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RCdc -> Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:13:38 PM)
If I posted this in the wrong section of the board, then please move appropriately, but seeing as this is part off topic and part BDSM related I posted here. And yeah, I am ranting. What is it with people who visit this message board frequently and who still either refuse to adhere to, or don't know the TOS? Is it because " you might be submissive, but you only submit to insertlabelhere " or is it because you are dominant and you feel above the TOS? I have lost count of those posts I have seen made this year alone that break TOS. Why do you insist on answering the question, even when it breaks the TOS? Why do you think and believe that altering a word or blanking it out makes one damn bit of difference on keeping the subject 'within TOS'? New posters, you can kind of understand - the rules aren't obvious to find when you are exploring the board and eager to post and start contributing. But the seasoned posters? Seriously - I like being on CM. I enjoy reading the threads. Why do you risk getting a site you participate on regularly getting into trouble because you can't follow a few simple terms? Are the TOS really that hard to understand or do you not believe they are clear enough. What will it take for people to comply? the.dark. (edit to add coz asked - TOS = Terms of Service. The rules of the board set out by the moderators.)

colouredin -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:23:02 PM)
Im going to sound stupid, but if you dont ask you dont know, what does TOS mean?

KatyLied -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:24:51 PM)
terms of service (TOS) are embedded in this thread or perhaps not, I get an error when I click the embedded link

ownedgirlie -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:26:09 PM)
My guess would be some don't know, some don't care, some make mistakes and some like to push boundaries.

mnottertail -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:26:14 PM)
Terms Of Service Which you've already agreed to when you clicked on the button that says I Accept (or Agree) whatever......without reading, in your lust to find kinky sex as we all do. go to the bottom of this page, and you will see the link in gold and you can review what you agreed to at your leisure Ron

ownedgirlie -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:27:17 PM)
Katy, the other side doesn't seem to be working right now. I'm sure the link will work later.

colouredin -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:27:30 PM)
Sorry its just there are so many abriviations and whatnots that i get confused I assumed it was something like that I just wanted to know what it stood for, thanks both :D

RCdc -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:28:23 PM)
It works for me Katy. the.dark.

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:30:30 PM)
Some examples of these violations would be nice. In link formagé[8\|]

mnottertail -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:31:20 PM)
I'm betting a server or two went casters up so YMMV. EPA

RCdc -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:33:12 PM)
Do you mean you want the rules - or examples of breaking the rules? Katy gave a link and that works for me, but you only have to view the forum guidelines either at the top of the set forum, or the admin announcements to find the terms themselves. the.dark.

colouredin -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:34:06 PM)
Having read them, and re-read the.dark.'s initial post i would guess my response is that people dont give a crap. I have noticed today especially some rows between members in regards to their lifestyle choices that have gone on to other threads and have manifested in what to me seemed like personal attacks, and that according to what I just read is against the rules. People simply dont care these boards arent overly moderated as some are and so they figure that if they change words or are subtle then moderators scanning wont find it so whats the harm I guess. People will always try to get away with as much as they can.

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:34:15 PM)
Some examples of violations you speak of.

colouredin -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:36:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3 Some examples of violations you speak of. That would just be perpetuating the problem would it not?

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:40:16 PM)
You could argue that horse bolted with the creation of this very thread. Cause and effect bla bla etc. I don't perceive such a problem. I've not been made aware of such a problem and besides that's what moderators are for, it's nobody else’s job is it?

RCdc -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:42:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3 Some examples of violations you speak of. Well, it is difficult to show violations, because they do get reported and pulled by mods eventually when they are around. I can see at least 4 but an example, there is a thread on spanking going on right now - two in fact - on on this forum one next door. But can people stick to just observing themselves and their history - Nope. Now if I go into what they have not followed on TOS, I risk making this thread fall outside TOS. I just don;t get why people basically click a 'yes I will follow these terms' and then expect people to respect their ideas, thoughts and even dominance or submission, when they can't even follow a few basics. the.dark.

RCdc -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:45:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3 I don't perceive such a problem. I've not been made aware of such a problem and besides that's what moderators are for, it's nobody else’s job is it? It's no one elses job, but it's our responsibility when we sign up that we agree to the terms. So my question is - are the terms so unclear and do they need updating or why do people tick the yes box, not knowing the terms? These are people I see regularly saying that communication rocks and that you shouldnt agree to getting into something your not willing to follow through on, and yet... [8\|] the.dark.

SL4V3M4YB3 -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:47:27 PM)
Unless you state what terms have been broken it's hard for anyone to comment on why they think people break such terms.[8\|]

RCdc -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:50:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie My guess would be some don't know, some don't care, some make mistakes and some like to push boundaries. Everyone makes mistakes, that's a given, Lord knows I do. So, some people don't know, don't care, or are pushing boundries without 'consent' ([:D] I now you are gonna dig that OG[;)]) - then can and should other people reading their words, put any faith in their advice? the.dark.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Following BDSM Site Guidelines. (3/1/2008 4:52:06 PM)
It is easier to give advice than to follow it. People who have had to struggle with how hard it is to actually do the right thing in situations tend to give better advice, because they know how frikkin tough it is. So my, um, advice[;)] to you, dark, is: relax. This is not your problem -- unless you are one of the people you are talking about.

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