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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 6:18:34 AM   
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts and kind words.

I dont doubt what everyone's saying about surgery and anaesthesia effects so much - but really, all I had was a couple of cuts each two inches long and a couple of hours out, so I really have a hard time thinking thats going to be it, but I suppose one never knows. Certainly being away from home on my own was stressful in that it was boring!

I tend to go with the idea that everything for months had been built up to mid January, and on my return I've got this mindset that I dont need to do anything - things are completed - except I do; lots of things to do, some with time deadlines.

What I need I think is inspiration

E

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 6:21:20 AM   
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Off to the pub with you, then.  It may shame you into working yourself out of the hole.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 6:29:29 AM   
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But I dont drink Ron, (apart from the odd Friday night on here where I end up having to apologise Saturday morning) and I'm not allowed to smoke in the pub either - seems a waste of time and money; and there's no internet link in the pub either and I'd miss you........

E

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 6:38:36 AM   
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well, the idea is motivation, have at it for a solid week, puke on the street that you and your neigbors live on.....it should put you under sufficient pressure to change something.......... 

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 6:47:37 AM   
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Joke or not Ron, this is whats going on all the time already by those around me; the rejected and rejecting down and outs of cool Britannia.

All I can say is thank goodness there are so many Muslims round here as if our neighbourhood was solely made up of the drinking, puking, pissing and fast food wrapper dropping rejected people of society, there wouldnt be space to navigate one's way down the street.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 6:56:06 AM   
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Run, fatboy, run - that wasn't a personal comment, by the way (says she sucking in her gut). Watch it, wade through the sap as there are a few gem moments and then switch supporting football teams - Arsenal.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 7:07:58 AM   
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I like the idea of switching football teams - I suppose it makes life more interesting when there's a match and one doesnt know beforehand that one's team will win? Except it'll never happen........!

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 7:43:59 AM   
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I'm sure that's what Liverpool supporters were saying prior to their team's match against Barnsley.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 8:32:24 AM   
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Lady E, whom I adore...

Forgive me, I'm going to throw out Gibran again. I'm not a morning person, hell, not even an early afternoon person--I get my first wind around 3 p.m. This doesn't make for motivated nor even harmonious daily beginnings, and therefore, I read this often; maybe it will give meaning, maybe not!:



On Work
Then a ploughman said, "Speak to us of Work."
And he answered, saying:
You work that you may keep pace with the earth and the soul of the earth.
For to be idle is to become a stranger unto the seasons, and to step out of life's procession, that marches in majesty and proud submission towards the infinite.
When you work you are a flute through whose heart the whispering of the hours turns to music.
Which of you would be a reed, dumb and silent, when all else sings together in unison?
Always you have been told that work is a curse and labour a misfortune.

But I say to you that when you work you fulfil a part of earth's furthest dream, assigned to you when that dream was born,
And in keeping yourself with labour you are in truth loving life,
And to love life through labour is to be intimate with life's inmost secret.
But if you in your pain call birth an affliction and the support of the flesh a curse written upon your brow, then I answer that naught but the sweat of your brow shall wash away that which is written.
You have been told also life is darkness, and in your weariness you echo what was said by the weary.
And I say that life is indeed darkness save when there is urge,
And all urge is blind save when there is knowledge,
And all knowledge is vain save when there is work,
And all work is empty save when there is love;
And when you work with love you bind yourself to yourself, and to one another, and to God.
And what is it to work with love?
It is to weave the cloth with threads drawn from your heart, even as if your beloved were to wear that cloth.
It is to build a house with affection, even as if your beloved were to dwell in that house.
It is to sow seeds with tenderness and reap the harvest with joy, even as if your beloved were to eat the fruit.
It is to charge all things you fashion with a breath of your own spirit,
And to know that all the blessed dead are standing about you and watching.
Often have I heard you say, as if speaking in sleep, "he who works in marble, and finds the shape of his own soul in the stone, is a nobler than he who ploughs the soil.
And he who seizes the rainbow to lay it on a cloth in the likeness of man, is more than he who makes the sandals for our feet."
But I say, not in sleep but in the over-wakefulness of noontide, that the wind speaks not more sweetly to the giant oaks than to the least of all the blades of grass;
And he alone is great who turns the voice of the wind into a song made sweeter by his own loving.
Work is love made visible.
And if you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of those who work with joy.
For if you bake bread with indifference, you bake a bitter bread that feeds but half man's hunger.
And if you grudge the crushing of the grapes, your grudge distils a poison in the wine.
And if you sing though as angels, and love not the singing, you muffle man's ears to the voices of the day and the voices of the night.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 9:42:50 AM   
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Just to report in - I actually did some work today - not a lot, but some - and I'm now going to go shopping (which I should have done Saturday) then some housework and then into the evening try to get my company tax return done, some advertising booked, my car mileage for 07 worked out and maybe some more.....

