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LadyLolly -> RE: thougts on age (2/5/2008 11:53:03 AM)
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The net has certainly changed things. Unless you were perving to the porn available (something "nice" people" didn't get exposed to) it took time for most people to come to conclusions about themself needing things outside the societal chute of "normal". Most generally, this realization and conclusion of self discovery didn't happen until we hit our 40's. With the net & TV and "pervy" being fashionable - teens have a pretty good idea of wazzup and options we never even knew about until we were much older.
With that said, myself, I came to terms with being different as a pre-teen. First BDSM was at 18 with a couple - wasn't I the adventerous one. First no-strings houseboy at 19. First slave at 21. He was 20 years older, approached me in a night club - dropped to his knees and begged to serve. He'd crawl to me with his paycheck in his mouth and if he was a very very good boy he'd get to rinse out my pantyhose, lick and rub my feet. And so it went, it's just the way I was, what I attracted , what I enjoyed.
Some years later moved to Atlanta which has/had a very large and active community. The missing pieces fell into place, comprehension and understanding was profound, facilitated by others willing to teach, share and guide. The internet has also played a part. As a source for information certainly but mostly to make contact with others.
For the young (IMHO) it's hard because the information is readily available so much earlier while the basic maturity, self knowledge and life experience hasn't had time to ripen them. The term kid in a candy shop comes to mind. There is an old adage, teens think they have all the answers. Middle age we realize we don't even begin to understand the questions. When senior and we've learned the answers - they've gone and changed all the questions.......... With all that said , there are exceptions to every "rule". The age we live in does make more demands on the younger crowd. Some are mature beyond thier years with life experience, comprehension and self awareness.
The gap between those that came up the hard way and those that made the knowledge available to those much younger is a big one. Part of it is very likely a (misplaced?) well meaning attempt to protect those much younger than themselves. Many have children the age of the younger generation - p/maternal mindset kicks in. They think about the mistakes they've learned the hard way and often are overly protective. Youth is almost always disounted (and protected) by those more advanced in years because we look back at the stupid bs we did when we thought we were all that and ready to tear it up - the same place, the same way the youngers feel now. If youngers want peer acceptence by olders, gotta pay thier dues and prove themselves to be an exception to overcome the preconceptions learned by and of experience. We earned what we have become the hard way. Youth seems to expect things to be handed to them just because they want - and right now. Rarely works that way in RL.
Olders had it hard because we were alone, without resources.
Youngers have it hard because they have the knowledge but are discounted because of thier youth and lack of life experience.
We all have it hard - very little worth having comes easy.
Paitence is a learned attribute.
Spoken as the Olde fart that I am. ;>
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