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DelilahDeb -> RE: Energy Play? (1/29/2008 12:51:54 PM)
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You ask a good question, Shawna!
I'll have to try that tonight on my boy. The topic of energy exchange or sharing has come up repeatedly with a few of the more experienced players I'm fortunate enough to partner with. The difficulty of talking or writing about energy of those sorts (subtle, psychic, sexual, magical, pranic, mana, auric...choose a word and it will have its own vocabulary) is that "you had to be there." (As my Wiccan practice tries to describe similar concepts on occasion, it's about experiencing it, not cogitating it.)
OK, I'm going to give a few examples--and discuss them--from my own experiences of such subtleties.
* Scene: I'm working over a bottom with a variety of sensations--flogging, stroking, scratching, ear-chewing, tapping, pressure points, breathing hot, tickling, blowing cold, slapping, etc. He's well and truly sensitized, and his eyes are closed or he's blindfolded or I'm behind him. And all of his skin is really, thoroughly paying attention--the vision function is out of the way and I'm moving quietly about to avoid telegraphing my next action. And then I'll suddenly take the scruff of his neck (C3 and the meat atop it) into my mouth with lips and teeth and bite/suck for a vivid moment...and a shudder runs through his entire body as he suddenly goes erect and his knees buckle. If it's erotic enough to me, I'm likely to add some breast-to-skin stroking as a mutual reward.
That's one sort of energy play. I set it up, I knock it over, and I am rewarded by his own burst of shared energy: physical, sexual, and accepting.
* Witchy: An artisan friend once made me a knife--I did as much as possible of the work, but I had neither the skill nor the knowledge to do more than act, essentially, as blacksmith's apprentice for the one project. And whenever I couldn't do the actual work, there were assistant (flunky) tasks that I could do to aid the work so that I at least was present throughout the process. My friend claimed, during the early stages of design, to be a "psychic brick"...but when I was cranking the forge blower and the hammer in hir hand was flowing the red-hot metal on the anvil into the rough shape of my sketch, s/he spoke of feeling the way the metal wants to go and working with it instead of against it...and I challenged the smith with loving mockery: "And you call yourself a psychic brick!"
Energy--another sort of energy, the energy of supposedly inanimate objects interacting with our human purposes to create something. And that's another sort of energy. Some folks label that creativity, or inspiration (from one's indrawn breath when the light bulb goes on?), or the muse.
* Massage: Not sexual, not sensual, just looking to help someone feel better physically. I'll ask questions about how they feel, whether they have preferences in massage style (I first got into topping with folks who needed deeper massage work than I was comfortable getting myself), etc. And as my fingers and hands smooth and learn and soften the skin and surface layers of flesh, it seems to me (and I'll often close my eyes at times to avoid visual distraction) that it's as if my own nerves extend into my client's tissues, identifying small as well as large knots, and tracing out the links from those guarding but merely tense muscles along the painful threads to the connective tissue or cartilege or ? that's the source of that troubled bit, and guiding me to where and how releases are needed...and when a release occurs, the whole mass of tensed flesh changes texture (for want of a better word).
Yet another sort of energy...but. The commonalities are there.
I don't know whether I'm making any more sense to you, Shawna, than your own question asks. I hope I've at least given you something to think on.
Delilah Deb
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