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PrizedPosession -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:35:16 PM)
i think that love is a lot of things and sometimes when one loses one aspect of it it makes it difficult to continue until that piece is back. Love (in my opinion) is trust, honesty, respect and interest in one another. But personally i feel that you really can't fall out of love, that either you loved them and you are just upset with everything that love isn't the focus or that you never really loved them in that way. -bobcat *strictly my own opinion

spanklette -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:37:15 PM)
Thanks for noticing the pic! And, it's just so hard to disinguish between all of it...in addition to being in emotional turmoil just from the confusion of it all. Well, it just makes everything so much more difficult. Really, it's just something that I'm trying to work out in my own mind, and sometimes writing things out on the boards and seeing them in black and white helps the process. It's also nice to have other opinions on the matter at hand. And, of course, thanks for the well wishes.[:)]

spanklette -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:39:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PrizedPosession i think that love is a lot of things and sometimes when one loses one aspect of it it makes it difficult to continue until that piece is back. Love (in my opinion) is trust, honesty, respect and interest in one another. But personally i feel that you really can't fall out of love, that either you loved them and you are just upset with everything that love isn't the focus or that you never really loved them in that way. -bobcat strictly my own opinion I dunno...I like to think that being "in love" is when the sum is more than its parts...it's that something extra...lagniappe, if you will.[;)]*

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:41:30 PM)
wonders what love is....never happened to me yet.... but i have to ask ..if you fall on your back...wouldnt you be in too much pain to love??? and why not fall forward in love??? cause you'd hit your head!!!

MistressOfGa -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:45:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: venusinblu For me, no - not after the respect has gone ... for me, love and respect goes hand in glove. Can anyone say trust? Once it is gone, is there any hope of regaining it and the love that it destroys?

CuriousLord -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:45:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spanklette That's it...is it possible or does being "in love" just run it's course? It can be an on/off sorta deal in my experience. Love, though, is a very draining emotion on the body's resources (I believe), so I think there has to be some downtime to it. Not that there can't still be affection, but full-blown love isn't a constant thing. Of course, it's vital to have something else compelling a couple to stay together. Hopefully, it's something happy, like a strong friendship and/or mutual interests. Still, it can be something more ball-and-chain-ish, like a mutual responsibility to children. (Not that it's bad having children helping to keep a relationship together, just it would be a shame if it was the only thing.)

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:49:19 PM)
No.. never deserved my respect to begin with, now he deserves it even less.. Fall back in love.. NO

fluffyswitch -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 5:55:01 PM)
part of it too, for me, is that there are so many different types of love. i can love a person one way one day and then love them a different way another. i love at least one of my exes--but in a completely different manner than when i was with hym. would i get back together with hym? not on your life, there was a reason that he and i didn't work out. but that doesn't mean that i don't love hym now. it's just a completely different form from when we were together.

lauren0221 -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 6:08:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spanklette quote: ORIGINAL: lauren0221 I think it depends a lot on why you fell out of love. It would be a whole lot easier if there was a smoking gun.. Take good care of yourself , and make sure you make decisions based on how things are, not how you want them to be.

mysdimenor -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 6:11:32 PM)
love has a different meaning for all of us but i think too many ppl are afraid to either love or be loved and we spend to much time NOT telling others that we love them or allowing them to love us. why is it that falling out of love is easier than falling in love again? love is simple. its the other bullshit that gets in the way ;pxxx

PrizedPosession -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 6:12:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spanklette quote: ORIGINAL: PrizedPosession i think that love is a lot of things and sometimes when one loses one aspect of it it makes it difficult to continue until that piece is back. Love (in my opinion) is trust, honesty, respect and interest in one another. But personally i feel that you really can't fall out of love, that either you loved them and you are just upset with everything that love isn't the focus or that you never really loved them in that way. -bobcat strictly my own opinion I dunno...I like to think that being "in love" is when the sum is more than its parts...it's that something extra...lagniappe, if you will.[;)]* hehe word of the day...it is something extra i kind of meant that when you have all those things it just comes. i don't know its complicated...it's love after all[:D]

Raechard -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 6:16:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mysdimenor love has a different meaning for all of us but i think too many ppl are afraid to either love or be loved and we spend to much time NOT telling others that we love them or allowing them to love us. why is it that falling out of love is easier than falling in love again? love is simple. its the other bullshit that gets in the way ;pxxx I concur with this statement mysdimenor, it speaks to me in volumes.[8\|]

MzMia -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 6:23:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spanklette That's it...is it possible or does being "in love" just run it's course? Oh I know you can fall back in love, but a lot of it has to do with WHY you stopped being in love to begin with. IF that is not dealt with or addressed, past history tends to always repeat itself.

domiguy -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 6:29:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch No.. never deserved my respect to begin with, now he deserves it even less.. Fall back in love.. NO Not every post is about your ex....If nothing else the way you act towards him cannot help one to consider whether it has less to do with him and more to do with you. I don't see him ridiculing you every chance that he gets. Just seems odd.

OedipusRexIt -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 8:48:49 PM)
My compliments to the OP for an excellent, timeless question. With no other caveat than "we're all different", I say YES!!! It's happened to me, it's happened to others I know. And I personally think we should all believe in it, whether we've witnessed it or not. Call me crazy....

spanklette -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 9:09:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OedipusRexIt My compliments to the OP for an excellent, timeless question. With no other caveat than "we're all different", I say YES!!! It's happened to me, it's happened to others I know. And I personally think we should all believe in it, whether we've witnessed it or not. Call me crazy.... Yay! I found one of CM's "timeless" questions...do I get some sort of prize?!?! I guess, after thinking about this some...I think that it is possible for me to fall back in love, but now I need to start loking at motives. I told someone in a note on the other side that I wish someone would just drop by and give me all of the right answers...

SugarMyChurro -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 10:05:14 PM)
I didn't really any other posts here, just skimming... Being "in love" is a hormone-induced wank. It's great! For a fortnight... FRIAR LAURENCE: These violent delights have violent ends And in their triumph die, like fire and powder, Which as they kiss consume: the sweetest honey Is loathsome in his own deliciousness And in the taste confounds the appetite: Therefore love moderately; long love doth so; Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow. -- "Romeo and Juliet" by William Shakespeare What I prefer to being "in love" is being in a "loving" relationship. It's not a roller-coaster. It's not a sprint. It's a marathon distance kind of thing. Two people looking down the same road and traveling down it together. Strongly, quietly, enduringly...

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/27/2008 10:12:05 PM)
The good news is that you know as long as you are confused and aren't sure, then you aren't going to make any decisions. There's no rush. Time can be a wonderful way to get perspective. Allow it to be your guide here.

heartcream -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/28/2008 12:32:08 AM)
There are folks I know who split up and then got back together, and the relationship is better than ever. They are as completely bonded as two humans can be these days. For me, I see it as right place, right time. If this guy is meant to be with you again, you will get back together whenever the time is right. If not, there is nothing to be done about it, except to deal with, and heal the pain and anguish of heartbreak. Time does heal and Life will bring you somewhere else, to someone else.

divi -> RE: Can you fall back in love? (1/28/2008 4:13:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch No.. never deserved my respect to begin with, now he deserves it even less.. Fall back in love.. NO very well said Domi Not every post is about your ex....If nothing else the way you act towards him cannot help one to consider whether it has less to do with him and more to do with you. I don't see him ridiculing you every chance that he gets. Just seems odd.

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