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ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 4:28:52 PM   
mrscolden


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Status: offline 		i thought it was a hard limit for me but my dominant husband eased me into it.
we started with a play party with the understanding only he would touch me. it wasnt easy for me to be naked and used in front of others but he was SO pleased, how could i not be happy?
he then found a very nice couple for us to meet in a vanilla setting several times before a date was set for us to be more intimate. we began with parellel play and things naturally progressed to our hands on each other. no, there hasnt been any "intercourse" yet but it may be in our future. i have gotten over my physical distress to the idea and am beginning to enjoy our new friends and activities. my dominate husband has been very patient & reassuring of his love and devotion to me. my insecurities and jealousy issues are diminishing.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 4:37:27 PM   
Lumus


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Status: offline 		o/` If it makes you happy...it can't be that baaaaaad... o/`



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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 6:41:17 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		In this lifestyle, I have found most of the things initially feared really do turn out to be not so bad after all. And that's part of why I'm here
But good on you for being open minded enough to try and to revise your opinion accordingly.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 6:55:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since you are happy, and thats what works for you both, then I hope it works out well.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 7:40:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Glad to see another new experience. Hope you get into the habit of having lot's of 'em.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 7:40:44 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		My wife and I have tried this twice now the first time was a disaster the second time was just what I was looking for all along. My wife is always just afraid that I am not going to want her anymore after I have played with someone else the things she is not getting is that the reason I enjoy it at all is because she is there too.

Anyone know of a good way to get this point across?

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 7:44:47 PM   
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I belong to a hedonist group that combines all lifestyle choices...bdsm and swinging, along with other alternative activities...it is definitley not for everyone, but for those of us that are members, thankfully all are open minded enough to accept each other's proclivities


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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 7:51:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

My wife and I have tried this twice now the first time was a disaster the second time was just what I was looking for all along. My wife is always just afraid that I am not going to want her anymore after I have played with someone else the things she is not getting is that the reason I enjoy it at all is because she is there too.

Anyone know of a good way to get this point across?

As Always

Steel

Wish I could help...but I'm in the same camp as your wife....NO WAY, NO SHARE. It took me a LONG ass time to find my Master...He is MINE.


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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 7:55:59 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: mrscolden

i thought it was a hard limit for me but my dominant husband eased me into it.
we started with a play party with the understanding only he would touch me. it wasnt easy for me to be naked and used in front of others but he was SO pleased, how could i not be happy?
he then found a very nice couple for us to meet in a vanilla setting several times before a date was set for us to be more intimate. we began with parellel play and things naturally progressed to our hands on each other. no, there hasnt been any "intercourse" yet but it may be in our future. i have gotten over my physical distress to the idea and am beginning to enjoy our new friends and activities. my dominate husband has been very patient & reassuring of his love and devotion to me. my insecurities and jealousy issues are diminishing.
Well, then it must not of been such a hard limit after all for you.And I am glad that you had a positive experience..however..make sure that you are doing so because you want this experience and not to simply keep harmony within the home...for once consent has been given, going back is usually an impossibility..I know we all desire to please our mates..but if we have an inner turmoil that we bury , all in the name of pleasing him..eventually....that turmoil will shine through...Tempting

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 8:11:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: mrscolden

i thought it was a hard limit for me but my dominant husband eased me into it.
we started with a play party with the understanding only he would touch me. it wasnt easy for me to be naked and used in front of others but he was SO pleased, how could i not be happy?
he then found a very nice couple for us to meet in a vanilla setting several times before a date was set for us to be more intimate. we began with parellel play and things naturally progressed to our hands on each other. no, there hasnt been any "intercourse" yet but it may be in our future. i have gotten over my physical distress to the idea and am beginning to enjoy our new friends and activities. my dominate husband has been very patient & reassuring of his love and devotion to me. my insecurities and jealousy issues are diminishing.
Well, then it must not of been such a hard limit after all for you.And I am glad that you had a positive experience..however..make sure that you are doing so because you want this experience and not to simply keep harmony within the home...for once consent has been given, going back is usually an impossibility..I know we all desire to please our mates..but if we have an inner turmoil that we bury , all in the name of pleasing him..eventually....that turmoil will shine through...Tempting

God...you are a DAMN smart woman...


