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Equation of compatibility between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:04:40 PM

petpete

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Over the year that i have almost been in this group i have found out that the simple maths equation theory also apply when it comes to finding suitable partners of the lifestyle. As a submissive with limited practising abilities i find that the contacts that i get have any other motivation then the lifestyle itself. Is it true?? Do others have the same experiences with myself? Or is it just me cause i have been quite outspoken to my community and the (D)onut sisterhood is cracking jokes on me?

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:08:11 PM

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i swear i'm not trying to be offensive or harsh...But, honestly, i have no freaking idea what You are talking about...Perhpas i'm too stupid to get this one..
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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:14:07 PM

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ok.. Let me put it in simple words.. Say your a guy like myself with lets say you have only a need to be submissive as NO pain NO cbt no whatsoever.. And all of the sudden a D you find that you click with a "D" that Her profile states that they are into all that and more... Wont you ask yourself why you can be a potential candidate??? What is the motive??? It is clear that you do not fit the criteria to the requirements..

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:16:20 PM

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I'd suggest you clarify your overall point, but...

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i have found out that the simple maths equation theory also apply when it comes to finding suitable partners of the lifestyle. [...] Is it true??

It seems online matching services such as eHarmony.com are suggesting this; according to them, it's working. If this is true, then, yes, it's been scientifically verified.

Largely, Math is a language of description. Someone with some sense to them should be able to draw out equations for better likelihoods to matches.

The thing you had in the thead title, though, seems to roughly read as, "Are submissives less than, equal to, or greater than Dominants?" :P

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:16:33 PM

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Uhm...Well....No....Because i don't assume that every D type that contacts me either wants me or wants fuck me.....Secondly, there are things i wasn't interested in before i got with Him, that well.....frankly, fascinate me....So, i guess i don't spend a lot of time worrying about the hows or whys of it...

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:16:37 PM

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OP: Do others have the same experiences with myself?

Uh....I don't know. Did I meet you on a hot and dusty night in San Antone?

And no, Kalista, you aren't stupid. Unintelligible is unintelligible. Period.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/23/2008 11:18:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: petpete

ok.. Let me put it in simple words.. Say your a guy like myself with lets say you have only a need to be submissive as NO pain NO cbt no whatsoever.. And all of the sudden a D you find that you click with a "D" that Her profile states that they are into all that and more... Wont you ask yourself why you can be a potential candidate??? What is the motive??? It is clear that you do not fit the criteria to the requirements..

Ah! So Domme's do this, too? Hah, I thought it was gender-based.. maybe it's Dominance-based.. Or perhaps it's just general?

Anyhow, many people are known to just message people, even if they're not compatiable.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:05:36 AM

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..
Actually if your short fat and stumpy it wont work even if you bent backwards from the female point of view that is looking at the male...

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RE: Equation of compatibility between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:18:42 AM

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Well, it's really hard to build something which is solid and lasting if you and your potential partner don't have at least a similar set of blueprints from the get go.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:22:12 AM

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*Hug.* You'll find the right girl sometime. Trust me, you're not such a bad guy. You just need to find a girl who understands you.

Until then, it might be best if you made some friends you can share affection with. They'll be able to keep you company when you feel down and lonely. Eventually, you'll find this girl.

If I'm hard to understand, please tell me, and I'll attempt to emulate your speach.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:26:06 AM

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Thanks CL.. Its not that i am lonely, i'm just trying to put a puzzle together, and You dont know how bad i can be...

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:31:00 AM

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Hah, oh, man, I doubt anyone of us will ever really figure it out. As you know, we all just keep guessing and trying 'til something works, then we try to figure out what worked and stick with it. :P

You can be bad, though, eh? I'm not sure how it works with Domme's and male subs.. but if a female sub walked up to me naked with a whip in hand and told me that she's been "Baddd..." Well, she'd never be bad again. ;) Could be fun to try sometime, heh.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:37:47 AM

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Well the fact that i feel like the underdog whop has to protect myself from psycho's (with the excemption of You), hey...Wont it make me a bit weary??thiss is not just a basic vanilla relationship where each partner deals on equal terms. Feeling submissive makes me want to relinquish all my rights and powers to the one i can feel compatable with.. And if i see signs ofinstabilityy, bloody oath you'll see me kicking a storm!!

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:41:34 AM

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Ah, that's the sort of relationship I typically go for.

I have a lovely slave I'm really quite happy with. She's entirely submissive.. she basically lives by every little thing I say. However, I'm not into sadomasochism, so I never hit her or humilate her, just.. well, she's my slave. :P (Maybe "pet" would be a better word?)

M/s relationships are neat, but in the BDSM world, sadomasochism is probably more vital to BDSM than D/s and M/s. I wonder if there's a more non-sadomasochistic counterpart to CollarMe out there?

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:45:49 AM

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Pete if you find yourself trying to make it happen or weary, take a break. It can be frustrating and disheartening after awhile. I think many experience that. However, I have found trying to convince yourself that you can live without or with something you really aren't interested in doesn't end the search it just prolongs the inevitable restarting when that relationship fails.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:48:39 AM

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Well, that's the type of relationship i am looking for.. i dont mind punishment and light humiliation but i clearly state on my profile that i am straight as a door nail and not a masochist yet i get intimidated by some D's telling me that i am a vanilla guy... WTF!!!!????

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:54:10 AM

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If someone approaches you wanting to fill your head with dogma that doesn't fit for you, don't take the time to ponder their reasoning, walk away. You are a human being with needs, not a role.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 12:56:12 AM

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They may have a decent point. While you're very submissive, this may not be fully BDSM.. which can be a good thing!

You know I've never found a sub I've liked for very long in the BDSM community? (Not that I've dated, I should say.) They've all been vanilla girls that I've tamed. ;)

My point being that your chances are fairly decent of finding a girl to dominate you in the vanilla world. For people who are into being tied up for long periods while having someone drain their blood and smack them, calling them a whore and inviting other people over to do the same.. well, these sorts of communities are their only real option. But for those of us with things in common with the vanilla world? We have a real chance to find partners out there.

Finding partners in the vanilla world's definately my first choice. :P

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 1:02:20 AM

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You have a point laurell, but peoples opinions should be taken under consideration to some extent.. It doesn't mean that i do listen and follow what they say.. Of course i have to weigh what is said so i know who i can be compatable with.

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RE: Equation between s<=>{D} - 1/24/2008 1:03:56 AM

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Of course pete, but saying you are vanilla because you don't fit their desires is silly and not exactly a good insult in my opinion. There are plenty of people in the lifestyle that are not masochists or bisexual that are not vanilla.

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