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My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:00:23 AM   
ItalianSMistress


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Status: offline 		I dont know why I wanted to write that here, but I felt the need.  I kicked her out last July, bc she just could not follow the house rules, and she ended up falling off the wagon, and using crack again.  She was an addict for many years.  Since I booted her out, we have been in court over the custody of our daughter (her birth child), whom was living here with Me and My son.  Things were looking good for Me in court, but worse and worse for her.  The police came here last night to tell Me that they found her body in a hotel room, an OD.  Then I had to tell My kids.  That was one of the hardest things I have ever done in My life. 
 
The most frustrating thing right now, is that when I am telling people, they ask stupid questions.
 
"Why did the cops come to you and not her family?"
 
"You have to plan her funeral?  Why would her mom or sister not do that?"
 
This is pissing Me off bc if it was My husband that died, no one would ask that.  But bc its My wife, they do?  What, did they think we were playing fkn house or something?  I know most of them dont mean anything by it, just mindless words from a mind programmed.
 
Anyway, I am off to find out how to collect her body and see about a funeral, and of course, take care of My kids.  I will be back in a few days,,,,,,,,,

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:08:34 AM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		I am very sorry for your loss.  My prayers are with you and your kids in this difficult time.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:11:46 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		So sorry to hear of the loss to you and your kids.  *hugs*

and ignore the stupid comments..



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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:22:10 AM   
LadyEllen


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

So sorry to hear of the loss to you and your kids.  *hugs*

and ignore the stupid comments..




what GT said

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:28:05 AM   
mhawk


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Status: offline 		i am truly sorry to hear about your loss,thoughts and prayers will be with you through your time of need

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:31:36 AM   
Rule


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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 5:58:42 AM   
MichiganHeadmast


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Status: offline 		Prayers for your loved one, and for strength to get through this hard time.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:02:26 AM   
tarnishdhaylo


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Status: offline 		My thoughts are prayers are with you and the children during this difficult time.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:06:06 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		-- tell  others she is your sister.   this is a time for white lies.   many cant understand the gay thing.

HUGS and from experience I understand the roller-coaster of hard drug use.   I spent some years with a bad azz who was.  His outcome was better tho- he is now a drug counsellor. It is still over tho.  He is too bent on "diagnosing" everyone he ever meets. lol

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:39:45 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		I am so sorry...

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:45:11 AM   
Lucylastic


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Status: offline 		Italian Mistress I am so so sorry for your loss,  my thoughts are with you and your children, take care
Lucy

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:45:17 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I don't want this to sound imbecilic.

I see you are still fairly (what I would call young).  I assume she was in your age bracket.  My comforting words are going to be this.  Be happy she is gone, the torture that was her life is now taken away, no more bad can happen to her.

As for you and yours, you have my deepest and heart-wrenching sympathy.

I hope you take this in the spirit in which it is given, even if said rather clumsily.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:50:19 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		No matter how much you were fighting in court, this is still a sad time. Love your kids, and don't hesitate to get them professional help if they start floundering. No matter how much we love them, sometimes we can't do it for them and need a professional.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 6:54:42 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		I'm very sorry for this tragedy in your life and your childrens'.
I hope that over time you will find peace knowing that she finally has it as well...
Hug your children close to you and love them well enough for both of you.
((((hugs)))))

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 7:06:08 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		The OP will run the gamet of mixed feelings.  hugs.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 7:40:51 AM   
domahpet


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Status: offline 		Her addiction has been dealt with, and we all pray she is in a better place. after all the hardship
she went thru, she is worthy of a break now...
peace to you and the kids.
theres no need to lie to anyone at this time, (saying she was you sister). she was your daughters birth mother,
plain and simple.
even more peace to you and the kids!
(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 8:14:58 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		funny thing about death-  we remember the person as we seen her.   lets say the lady is 25.  we have no image of her as 40.  55 or 62. we might  recall  4, 8, 15, 20, -but it freezes in time the aura of the person forever.

my dad passed away at 42.  i recall him liking the music stixx reo speed wagon,  wearing brown hus puppy shoes, getting contacts. haunting is his brother who resembles him.  at 62,  it was like i had seen a ghost.

One thing about the OP ex-gf death.  it is better that she did not pass away on a holiday.  if someone close passes on a holiday it reaks havok on the next years holiday.   Iknew a guy the ODed,, easter sunday. his father just died on new years day.

i recall marge  marge being  mad-- ranting-as stanley died on a day that had he waited a few days- she had to send back his social securitycheck. LMAO!

when my dad passes i was  800 miles away. i sat up in the hotel room at 3:15  am. no reason.  my buddy said what is worng. i did not know.  well  at the  time i got up...dad passed that few  moments

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 8:48:13 AM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		so sorry for your family's loss, especially when there was so much turmoil that preceeded it.  try to remember the good times and help your daughter remember the times when her mom wasn't under the influence and how much she loved her.  hopefully with time the good memories will outshine the bad.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 10:34:30 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. No death is an easy one, even if expected. May you find peace and understanding, your children healing and love.

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RE: My ex just died - 3/4/2008 8:47:54 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		The Um's will be your strength and your focus...just do not forget about yourself..allow your grief to express itself in whatever manner comes about..there is no right and wrong when it comes to grief....my thoughts are with you..Tempting

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