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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 9:57:55 AM

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to the OP and all of you who have the same level of communication with their kids:
if i can achieve the same with my UM's i will know i succeeded as a mom.

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 10:01:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: StormsSlave
Has anyone else had this experience? Did it make you feel weird at first, too? Did you just get over it, or did you actively make a decision about it? And last, is this WAY more information than anyone would have given their mothers?
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I raised two of my nephews and yes we had sex conversations almost daily. Once they felt comfortable enough to talk to me and Doug about it all, they never stopped talking...that is for about a year and a half.
You should feel honored..as they told me they could not talk to their father because he was uptight about sex as well. Kids know things. If it embarrasses you it will embarrass them.
Just stay away from your own sex life in the conversations. Keep it as clinical as possible and you should do ok.

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 10:03:41 AM

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miss satan is 25, and i already know FAR too much about her sex life. *laughs* she knows probably a bit too much about mine, too, as far as that goes! we dont have a traditional "mother/daughter" relationship, we never have. she's always been far older than her age. and i think that's cool.

her 14 yr old brother talks to me about anything he wants to...with the proviso that has ALWAYS been in place in our household, that "if you ask a question, you best be damned sure you want the answer to it!"

kitten, proud of her two imps

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 10:18:39 AM

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Has anyone else had this experience? Did it make you feel weird at first, too? Did you just get over it, or did you actively make a decision about it? And last, is this WAY more information than anyone would have given their mothers?

I talk to my mom about sex, but not when I was 18....

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 11:02:38 AM

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Kind of off topic, but I'm glad the Moms in this discussion are at least open to talking to their kids about sex. My parents always acted like it was taboo, and now, I'm the one telling my little brother about birth control and safe sex, now that he has his first girlfriend. >.> Thaaat was kind of awkward, but then again, he told me nothing could happen if you *did it right*. Eeep! O the dangers of Baptist Schools....

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 11:04:30 AM

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It's a major compliment that your daughter feels open and comfortable enough to be able to talk with you about such things, StormsSlave. My son is the same, so I understand the initial awkwardness of it all. You know, a mother's job is never done regardless of how old our kids get... Mine is going to be 24 this year and I cannot reconcile the little boy I raised with the man he's grown into. I KNOW he's an adult, he's making his own way in the world successfully and yet, he's my little boy, so when he starts discussing his girlfriends with me I have to fight to get over the 'first girlfriend' headspace! I told the little bugger that he was not to give up his virginity until he was at least 30 years of age! Imagine my shock when he told me some hussy with spring action legs had her wicked way with him at the tender age of eighteen - I cried for two days straight! I got over it, and he comes to me for advice, as yours does with you now b/c despite us all growing up thinking our mums are 'staid', we really do know best - we've had a lot of practise getting there!

Enjoy your relationship with your daughter, she's blossomed into a young woman and it's a very special relationship to have. You're now getting to know one another as adults.

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 11:10:00 AM

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My kids know they can talk to me about anything. It's always been that way. Whether or not they always do, doubtful, but they can.

I made a rule for myself a few years ago. No advice or opinions unless they are asked for. I raised them to be responsible adults now I have to let them be.

My mother was the opposite. We NEVER discussed sex when I was a kid, not ever. I learned more from her stupid romance novels and sex ed class in school. Unfortunately once I got pregnant and married she flipped on me and started asking my advice on her relationship issues. That continued for about 15 or so years, until I cut her from my life.

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RE: My Kid the Adult - 3/14/2008 6:20:55 PM

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Well, I deliberately laid the groundword for friendship when they were very young. The bottom line is that my parents LIKED to be with us. There were six of us, and we were the six people in the world they would most rather be with. It wasn't always perfect, but we usually had fun together. It was the same with my girls. We made a lot of mistakes together, but we got over them together, too. We've always made it a point to laugh and play together. As a matter of fact, we were just playing Wii. It was fun, but weird. My mother and I are still very close today.

I have actually shared your comments with her, which for the most part, we agree with. We are each other's best friends, and probably always will be. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. It's always good to know I'm in good company.

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