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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 8:24:59 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		awwww!..thank you.:0)..~blushing~.Tempting

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 9:13:09 PM   
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  breatheasone

God...you are a DAMN smart woman...

Said of   TemptingNviceSub


I have been saying that for some time.
Thank you breatheasone for affirming my opinion.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/25/2008 10:50:43 PM   
Rayne58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

My wife and I have tried this twice now the first time was a disaster the second time was just what I was looking for all along. My wife is always just afraid that I am not going to want her anymore after I have played with someone else the things she is not getting is that the reason I enjoy it at all is because she is there too.

Anyone know of a good way to get this point across?

As Always

Steel


Sit her down, take her hands, look her in the eye, and tell her! 

My Dom/Husband and I have played with a couple of ladies now, one of them more than once.  It is a fun thing for us both, and I have had my share of little jealousies and insecurities, but we have sat down and talked them out together.  I know that if I ever start to feel uncomfortable with this that it will stop immediately - He told me so

She needs to feel absolutely secure in your relationship before anything happens with other people.  If she knows that you love and care for her, and that you enjoy having her there and you both play with the other person together, hopefully that will set her mind at rest. 

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/26/2008 5:41:35 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		I am just curious what happens if your Master will start to touch the other girl..and enjoy her. I hope it will still be enjoyable. Because it can't be turned back once it happened.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/26/2008 6:39:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just never forget that your Sir loves you.  When you feel a little jealous, just remember that.  It helps a lot.  

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/26/2008 6:57:24 AM   
mrscolden


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Status: offline 		thank you ThunderRoad, i do just as you suggested.
and JustMe, he did touch and enjoy, so did i.
i am not promoting any activitity. i believe my dom/husband set up the perfect situation for me to push through a limit.

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RE: ok, playing with others wasnt so bad - 2/26/2008 7:41:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

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ORIGINAL: mrscolden

i thought it was a hard limit for me but my dominant husband eased me into it.
we started with a play party with the understanding only he would touch me. it wasnt easy for me to be naked and used in front of others but he was SO pleased, how could i not be happy?
he then found a very nice couple for us to meet in a vanilla setting several times before a date was set for us to be more intimate. we began with parellel play and things naturally progressed to our hands on each other. no, there hasnt been any "intercourse" yet but it may be in our future. i have gotten over my physical distress to the idea and am beginning to enjoy our new friends and activities. my dominate husband has been very patient & reassuring of his love and devotion to me. my insecurities and jealousy issues are diminishing.
Well, then it must not of been such a hard limit after all for you.And I am glad that you had a positive experience..however..make sure that you are doing so because you want this experience and not to simply keep harmony within the home...for once consent has been given, going back is usually an impossibility..I know we all desire to please our mates..but if we have an inner turmoil that we bury , all in the name of pleasing him..eventually....that turmoil will shine through...Tempting


Let me note what others have noted...such a smart woman you are. 

Turmoil within must be dealt with, whether big or small.  Dealing with it when it is small and yet irritating works so much better than when it is allowed to fester and build and become overwhelming.  As long as you want this and are O.K. with it, then you can talk about everything that is going on and it is hunky-dory.  But you have to make sure to communicate with him as you go further into this and you come across something that is a bit more perturbing than anything else that has occurred so far.  Don't sit back and try to shake it off...there is a reason it bothered you in the first place.  Now after talking, it may turn out to be something that was not what it seemed and then, it's gone.  But it may be something that is resolved by a decision to handle things differently...more pleasing and easing to you and better for the dynamic...the next time.

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