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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 2:05:26 PM   
colouredin


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ORIGINAL: SpareBoyfriend

Ah!  I forgot!  True Doms can read minds!



Actually true subs are well versed in telepathy too so there :P


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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 2:11:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

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ORIGINAL: SpareBoyfriend

Ah!  I forgot!  True Doms can read minds!



Actually true subs are well versed in telepathy too so there :P



I must say that a Dominant that takes her/himself too seriously doesn't inspire much else in me than mockery, and certainly no respect. Self-derision is a must. But that's just me :-) .

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 2:12:35 PM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		sorry, most people inspire mockery in me, i think its in my genes :P

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 2:13:37 PM   
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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 2:14:19 PM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		hehe, i wear that label with pride so there 

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 4:31:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is a weakness of mine and I'll admit it.  Of course there is a fine line to walk between being a Considerate Dom, understanding your subs needs and fuilfilling them and bottoming from the top.  I have to work on staying on the Dom side of the line.

(now going to read the rest of the thread to see if anyone offers any hints on how to do this)

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 5:40:31 PM   
kittinSol


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Status: offline 		See, that's another fucked up thing. If people think that a caring Dominant who listens to the submissive is sucking up to her or him... our world's even more screwed than I feared.

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 5:41:23 PM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		hey nowt wrong with sucking up to anything in my experiance. 

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/5/2008 7:18:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not believing in telepathy does not negate the very real possibility of taking in non-verbal information, particularly as regards someone you may know very well.

And, of course and again, just because you have the information doesn't mean you have to act on it in a particular way.

For those under my dominion, I am the final authority in all matters.

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/9/2008 10:52:37 PM   
Ebonybbw


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Poor male doms- damned if they do and damned if they don't.  Take it slow and easy, make sure at every step that the girl is with ya and in the moment and she dumps you.  Take it fast and hard and just do what she SAID she wanted, and you end up with cops at your door saying she was raped.

Sounds more like she wanted a service top- someone who would top her like she wanted to be topped, and now she gets to conveniently place all the wrongness on him for not being "aggressive enough."

Not all styles work with all people- but I could just as easily say she's a whiner do-me biatch slut.


Sounds to me like she was topping from the bottom....

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/9/2008 11:48:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TracyTaken

I find the Mr. Rogers thing kind of charming, especially if sang too.    I'd dress up school girl ... it could work.



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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 1:51:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		daddysprop, I disagree with the generalization about the "truly dominant nature."  I don't think such a generalization is valuable.  In addition, you referred to "most" not regarding people who switch roles in a good light.  This is counter to my experience.  I would say that for you personally, and for those people you socialize with, your submission expresses in you in a desire to never top, and the dominant's dominance manifests in him as a desire to never bottom. But I would not generalize further than that.

By contrast, the crowds I have run with, in several different parts of the US, seem to favor a "whatever floats people's boat in their relationship" mentality.  I personally see doms who are secure enough to bottom on occasion if they feel like it as *more* confident in their dominance, not less.  It also comes across to me as their being more willing to learn by experience.  Same holds for my opinion of subs/slaves who are willing to top.  It is freeing, and to me this lifestyle is about being free.

I realize this thread is more about tops or doms who don't seem confident, who ask many questions/much guidance of their bottoms and subs.  I would say there are ways to get the information needed and still exude that domly air of confidence.  One of the best ways to disarm me and make things delicious for me is for a dom to be decisive and sure most of the time, yet man/woman enough to admit if they were wrong and ask/respect my opinion on what would work better for me.  That builds trust, and for me fosters the desire to submit and to build that dom up whatever way I can with obedience and service. 
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"in the opinion of some (myself and my Master being among them), one who has a truly Dominant nature would have no desire to ever bottom, just as one who has a submissive nature would have no desire to ever top."

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 2:22:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

See, that's another fucked up thing. If people think that a caring Dominant who listens to the submissive is sucking up to her or him... our world's even more screwed than I feared.


lets call it interact, that fits most of the things :P

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 4:55:33 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Here are my thoughts on the whole thing for what they're worth.

I am going to guess that person to person, in real life, none of us really care who is what in other people's relationships. Bottoms up or tops down.

When I see judgements being made is when people bring their personal shit to public light, usually complaining about their SO and asking for advice.

Two specific threads come to mind. One where the master was whining about his sub/slave whining about him masterbating and the other felt the need to start a thread whining about the tone his thread took. Both people appeared to be perfect examples of BFTT and TFTB (much more fun than typing it all out) as most of us see it described on here.

The reality is, none of us really give a shit about their relationship dynamics. They just felt the need to toss all their crap out here for us to read, begging comment. Which of course they got along with a whole bunch of extra stuff thrown in for free. We still don't really care, we just cannot help but give our opinions....even if they don't matter.

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 5:13:02 AM   
colouredin


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

The reality is, none of us really give a shit about their relationship dynamics. They just felt the need to toss all their crap out here for us to read, begging comment. Which of course they got along with a whole bunch of extra stuff thrown in for free. We still don't really care, we just cannot help but give our opinions....even if they don't matter.


Yup I think this is very true, I know that even if i think a thread is a pile of crap i cant help putting my opinion down its like an addiction or something.


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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 5:18:56 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I guess that means the OP is topping us from the bottom.............le'sigh

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 5:19:51 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Well i am waiting for the term bottoming from the middle when i see that i will be able to die happy

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 5:35:24 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		"Ahhhhhh yeah, trixie I am just gonna kinda wing it from somewhere here in the middle."

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RE: Bottoming from the top. - 3/10/2008 8:05:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

Well i am waiting for the term bottoming from the middle when i see that i will be able to die happy

Oh, Sir! Thank You so much for bringing in this slave for me. Now, please tell me what I'm supposed to do with her.

ETA But then of course we open a whole can of alphabet soup with acronyms covering Middling From The Top (Bottom), etc. Could be dangerous.

< Message edited by SubbieOnWheels -- 3/10/2008 8:07:46 AM >

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