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RE: Professional career Dom's/Dommes - 2/6/2008 2:44:31 PM

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The reason is because I want to be a traveling horse vet (make sit much easier for clients) so that would mean driving around all day to different houses, stables and barns. I had an internship over the summer with a horse vet who had an ambulatory practice and I realized that's what I want to do. Plus, when you're a horse Vet, you tend to have a LOT of regular clients that you see almost every day. But yea, I can draw blood, I've assisted in surgery, and assisted in euthanasia. It's hard but you learn to either deal with it or pick another profession. I've had this dream since about 2nd grade... so it's pretty important to me. Then again the "norm" for horse people around here (KY) are very uptight, conservative country folk.

As a lifelong horseman, a lot of horse people are pretty conservative. I would imagine that you want to go after the breeders and training stables around Kentucky (I sure would if I was you). I work in computers. While I'm now in a hospital (slightly removed from the rat race - my choice), I spent 20 years working with Fortune 50 companies. I keep my D/s life private. I don't deny or hide under a basket, but I don't go to munches or public events. It would not work. While there is a lot going on among professionals of all types, they mostly keep their private life, PRIVATE. As for balancing time, I lost two wives because I couldn't find that right balance. Good luck to you.

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RE: Professional career Dom's/Dommes - 2/6/2008 2:53:48 PM

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Thanks for the luck, I'm going to try. Right now, I have subs who can only speak to me online from midnight to 8am because that's the only time I can be online for any consecutive number of hours. This is when I work, but my job entails being a security guard for a college dorm, so there's a lot of sitting around and screwing around on the computer (literall and figuratively lol) My bed time is actually in 10 minutes (5pm!) because of this work schedule.

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/6/2008 5:14:09 PM

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. so it's pretty imprtant to me. Then again the "norm" for horse people around here (KY) are very uptight, conservative country folk.

You might be surprised!
You know any ponygirl trainers?

*lol*

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/7/2008 6:00:54 PM

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I'm a lawyer, and my law office has been the scene of many a scene. Folks will sit around my conference table not realizing that a naughty girl was bending over it just the previous evening for a hard paddling.

Of course, I imagine that many desks and conference tables in many offices have been the situs of coitus, kinky and non-kinky.

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/7/2008 7:25:17 PM

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My field is education and I have had a number of high profile jobs. I've gone to munches and hosted parties, but only with groups who vet newcomers through the munches and never give out the address of the parties on the web. Many of the others involved have professions, and all need to be a bit discreet. I've only ever had one person turn up whom I knew through a colleague (we'd met at the colleague's wedding) ... and it really wasn't an issue since well, she was as out as Me just by being there! We had a good laugh about it and realised conversation at the wedding dinner table could have been much more interesting had we known! So I think with care, it is eminently possible to combine a high profile career and this lifestyle. Generally speaking, most people don't blab all about their sex lives to their colleagues, it's not their business and it's not appropriate. "Friend" covers a multitude of relationships too, if you've blurted out a name as someone you spent time with on the weekend that's not your regular partner!

As far as being on call etc ... well, if anything a D/s partner should be more understanding than a vanilla one might be, as there might be clearer expectations of how they should hold the fort during the absence than seems to occur in some vanilla relationships that I have observed. Yes, that's a generalisation and I acknowledge that, so don't light the flamethrowers yet LOL! Basically, any of these professionals have this problem, and that needs to be made really clear to prospective partners, vanilla or otherwise. Tough, but that's how it is!

Good luck with your career, I'm not sure I'd want to spend My days and nights putting My hands up the rear ends of horses but ... I admire those who do LOL!

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/7/2008 7:33:35 PM

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Lots of professionals are into SM and role play fantasy but not everybody flaunts it. Wouldn't someone working in education have to be really discreet? Think about it. What would the PTA think?

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/7/2008 7:55:11 PM

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Time's been a big issue for me in the past. I found an answer in having someone in the same field. You know, like in your case, another vet.. perferably one you could work with. Or, at least, a sub you can have act as a nurse or other support for your business, such as perhaps an accountant or whatever other service a vet might use. The more inline their work with your own, the better. Working together is a grand silver medal when playing and relaxing together isn't an option.

What do you think? You may already have a good idea.

PS- You can also force an overlap. Such as my slave is studying Engineering like me, but she's not taking the Math major. So I sometimes teach her Math. Heh.. poor thing. I often consider how obidient she is to sit through that stuff and actually try so hard for no academic credit. :P

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/7/2008 11:41:29 PM

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Time's been a big issue for me in the past. I found an answer in having someone in the same field. You know, like in your case, another vet.. perferably one you could work with. Or, at least, a sub you can have act as a nurse or other support for your business, such as perhaps an accountant or whatever other service a vet might use. The more inline their work with your own, the better. Working together is a grand silver medal when playing and relaxing together isn't an option.

Yes, I have thought about looking for a sub who could double as an assisstant, secretary, lab technician or accountant. You're right that it would makes things a whole lot easier, and would help the sub to udnerstand my situation better.

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/8/2008 1:16:16 AM

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Faeorie, slightly off subject, but I own 130 acres in Aiken, SC in horse country although I live in Georgia. The New Bridge Polo Gold Cup Club is 5 miles away. So I can understand your enthusiasm. Are you familiar with Aiken?

Now to the subject. My career depends on many subtle things and I don't negate the effects of moralistic, church going people looking down on what I do and letting it cloud their judgement as far as my value.

There is another side, too. I have many friends in my field and most of them wouldn't get BDSM. I would not want to disappoint them without being able to explain how it all works. They may simply view it as perversion and with that skewed outlook be hurt by their admiration for me.

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RE: Professional career Doms/Dommes - 2/8/2008 2:05:32 AM

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I'm not familiar with Aiken. Have you been to the polo cup? It's a very interesting sport. I used to not care much about what people thought of me, but the more I go to school and take classes on being a Vet, the more I begin to realize that as a Vet, it's important to care what your clients think about you. They could just dump me and seek out another vet merely on the basis that they question my character. Hell, it's hard enough telling horse owners if they are doing something wrong, because most horse people like to think they know it all (not all of them mind you.)

By the way, for those who may be wondering, I took down my picture because I had a fellow member message me who had experience dealing with the Kentucky Veterinary Board. And he said it would be better to take my picture down so that it doesn't end up biting me in the ass later down the line, because one of the qualifications of being certified is to have "High Moral Character," and because it's Kentucky, having a profile on here with my picture (a very tame one at that with me, my fiance and my puppy!) would lead them to use it as an excuse for not having "High Moral Character." Ugh. Why can't I just be really good at what I do huh?

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