E

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 11:56:49 AM   
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Just a thought, but could it be something as simple as the weather. Its been coldish by UK standards and just pottering about is not an option.
Basically I think Loveisall put his finger on it. Most tho' not all seem to need some one else to  interact with.

I am the worlds biggest Lone Ranger but sometimes I think.what if I lived with someone?
After a few moments though the feeling soon goes away.
If you lived with someone for 20 years then maybe for some reason you wont admit to yourself the real problem.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 1:18:16 PM   
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Not sure if youre angling for something here Seeks........ but anyway

I'll be quite honest, the first year alone was hell and part of that hell was loneliness and missing what had become normal for me - a loving partner.

The next three/four years was difficult - I yearned throughout that time for someone - anyone, almost. But the last year or so, I've come more and more to the point where I'm comfortable on my own. It would be nice to have someone to share with and care for and so on, but its not something that preys on my mind at all. Between work, friends and family I have enough company and I'm quite happy when I shut my door and its just me and my kitties with no one else to think about.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 1:31:28 PM   
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Well you do sound as tho' you have a full life Lots of travel apparently, so there you go.
If you can really live with yourself then I think from now on you have got it made. 

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 1:39:38 PM   
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Perhaps - but then I think thats at least some of the problem!

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 1:46:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

I suppose it makes life more interesting when there's a match and one doesnt know beforehand that one's team will win? Except it'll never happen........!


Er... we did the double on you last season and have already beat you once this season.

You're not singing anymore.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 1:54:31 PM   
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And yet we will win the Premiership, again.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 2:11:59 PM   
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To me it sounds as if you are just in need of some serious down-time. And I do not think that it is something that should get medicated away either.
We are humans and not automatons, we are simply not always motivated, up to our best.
If there are no serious repercussions to come, maybe just go ahead and slouch for a while.

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RE: getting motivated.... - 2/18/2008 2:29:19 PM   
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Lady E, first off I'm sorry that you're feeling this way. I do understand, and I'm sending good thoughts your way.

I read your original post, and the subsequent postings... (no, I didn't read all the other's postings just some). I'm unclear of what type of surgery you had... but from what i gathered, it was something you had been focused on as a goal and managed your life accordingly.. i.e. working double time and taking care of business prior to your trip for the surgery.

I'm not sure of the correct term, but could this be a case of "let down"? You know, you were focused on this goal for a period of time and now that it's happened .... well, NOW WHAT??? Does that make sense?

I have found myself in similar situations where I have something I'm working towards (a goal) and once I achieve it, I'm kinda lost.

I've been a full time student for two years and basically had to call my own shots when it came to structure, time management and the like... it's been really hard, and I haven't always been good at it. Come time for a break I find myself wandering aimlessly because I don't have anything to do... or at least nothing I want to do, or that motivates me. Come time for school to start again I'm much better because I have to be on some kind of schedule.

I am so ready to be done with school and to join the grown-ups and find a job. Ha! I do believe I may find myself in a similar predicament.... My whole life, for the last two years has been about getting this damn degree and applying my education toward a meaningful career. Soooooo.... then what? I find a job and my life becomes happy go lucky? Nope, I know that not to be the case. I'm finding that no one thing, or one person can make us complete and happy. It's the whole package that does it... and finding bloody balance! Shit.... finding balance in ones life is NOT easy to do.

So, I'm rambling here Lady E.... but I suppose what I'm trying to say is that I understand what you're going through, and I too struggle with motivation. How about looking at somethings that bring you pleasure? Maybe flowers, a good movie, crafting (as in stamping, or some kind of art), a good book, taking walks.... whatever really gives you a smile in your heart..... then start doing those things. It's not easy to do, we get stuck in these ruts and life becomes blah...... it's when YOU are ready to make a change that change will happen.

girly (sorry for the long winded post)

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