs. if i do not then what is the point..
and besides .. if He finds out i did not do something He instructed then i guarentee you i will pay at he next r/t meet..sorry about the rant but i am forced to live O/our relationship online at the momeent and it disturbs me that alot of folks here think its nothing more than fantasy.. It is not ..I have been in Masters presence and have felt the paddle , have felt His hands on my skin and His voice in my ear.. and i bring those things with me to the computer when W/we cannot be in the same room together.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 6:27:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: tigress31047

I think if you did not do the task asigned whether online or in r/t then you do not respect you Master enough to be His Sub.

Now here is a much more interesting topic...

I think that some submissives are into this for the punishment, the control, the testing of limits and pushing of buttons. For them, the goal is the attention and discipline demanded of such behaviour. Disobedience is not done out of disrespect. It is, instead, part of the D/s dynamic.

They disobey in order to feel loved.

It is not a dynamic for me, nor, from the responses to this post, many on this board, but it does exist.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 6:29:10 AM

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Speaking strictly for myself here, my submission to my Master wasn't dependant on whether or not he was present. i did as he told me to do -- period -- unless unforseen circumstances prevented it. If that was the case, i told him as soon as humanly possible. The trust that develpes tween a Dom and sub/Master and slave has to be just that -- real trust -- no matter what their circumstances. For those who have been fortunate enough to be only r/t, i have to ask if there aren't tasks you do when you're apart (like he's at work, out of town, etc.) and you do them anyway, or do you disregard them because you think you can get away with it? It's really the same thing, imho, anyway.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 6:48:48 AM

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ROFL

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ORIGINAL: YngSlavErin4Mstr
what would my punishment be

Isn't online only BDSM punishment enough?

*smile*

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 2:19:19 PM

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TallDarkAndWitty posted:

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They disobey in order to feel loved.

I have experienced this sort of thing before. My question is "Why?". I mean, if ample attention in a positve way is being given, why would someone crave negative attention? In My case it wasn't done in order to get spanked because I freely give that... and love to do so.

I once was talking to a girl online who had emailed My profile. she kept asking, "What would you do if i cheated on you?"...then "What would you do if I disappeared for the weekend?".... "What would you do if I slapped you back?" and these sort of questions. I finally asked her if she planned to do things just to elicit a response from Me. she said yes she was, because she just liked to see what would happen. Still My question (although I felt to ask her would be a lost cause) is....Why?

As I have said countless times, I hate to punish. Dread it. Wish I never had to do it. I detest being disappointed... especially if through neglect or willful disobedience. Surely I am not the only Dom who craves and enjoys harmony in His house, in His life. Am I?

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 2:29:15 PM

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Surely I am not the only Dom who craves and enjoys harmony in His house, in His life. Am I?

You definitely aren't alone. I don't punish. If a submissive doesn't want to make me happy, then she's the wrong submissive for me. If a submissive thinks she can control me by disobeying, she's the wrong submissive for me.

Knowing this, and living it makes for a much more comfortable life.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 9/30/2005 2:30:36 PM

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The only punishment that works for our girls is not playing with them. Absence from the light and all. If we used spanking and whatever for punishment we would never have a moments peace. I don't understand the strictly online thing. We flirt and play with our subs online some nights, but that's just a warm up for later when they are here. I would wonder why you didn't do what you were told.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 10/1/2005 6:53:23 AM

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I would tell her I was extremely disappointed in her.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 10/1/2005 7:20:34 AM

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John Warren posted:

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You definitely aren't alone. I don't punish. If a submissive doesn't want to make me happy, then she's the wrong submissive for me. If a submissive thinks she can control me by disobeying, she's the wrong submissive for me.

Thank you, John. I like that outlook.

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RE: I have a question for a dom - 10/1/2005 4:33:38 PM

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SMILING a great answer aND MY VIEW ALSO...bounty

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