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ThunderRoad -> RE: Salve contracts (2/25/2008 7:10:20 AM)
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Looking at contracts others have done is all well and fine. However, any contract you are part of should really be customized for what is important for your relationship. Cut-and-pasting from someone else's takes a lot of the meaning out of it.
Writing a contract isn't very hard. Start with the basics. Dom/me and slave both make a simple list of things that they need in the relationship. It can be simple or detailed and there's no need for fancy wording at this point. Just a simple bullet-pointed checklist.
Next, generically categorize those needs. Maybe you separate out what you need to be able to do vs what you need the other person to do for you. Make the categories as simple or as complex as you like, but no category should have less than two or three entries.
Next, outline what you need the contract to say. The simplest ones are the best. Party A agrees to do this. Party B agrees to do that. If either party doesn't, then C result will occur. Sign it and live it.
That's the easiest contract.
Our personal M/s contract ran almost 11 pages. We ENJOY that anal-retentive level of minutia. For example, we put in provisions for temporary suspension (family is visiting!) and outright termination, how to change the contract if it's needed, how and when we can play with others, etc. However, ALL of those provisions started at that basic bullet-point list of what we needed to be happy (ie, need = ability to not be TPE when family around, for example).
Looking at others' contracts online is ok, but if you're looking for ideas, then I would advance you may not be sure where YOU are at in terms of understanding your own needs.
(my apologies, I did not mean to lecture)
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